jules_pl's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.5
This book gives great insight on relationships and how different needs of our partners can drive us to specific behaviours. It describes attachments styles, you can test which one you have/your partner has and how to deal with it, which will make your current or future relationship more successful.
One thing I would change about this book is to not focus so much on heteronormative couples - I like the given examples/stories on relationships but I think almost 100% are heterosexual. Would be great to read stories about same sex couples.
One thing I would change about this book is to not focus so much on heteronormative couples - I like the given examples/stories on relationships but I think almost 100% are heterosexual. Would be great to read stories about same sex couples.
Moderate: Emotional abuse
zombiezami's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
reflective
4.0
This was a really helpful and approachable introduction to the topic of attachment styles. I understand my own attachment style better, and I can better understand why certain past relationships happened the way that they did.
The book is rather heteronormative, though. Also, I feel like, by focusing on attachment styles as a sole cause of friction in relationships, they overlook when conflicts are a result of outright abuse, rather than incompatibility or different intimacy needs. The relationship with Craig in Chapter 10 strikes me as very verbally abusive, for example.
I also wish that the authors had gone into more detail about the anxious-avoidant attachment style. Other than saying it was really rare, they didn't seem to give many (or any) examples of it.
The book is rather heteronormative, though. Also, I feel like, by focusing on attachment styles as a sole cause of friction in relationships, they overlook when conflicts are a result of outright abuse, rather than incompatibility or different intimacy needs. The relationship with Craig in Chapter 10 strikes me as very verbally abusive, for example.
I also wish that the authors had gone into more detail about the anxious-avoidant attachment style. Other than saying it was really rare, they didn't seem to give many (or any) examples of it.
Graphic: Toxic relationship
Moderate: Misogyny, Emotional abuse, Sexism, and Gaslighting
Minor: Infidelity, Sexual content, Cursing, and Pregnancy
vivikasweiven's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
informative
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced
4.5
Minor: Toxic relationship, Gaslighting, and Emotional abuse
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