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Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto by Zachary Zane

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funny lighthearted fast-paced

3.0

Witty and fast-paced in a way that is indicative of the author's background as a sex columnist. Made for a fun, easy read on a long trip for me, but he easily could have doubled the length of the book with more introspection, data, lascivious personal stories, theory, or some combination of the above. The highlights are when he goes into his personal history, relationships, and evolving sexual identity. I especially appreciated his account of how his OCD and sex drive intermingle. The weakest by far are the segments where he tries to discuss gender and sexuality politics. His analysis is very surface-level and sometimes even wrong (no, Zack, straight people are not homophobic because of gay people joking that straight people are secretly gay). He's also kind of weird about trans people. Not in a hateful way, just in a way that makes me suspect he didn't have a trans person read all of this before it was published. 

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funny informative fast-paced

3.5

Boyslut is a joyful burst of bisexual man power! It was really refreshing to read someone writing so candidly and openly about sex, and so honestly about his journey coming to terms with his sexuality. Zane is also incredibly funny, and he seems really knowledgable in his niches of bisexuality and queer men having sex. The portion about condom usage, STIs, and casual sex between men was nothing short of revolutionary. That chapter blew my mind. It was hands-down my favorite part of the book, and the one that I think is a must-read. 

Zane's understanding of gender falls a little flat in this book, though. He (rightfully) points out the bisexuality isn't transphobic, and he notes that many discussions about sex and sexuality leave out nonbinary folks. But his gender thoughts don't go much deeper, and that causes some awkward and problematic remarks that pepper the entire books (like referring to trans women's tits as fake tits - trans women can grow their own tits, bro! or calling lesser-known sexualities, like omnisexual or fraysexual, neopronouns - I'm not sure where this mistake comes from?? But it is, nonetheless, a mistake.)

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