Reviews tagging 'Ableism'

Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski

3 reviews

novella42's review against another edition

emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0

Fantastic book! Lots of good stuff about sexuality, body images, breaking down gender role binaries, and how change works for people over time. (A whole chapter on "but I want my partner to change! Now!" and why it doesn't work that way.) I learned a lot but also felt like it was an accessible read. 

It builds on her first book Come As You Are, but you can start with this one first.

Though the book doesn't set out to explain polyamory, it does that on the way to get where it's going, and I truly appreciated the respectful, no-nonsense depictions of healthy relationships in that context. Lots of really good advice for both monogamous and nonmonogamous people. It does a good job of framing polyam as something that can take a lot of work, and offers great communication tips for both styles. I honestly think it's what I'm gonna recommend for people who ask me about polyam to fix their relationship problems. (Hint, if you have problems in your relationship, adding more people is not the solution you think it will be!)

At any rate, I loved this book. I originally got the hardcopy but ended up borrowing the audiobook from the library to make headway while life got busy. The audiobook is great, full of Nagoski's classic empathy and nonjudgmental hilarity. 

I'm so so grateful I read it!

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Misogyny, Sexism, Sexual content, Pregnancy, and Dysphoria

Moderate: Miscarriage

Minor: Ableism, Body shaming, Cancer, Chronic illness, Cursing, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, and Blood

imstephtacular's review against another edition

challenging emotional funny informative medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexism and Sexual content

Moderate: Medical content

Minor: Ableism, Body shaming, Cancer, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Cursing, Death, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Infertility, Mental illness, Racism, Rape, Sexual assault, Grief, Medical trauma, Pregnancy, Gaslighting, Injury/Injury detail, and Pandemic/Epidemic

skudiklier's review against another edition

hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0

I absolutely loved this book. I found it super interesting and I feel like it's helpful for people to read and think about even if you're not in the midst of an active problem you're trying to solve. Nagoski takes a radically open approach to things like sex, desire, and gender, and really breaks down a lot of the socially ingrained things people think they "should" feel or do with regard to sex. This is a perspective I think everyone needs to hear, and I took a lot of notes. Each chapter also helpfully has a tl;dr at the end so you can reference key points later.

Thank you to Netgalley and Ballantine Books for the chance to read and review this ARC.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content

Moderate: Sexism and Sexual violence

Minor: Ableism, Mental illness, Racism, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, and Transphobia

moderate CW for PTSD/trauma