Reviews tagging 'Toxic friendship'

etherealisnt's review

adventurous challenging dark emotional funny tense slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

I should've know that this would happen. The last time I binge-read through a book like this, I was stuck in that rabbit hole for months after (I still am). "Thousand Autumns" wasn't any different. In addition, I watched through the animated series, which still hasn't been finished, even though two years have passed. I would LOVE to get season 2... the series was very fun to watch and very eye-catching.

"But what about the book?" you ask.

This book is longer than The Bible (fun fact!!) and I for some reason thought that it would be a good idea to read through it as fast as possible. In reality I finished it in less than a week, but I sat on it for a long time, since I had plans to reread it. Now I'm waiting for the official English translations, which will be complete by summer 2024 (yay!!) and then I'm good to go. The book translations are in 5 parts, so I'll get to read through five books, which is probably better than the out of this world volume the original one has.

The story itself is a little insane (or very much so). Yan Wushi is such a brazen and striking character that even if he does something unlikable, you might find yourself fine with such happenings, because that man has a way to wiggle himself into your system. I don't know if I love him (I do, he is super interesting) or hate him, but I think that he's so much more than that, he is simply put fucking complex.

Everyone has evil intentions in their minds. The only difference is executing it or not. There's no need to criticize them so harshly.

While Yan Wushi did not believe in the good nature of humanity, we had his opposite, the epitome of goodness - Shen Qiao. He is better and stronger than I'll ever be, because what the fuck? Man had so many misfortunes and people with bad intentions surrounding him, yet he stayed true to his beliefs - considerate without waiting for anything in return. It felt so great to see him learn about the ways of the world and become wiser. Despite that, he was already so resilient from the beginning, he took everything life gave him and dealt with it (and he had to suffer A LOT, ok).

There are many people in this world — some of them are good, and some of them are bad. But there are even more who can't be simply classified as 'good' or 'bad'. They may not think in the same way you think, or walk the same path you walk.

Yan Wushi's only thought, of course, was to try and break that poor man, to prove that the world is full of evil, because "after thousands of autumns, who could stay eternal?". Truth be told, somehow their duo made sense, it might be the opposites thing, but it was just so good! The book can be a little intimidating, because of it's length, but in reality, it's too fun to feel boring. So many things happen, so many twists and turns, so many emotions. I literally cried when I finished the story. The ending chapters made me want to scream into a pillow. The end truly was crazy, but good crazy :D

And yet past dreams sought, people departed, what has passed will never return.

Just like some errors have no way of being remedied, some cracks will forever persist, and death, impossible to wake from.

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nikolama's review

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adventurous informative reflective medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.5

I really like the elaborate historical setting (this is historical fiction) where this was placed into, certainly made me interested in learning more about Chinese history. The novel also involves politics and their dynamic is not difficult to understand. I wonder if knowing the historical background beforehand would make for a better read. The writing is very beautiful and full off references to Chinese poetry and literature. I was fortunate enough to find a relatively good translation but I bet reading this novel in the language it was written in would have been a whole other experience. One of my favourite exerts from the novel:

"However, the tranquility he was experiencing now was a result of him going through the blasts, the storms, and all kinds of predicaments. When the raging waves ceased, the moon climbed up above the clouds, merging the water and the sky into the same colour. There were no waves, no ripples, no grief, nor happiness. It was like watching spring darkening the grass along the stone stairs or autumn thinning the layers of clouds upon the sky. It was like seeing a well reflecting the lonely lantern hanging above it or the moon shining on the colored glass below.

And also the novel wasn't short on funny moments and witty jokes

the fish ball sparring between Yan Wushi and Shen Qiao and then the fish head soup with green vegetables joke regarding one of the character's name made me laugh

I am also very happy that the novel has women as genuine characters and some of them are in positions of power. Essentially, the novel recognised the patriarchal system without the need to have graphic scenes of misogyny and discrimination. Instead it is able to simply imply it without resorting to unnecessary objectification and sexualisation.
I'm not very fond of the romance aspect of the novel: the romance is not very explicit and defined

no one ever confesses directly through "I love you" or "I like you"

, which in itself is not an issue, however, when it is combined with previous abusive teasing to me it comes off irresponsible to not have a clear indication of consent.

To me Shen Qiao comes off as someone on the asexual spectrum, and while his feelings become very clear in one of the extras it still feels very forceful of Yan Wushi to have to resort to shutting off Shen Qiao's meridians for a kiss (aka paralysing) and etc. If Shen Qiao's into cnc etc. there needs to be some sort of clearer indication that he has given consent. I guess you could argue that he would have actually put up a fight but it does not make me feel much better. I do like them as a couple overall but I think they would have worked well as just friends too.

The following are more depending on one's own preferences. Shen Qiao as a main character is very predictable and one dimensional

after falling off the cliff what he realizes is that Mount Xuandu's isolation made it ignorant to the political climate and how that puts the lives of many at risk. This does not change him as a person in terms of morals and values but it does change his perception of how Mount Xuandu did indeed need to open up somehow. Then no matter what Yan Wushi did he remained the same.

, while others not as much. I found that the conflict resolution at the end was very quick, tying up all of the loose ties at the end. There were a lot of fight or sparring scenes which ended up exhausting me personally at the end

I found them predictable??? Like I wasn't worried that Shen Qiao would die at any point in the novel. To me, the whole addition of Hulugu being alive all this time was a bit unnecessary. It did show everyone that Shen Qiao is powerful, but the way it was done was not interesting to me because to the reader that was already established (being able to fight with Yan Wushi at least somehow). I wanted the martial arts competition to be more interesting. And then, I guess, it did put Yan Wushi in a vulnerable position making Shen Qiao indirectly confess his love (if you can call it that) and give Yan Wushi another chance to tease Shen Qiao.

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