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Een klein leven by Hanya Yanagihara

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karkei's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional hopeful reflective sad medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

Where does one start with this book? 

I can hardly conceive that life can be so harsh to one person. My heart goes out to Jude. He’s a character that you constantly want to protect. How privileged we are that most of us may never truly understand the full depths of what Jude has gone through. 

I will not pretend to be an angel though. There were many points that I got frustrated at Jude, like “Can’t you see how you are hurting the people you love? Can’t you see how much they are doing for you?” But then, I come back to myself and I feel guilty - I’m no better than JB, all self centered and discounting Jude in his entirety. Or maybe worse, because JB doesn’t actually know what happened to Jude and I do 🥲

I like to think that just with the people who love him though, loving someone is taking all of them. I love Jude and I care for him and hence, I wanted him to see himself as worthy and I wanted him to survive and be happy. 

What I originally thought was a story about Jude, however, ends up being a story about Willem. And where do I start with this? 

Willem, you are the most patient, kind, loving character.
I did not see that accident coming and I truly mourned for you.
You gave Jude so much love and were so understanding. Most people couldn’t have done what you did. 

To Harold and Andy, you also have a special place in my heart. 

A Little Life was a book I was scared to pick up because all I heard about it was that it was highly traumatic. While there was trauma, however, this book went way beyond that for me. It is a reminder of how unforgiving but beautiful life can be and how fortunate we should all be for our little lives ❤️ 

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un_okay's review against another edition

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dark emotional reflective sad slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

From the many TikTok’s of people bawling their eyes out whilst reading this, I knew what I was getting myself into from the start.

However, I did not know I would find such a raw and unique portrayal of (adult) (mostly male) friendships. The writing, characters, pace, book, etc were so refreshing (though of course tragically sad - you know what and when) yet an almost familiar depiction of, life.

The good years, the bad, 600 odd pages of life - all of which I want to dissect, relive and shout into the ether about.

-0.5 for sadness and respect for the characters but truly the book is a 5/5

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jetti's review against another edition

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challenging emotional sad tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
Also wenn du willst, dass dein Herz in hundert Teile zerschmettert wird und immer wieder auf den Teilen rum getrampelt wird, dann ist das Buch vermutlich das richtige für dich.

Grundsätzlich werde diesem Buch keine Sterne Bewertung geben. 

Es ist ein wirklich gutes Buch was aber nichts für schwache Nerven ist. Die sehr genau Beschreibungen von selbstverletzungen sind wirklich nicht für jeden was. Und auch wenn ich das Buch wirklich gut finde, finde ich es schwierig es anderen Leuten weiter zu empfehlen.

Ich möchte keinem Buch eine 4-5 Sterne Bewertung geben, wenn ich Weis wie viele schreckliche Themen angesprochen werden. Ich habe wirklich mehrfach überlegen müssen ob ich das Buch abbrechen soll oder nicht. Jedoch sind mir die Charaktere viel zu sehr ans Herz gewachsen und ich konnte einfach nicht mehr abbrechen. Ich musste wissen wie die Geschichte ausgeht. 
Die detaillierten Beschreibungen von Selbstverleugnung und auch Kindesmisshandlungen haben mich aber auch dazu gebracht, diesen Buch nur eine schriftliche Bewertung zu geben.

Faktisch gesehen ist das Buch wirklich gut. Ich habe alle Charaktere geliebt und vor allem auch das Zusammenspiel aus Vergangenheit und Gegenwart.

Man wird erstmal rein geworfen und Weis erst nicht genau, wer eigentlich der Main Protagonist ist. Bis es dann irgendwann sehr klar wird. Es wird judes Lebensgeschichte erzählt. Von frühester Kindheit bis ins erwachsenen Leben hinein. Und eben auch was ihm alles passiert ist. Und oh jude. Ich habe dich so oft innerlich angeschrien!

Ich hatte mehrfach die Hoffnung, dass du jetzt ENDLICH mit jemanden redest und es dir endlich besser geht. Doch jedes Mal wenn ich Hoffnung hatte, hat das Buch mich weiter zerstört. Der erste Punkt der mich zerbrochen hat, war der mit Caleb. Wie kann jemand wir jude nur an so einen kommen! Dann waren wieder Punkte wo ich dachte ENDLICH gerade als die Beziehung mit Willem begonnen hatte. Und dann kam der Autounfall. Wirklich. Wie oft kann einem das Herz beim lesen eines Buches gebrochen werden? Das war ja schlimmer als bei „Das Lied des Achilles“!
Nach vielen Schwierigkeiten die die beiden in ihrer Beziehung hatten, haben sie endlich einen Kompromiss gefunden, ein Leben wie es funktionieren kann und dann das. Das war der Punkt der jude gebrochen hat und auch mein Herz endgültig! 
Jude ist in dem Buch viel gutes aber auch viel schlimmes widerfahren. Ich habe mich so bei der Adoption von Harold gefreut. Oder auch wie viele Freunde er hatte.

Das am Ende Harold und JD alle überlebt haben war ein schreckliches aber auch passendes Ende. 


Ob ich mir je wieder ein so grausames und gleich schönes Buch anhöre/lese Weis ich nicht.

Ich brauch jetzt erstmal wieder eine schön schnulzige Liebesgeschichte mit Happy End!

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mochiwaffles's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5


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lisamayradb's review against another edition

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emotional sad slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0


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cerysvy's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional sad slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0


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captdummy's review against another edition

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dark emotional reflective sad tense slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0


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rea_195's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional sad medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

REVIEW WITH SPOILERS

There is a lot to say about this book, so I'll start with the things that i didn't like and end with the things that I did.

Didn't: 
1) First thing that I disliked was how much trauma Jude has gone throught and how it ruined the realism of the book. When Jude escaped the home and we find out everything that has happened to him, it just made me sad, confused and pissed. Hasn't he been through enough, what was the point and why did the author decide to do that, because as much as it hurt me, it took me out od the story those parts just felt too unrealistic. It is impossible that in 16 years of his life he hasn't ran into someone decent enough to help him, someone who is not a pedophile and a rapist.
2) Repetitiveness. I know that is the whole point, but some Judes thoughts felt a little too repetitive in the end. It was okay at first, but coming close to the end of the book it was too much for me. We already know Jude, we know how much his work means to him and the way he feels like a whole person there, so I think that those thoughts were a bit unnecessery and the only reason i put this here was because I feel like it would be better to remove some of those parts and replace them with a story of another character.
3) And here is the last part that I didn't like and it's connected with part 2) which is lack of another charachters stories. When the book started, we were immediately introduced to JB, Malcolm and Willem. And through the book that gets lost, we do get more of Willem though, but what about JB and Malcom!!! I was really invested in JBs addiction story and when that part ended he wasn't mentioned anymore that deeply, also we get a brief moments for Malcom and him not being sure about his sexuality and him deciding if he wants to get married, but that's all. 

Liked:
I really liked the characters and how complex they were. From the very beginning it feels like they are real people and that you are indeed reading about someones life, someones thoughts, beliefs, dreams and doubts. Because of that, the book feels so raw and real(if you ignore the happy years, chapter 2). And in the end I was so devastated, because of the way it ended and that it ended, meaning that I won't get to read more about the people, characters I fell in love with and just for that reason I know that I'll hold a lot of them near to my heart. Another thing that stood out to me was the pacing and the unknowns of the time. Time wasn't determined by days, years but with events, seasons and holidays. The writing was immaculate, I loved the way the author explained emotions and explored characters. There were a lot of parts that hit very hard and you feel it deeply, but there are also funny moments that make you laugh and some parts that you can relate to. Considering that the book is so long I never felt bored reading it or not wanting to pick it up, I don't know how that's possible, but somehow it is. For me the title represents all lives, because after sometime no one will remember you and it will be like you have never existed at all, but that is not the point, to be remembered, the point is that you got through the bad times and lived your life to the fullest, it was indeed little, but its yours and you should cherish it. Overall I loved the book and I will never forget it.

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dallas_reads's review against another edition

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This book was graphic in a lot of it’s description even this early and I’m not currently in a headspace to continue reading it right now. 

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mollymccreedy's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional sad slow-paced
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
It truly is one graphic, violent, awful thing after another in this book, with just enough hope dotted here and there to keep you reading.

This book should not be recommended lightly and people should absolutely be informed of what they're getting into before reading it.

At the time, I thought this was the best novel I had ever read, and I have a deep love and appreciation for that view, but the more I sit with this book and listen to what others have to say, I understand and appreciate how deeply troubling and harmful this book is. I was sobbing every 20 pages (no lie) and it took me MONTHS to get though this. It broke me in so many ways and it took me a long time to pick up another book after finishing this one.

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