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jellyflesh_'s review
2.0
This book had good tidbits of information which I noted, as well as journal prompts to work through, but her attitude throughout the book was frustrating. She seems to try not to blame the mothers that are manipulative, saying it is on us, as the daughter, to work through this without blame. I struggled through the “it is my (as the reader) fault that I told myself these things”, when that was not in fact what happened and feels very unrealistic.
gela_marie's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
fast-paced
3.25
abbie1512's review against another edition
informative
reflective
slow-paced
2.5
If I had read this 6 months ago I would have got more from it. Didn't really resonate with me.
seineph's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
relaxing
medium-paced
4.0
venti's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
fast-paced
3.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Emotional abuse
Minor: Eating disorder
tbix24's review
3.0
Re-read as it appears many of the people in my life have strained relationships with their mothers. As a mental health provider, it is important to read what your clients are reading and that was the first time I read this book.
I still have an “eh” relationship with this book, and life coaches for that matter. She states the importance of working together as both address different needs of a client but it does feel as though her relationship/view with therapy is negative. Some things she talks about that are so important with a difficult mother: boundaries. I feel that women raised by women who are abusive fail at knowing how to set boundaries and why they are not only important but necessary for one’s own mental health. What I don’t agree with is the lack of communication of a boundary. People cannot know they are crossing a boundary when we don’t state that, but giving them a consequence is unfair if they weren’t aware. I also constantly tell people we don’t owe anyone space in our lives, especially if they do not respect us and our boundaries. I also love that she touches on generational trauma/abuse. We are products of our parents who are products of theirs, etc.
The journaling in this is helpful. It also reminds us we are not alone in whatever mental health problems we are facing. Ending the stigma is huge in stopping the generational cycle. Relationships can be changed/mended- but not all need to be.
Overall it’s an ok read, but probably not one to take on it’s own. It can also cause some trauma responses, so reading it while being able to work through those is essential.
I still have an “eh” relationship with this book, and life coaches for that matter. She states the importance of working together as both address different needs of a client but it does feel as though her relationship/view with therapy is negative. Some things she talks about that are so important with a difficult mother: boundaries. I feel that women raised by women who are abusive fail at knowing how to set boundaries and why they are not only important but necessary for one’s own mental health. What I don’t agree with is the lack of communication of a boundary. People cannot know they are crossing a boundary when we don’t state that, but giving them a consequence is unfair if they weren’t aware. I also constantly tell people we don’t owe anyone space in our lives, especially if they do not respect us and our boundaries. I also love that she touches on generational trauma/abuse. We are products of our parents who are products of theirs, etc.
The journaling in this is helpful. It also reminds us we are not alone in whatever mental health problems we are facing. Ending the stigma is huge in stopping the generational cycle. Relationships can be changed/mended- but not all need to be.
Overall it’s an ok read, but probably not one to take on it’s own. It can also cause some trauma responses, so reading it while being able to work through those is essential.
leisap67's review
3.0
At first I was enthusiastic about reading this and then I felt that she had gotten to the point and just needed to finish.
I guess it’s basically just another Boundaries book, applying it to the Mother/Daughter relationship. Nothing I didn’t know, just a different way of saying it.
I guess it’s basically just another Boundaries book, applying it to the Mother/Daughter relationship. Nothing I didn’t know, just a different way of saying it.
teyn's review
2.0
Disappointing. Took me ages to plod through as some sections were triggering but I expected to finally hit nuggets of truth or advice, but this book was so full of the “power of positive thinking” that I nearly gave up on it all together. The author seems to have no concept for any type of experience beyond her own.