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kaylaswhitmore's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? N/A
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
I find myself, upon finishing the book, recalling so many moments during my korean-american upbringing listening to my mom process how she wished she weren’t Korean, how she forbade me to marry a Korean man, how she never wanted to return to Korea… Some of those sentiments have changed for her since then, though not all, and as a 26yo married woman, fast approaching the time to begin a family, I found this book a really harrowing and brutal memoir of Korean society and patriarchal society at large. Yes, Korea is unique to its own culture and atmosphere—but sadly, even as an American, I could relate to far more than I wanted to be able to.
I can only imagine how many little nuggets of gold were lost in the translation of this book from Korean to English. Still, Nam-joo’s unflinching portrait of misogyny and motherhood is both chilling and humbling. It brings to light questions of progress, how to bring about progress, even who can truly drive progress. And the end is unapologetically realistic. But even then, the thread of hope—of feminine unity—that persists throughout her narrative gives hope. It’s all the women along the way that hold us up, bring us to the light. It’s the women who are afraid, yet still speak, the women who are small, but make themselves big that inspire us. We can be that for each other, and one day, the fight won’t be so hard.
I highly recommend this read to women and men of any background, though unfortunately, the men who need to read it most will probably not bother.
Graphic: Mental illness, Misogyny, Sexism, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Bullying, Cursing, Miscarriage, Grief, Stalking, Abortion, and Alcohol
Minor: Body shaming, Fatphobia, Infertility, and Classism
shaleen64's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
4.0
It covers a range of sexism related issues, without brushing over any of them, in very few pages.
Unfortunately, it’s a book all women will in some way relate to and one all men should read to consider the impact of their actions or lack thereof.
Graphic: Misogyny and Sexism
Moderate: Mental illness, Sexual assault, Medical content, Pregnancy, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Infertility, Infidelity, and Miscarriage
ericispublius's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.75
Graphic: Misogyny, Sexism, Sexual assault, Stalking, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Emotional abuse, Infertility, and Abortion
Minor: Death of parent
leonorb's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
5.0
Moderate: Infertility, Mental illness, Abortion, Pregnancy, and Sexual harassment
navayiota's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Misogyny, Sexism, Stalking, and Pregnancy
Moderate: Bullying, Infertility, Mental illness, Medical content, and Alcohol
Minor: Injury/Injury detail
flaminghotchertos's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? N/A
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Graphic: Bullying, Death, Domestic abuse, Infertility, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Stalking, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Pregnancy, Alcohol, and Sexual harassment
marianaribeiro's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
3.75
Graphic: Infertility, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Sexism, Stalking, Abortion, Pregnancy, and Sexual harassment
mxbenjaminrose's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.5
Graphic: Misogyny and Sexism
Moderate: Death
Minor: Infertility and Abortion
froggybooks's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
5.0
Graphic: Mental illness, Misogyny, Pregnancy, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Infertility, Miscarriage, and Vomit
flowingleaves's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Graphic: Infertility, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Sexism, Medical content, Pregnancy, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Bullying and Abortion