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kaylaswhitmore's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? N/A
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
I find myself, upon finishing the book, recalling so many moments during my korean-american upbringing listening to my mom process how she wished she weren’t Korean, how she forbade me to marry a Korean man, how she never wanted to return to Korea… Some of those sentiments have changed for her since then, though not all, and as a 26yo married woman, fast approaching the time to begin a family, I found this book a really harrowing and brutal memoir of Korean society and patriarchal society at large. Yes, Korea is unique to its own culture and atmosphere—but sadly, even as an American, I could relate to far more than I wanted to be able to.
I can only imagine how many little nuggets of gold were lost in the translation of this book from Korean to English. Still, Nam-joo’s unflinching portrait of misogyny and motherhood is both chilling and humbling. It brings to light questions of progress, how to bring about progress, even who can truly drive progress. And the end is unapologetically realistic. But even then, the thread of hope—of feminine unity—that persists throughout her narrative gives hope. It’s all the women along the way that hold us up, bring us to the light. It’s the women who are afraid, yet still speak, the women who are small, but make themselves big that inspire us. We can be that for each other, and one day, the fight won’t be so hard.
I highly recommend this read to women and men of any background, though unfortunately, the men who need to read it most will probably not bother.
Graphic: Mental illness, Misogyny, Sexism, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Bullying, Cursing, Miscarriage, Grief, Stalking, Abortion, and Alcohol
Minor: Body shaming, Fatphobia, Infertility, and Classism
shaleen64's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
4.0
It covers a range of sexism related issues, without brushing over any of them, in very few pages.
Unfortunately, it’s a book all women will in some way relate to and one all men should read to consider the impact of their actions or lack thereof.
Graphic: Misogyny and Sexism
Moderate: Mental illness, Sexual assault, Medical content, Pregnancy, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Infertility, Infidelity, and Miscarriage
vikiskiwis's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Sexism and Sexual harassment
Minor: Miscarriage
callmeneeks's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
3.5
Graphic: Misogyny, Sexism, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Miscarriage, Vomit, and Abortion
jetix's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Misogyny
Moderate: Pregnancy and Sexual harassment
Minor: Miscarriage and Vomit
jana_f's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Mental illness
Moderate: Abortion and Sexual harassment
Minor: Miscarriage
mardana's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.25
This is a book, that should predominantly be read by men. But I doubt, that many a man will pick it up.
Moderate: Misogyny, Sexism, Pregnancy, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Bullying, Mental illness, Miscarriage, and Alcohol
kathshiroma's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Body shaming, Misogyny, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Miscarriage and Abortion
bethancy's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.0
Graphic: Miscarriage, Misogyny, and Abortion
Moderate: Sexual violence, Pregnancy, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Body shaming and Alcohol
lizetteratura's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.5
Graphic: Misogyny, Sexism, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Mental illness
Minor: Miscarriage and Abortion