Reviews
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
rc_cola's review against another edition
5.0
One of the most important books on pleasure for those with vaginas and those who please them. Exploring bodies, brains, and the science that connects them, Nagoski will open your eyes to how context influences sexual desire. The book for individuals and couples to learn about sexuality and sexual pleasure.
logancoxx's review against another edition
3.0
3.5/5
This book was fun, very informative, and a decent audiobook experience (read by the author!). However, this is the kind of book you’d want to read more than once to get all the info and you’d want a physical copy handy to make notes, highlight, etc.
This book was fun, very informative, and a decent audiobook experience (read by the author!). However, this is the kind of book you’d want to read more than once to get all the info and you’d want a physical copy handy to make notes, highlight, etc.
jcinf's review against another edition
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced
4.5
For nonfiction, I really enjoyed this. I’m not a nonfiction girly, so it did take me a little while to get through.
But the narrator (I believe the author narrated) was really engaging. She had a great tone. Fun when it was time to be fun and serious when necessary, too.
SA (s*exual ass*ult) trigger warning. But those parts were super well written. I appreciated how she didn’t linger on those parts too long. It felt just enough to inform without being triggering.
My main complaint is that it felt redundant at times. Tho I can understand that she may have been redundant bc the whole point of the book is to shift narratives surrounding AFAB/women/femme people’s sex lives. And it’s hard to shift narratives rooted is misogyny with just a few sentences.
Main topics I loved:
• dropping the shame around sex
• normalizing a diversity labias
• understanding your style of desire — spontaneous or responsive
• changing your expectations of yourself during sex
Highly recommend to anyone like me, who gets in their head during sex sometimes.
But the narrator (I believe the author narrated) was really engaging. She had a great tone. Fun when it was time to be fun and serious when necessary, too.
SA (s*exual ass*ult) trigger warning. But those parts were super well written. I appreciated how she didn’t linger on those parts too long. It felt just enough to inform without being triggering.
My main complaint is that it felt redundant at times. Tho I can understand that she may have been redundant bc the whole point of the book is to shift narratives surrounding AFAB/women/femme people’s sex lives. And it’s hard to shift narratives rooted is misogyny with just a few sentences.
Main topics I loved:
• dropping the shame around sex
• normalizing a diversity labias
• understanding your style of desire — spontaneous or responsive
• changing your expectations of yourself during sex
Highly recommend to anyone like me, who gets in their head during sex sometimes.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Misogyny, Sexual content, Sexism, and Sexual violence
Moderate: Sexual assault
Minor: Ableism
samhdixon's review against another edition
emotional
funny
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0