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The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman
4 reviews
joieaston's review
challenging
emotional
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Minor: Domestic abuse and Misogyny
berglindsh's review against another edition
informative
slow-paced
3.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexism and Misogyny
Moderate: Animal cruelty and Domestic abuse
starlight63's review against another edition
informative
slow-paced
4.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Misogyny
celine13_01's review
informative
1.0
I read this book in my book club. The whole theory of having five love languages is really interesting and it was really informative to find out more about it.Â
Nevertheless, there is a significant lack of representation of basically anything (race, class, non-traditional relationships, LGTBQ+, etc.), which really bothered me. All of the couples are married, white, middle-class and religious. Nearly every woman in the book was a stay-at-home- mother or housewife, while the husbands were the breadwinners. The kind of relationship, me and my boyfriend are in (long-term dating, living together but not married, both working full-time) ist not even addressed. Instead the book gives the message that you have to be married to actually have a proper relationship and getting married inevitably means becoming a stay-at-home wife after that.Â
Lastly, I also felt like the book included a lot of sexist and even mysogynistic statements, especially concerning sex in marriage. The whole idea of the love languages of physical touch being reduced to sex in many of the cases in the book and the fact that the author actually advised the wives to basically just give in to their husbands' physical needs, because they NEED sex and it makes them happy, is absolutely revolting to me. And also the fact that many of the husbands were frustrated with their wives saying "no" to sex and that nearly all of them addressed the issue as their main problem with the relationship, set me off a lot. I feel like the book is not up to date with its views on consent and sex in general.Â
Lastly, I also felt like there was not one truly inspiring relationship. The best things most couples had to say about each other was stuff like "He is a good provider/He takes care of our family" and "She is a great cook/She takes care of the kids". That made me a little sad to be honest as this was a book about love, fixing relationships and staying in love, even after many years.Â
Nevertheless, there is a significant lack of representation of basically anything (race, class, non-traditional relationships, LGTBQ+, etc.), which really bothered me. All of the couples are married, white, middle-class and religious. Nearly every woman in the book was a stay-at-home- mother or housewife, while the husbands were the breadwinners. The kind of relationship, me and my boyfriend are in (long-term dating, living together but not married, both working full-time) ist not even addressed. Instead the book gives the message that you have to be married to actually have a proper relationship and getting married inevitably means becoming a stay-at-home wife after that.Â
Lastly, I also felt like the book included a lot of sexist and even mysogynistic statements, especially concerning sex in marriage. The whole idea of the love languages of physical touch being reduced to sex in many of the cases in the book and the fact that the author actually advised the wives to basically just give in to their husbands' physical needs, because they NEED sex and it makes them happy, is absolutely revolting to me. And also the fact that many of the husbands were frustrated with their wives saying "no" to sex and that nearly all of them addressed the issue as their main problem with the relationship, set me off a lot. I feel like the book is not up to date with its views on consent and sex in general.Â
Lastly, I also felt like there was not one truly inspiring relationship. The best things most couples had to say about each other was stuff like "He is a good provider/He takes care of our family" and "She is a great cook/She takes care of the kids". That made me a little sad to be honest as this was a book about love, fixing relationships and staying in love, even after many years.Â
Content Warnings
Moderate: Misogyny and Sexism
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