Reviews with content warning for Torture - Een klein leven

oh my i am conflicted. understand the criticism deeply, have yet to watch interviews with the author and tbh we'll see if i do! but! my oh my! what effortlessly beautiful writing and what beautiful explorations of human relationships. the dynamics of the (mostly) loveable main characters are so fascinating to me. the beauty of jude slowly learning to stop self-sabotaging his relationships with harold and willem and andy. beautiful. however. i wanted a lot more from jb and especially malcom, and some side characters deserved better development (richard, people at the law firm, caleb, maybe even ana? though I didn't mind some being less developed and simply reappearing names!)

oh and how powerful the ending would have been. if despite everything, despite all the trauma, jude still decided to live. what is the book saying by having him kill himself at the end? some experienced trauma is too unrecoverable for people? i guess I just find that level of pessimism disappointing. gotta think on it more.

i think simply reducing this novel to trauma porn is incredibly reductive of a lot of the work it puts into exploring.. well.. the little moments in life. the people who make the days worth living. yea idk. i think i liked a lot of this, but it left a really uncomfortable distaste in my mouth. man.

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nicole_switzer's review against another edition

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dark emotional reflective sad slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

A little life is a beautiful depiction of the horrible, deeply troubling life of the MC, Jude St. Francis. The writing in this book has such an incredible, rhythmic beauty about it. It makes the saddest, most devastating scenes so exquisite. The metaphors and similes are wildly imaginative. The story unfolds in a complicated web of multiple timelines, back and forth in a way that, at first, made my head spin. However, as I got more into the book, it was easier to understand.

I do think that TikTok overhypes this book. It was beautiful and a devastating story, but it was (occasionally) predictable and a little repetitive. By the time I hit page 650/700, I found there wasn't anything new or interesting to be said. I struggled through the last 100-150 page, as they were nearly the same page again and again and again.

It is a beautiful book, well worth the read. I am glad I had it on both audiobook and physical copy though. I would recommend the mixed media method. Also, please check your triggers before reading this book. Triggers for SA, self-harm, suicide and nearly everything in between.

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clarard's review against another edition

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dark emotional reflective sad tense medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.5

This book has left me crying and with my heart broken both times I've read it.
A Little Life starts with four friends who just moved to New York City after finishing college and are trying to achieve their respective dreams. Sounds like a fun, coming of age novel, right? Truth is, it can't be more different.

Spoiler!
Throughout the book, we'll slowly learn all these characters' story, especially Willem's, and, obviously, Jude's. The book will revolve aroud his past, the effects trauma has on him, and, why not, his present day struggles, as if he hadn't suffered enough as a child.
Now, don't get me wrong, the depiction of abuse and horror is excellent, as well as Yanagihara's understanding on how pedophiles manipulate kids.
I also enjoyed the difficulties people around Jude go through, since it is very difficult to trust and love a person who is so secretive and who refuses to share anything about his past or ask for professional help.
However, it lacks reality. For example: Andy, despite knowing Jude's problem with self-harm, does not warn anyone around him or forces him to go see a therapist. I don't think doctors are legally allowed to ignore over and over again their patient's need for psychological help.
We know the characters in their 20's and the book ends when they're in their 50's, yet there's no mention of any historical event. I understand that Hanya wants us to focus on the characters, and I get that mentioning every single thing that happens is impossible and -let's be honest- boring. But how can there be no mention of 9/11, when they live in New York City? Not a single person they know is affected by it? Or the Vietnam War? Or even the Year 2000 Problem? Not a single conversation about any of that?
Also, please stop considering it the "great gay novel". I don't even know where did that come from, but I feel thinking of this book like that is like laughing on Jude's face or ignoring everything that has happened to him.
Last but not least, the characters except maybe JB (sometimes), are all good or bad. Either they are the kindest, purest souls to ever exist, lovable and who don't deserve any bad thing; or they belong to hell, you hope they die suffering and in pain.

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So
I didn't like this book (who can like 1000 pages of abuse, violence, pain, more violence, more pain?). The writing is brilliant, I loved the characters - there's the secret recipe for it to be such a devastating story. But, even knowing it was Hanya's intention to show us happiness is not promised to any of us and that we shouldn't always expect a happy ending (I agree with both things), reading the torture Jude goes through is sometimes unbereable. I'm usually not disgusted or in need to have a break when reading a book, but with this one I had to stop more than once, go have a drink or go for a walk to analyse what I had just read. It's complicated to give a rating. I feel like a person could give it 5 stars or 1, and I'd agree with them.

Warning and my advice
Do not read it if you're going through a hard time! I waited some months to read the book after receiving this advice, and honestly, I think it's my duty to share it.
Read all its trigger warnings, please, and if you're sensible with some of them, especially the first ones you'll see (there are VERY explicit scenes that are repeated several times), I'd recommend you to wait or to not read it. It's not worth it.

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evax89's review against another edition

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dark sad tense slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? No
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

made me feel like i was going to vomit the first half of the book, the other half i was just wanting it to be over. I understand that these stories need to be told but then on the other side, what did i take away from it? what did i learn? As Andrea Long Chu in her Article for “The Vulture” wrote: “The book’s omniscient narrator seems to be protecting Jude, cradling him in her cocktail-party asides and winding digressions, keeping him alive for a stunning 800 pages. This is not sadism; it is closer to Munchausen by proxy.”

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