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Black Milk: On Writing, Motherhood, and the Harem Within by Elif Shafak

paulap's review against another edition

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medium-paced

3.5

Told in a magical realist style, this book talks about the struggles of elif shafak admitting his womanly side at first, and then, how becoming a mother changed the perception of herself as a mother and as a writer. It was engaging and there were many times I found myself nodding. But at the same time, the ideas and comparisons were a bit too much out there for me. Overall enjoyed it and I am glad I read it, but it is not my favourite shafak.

nnastia's review

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4.0

A very deep journey into the choices in a woman's life paired with short excursions into the lives of female writers in the East and West. I adore the writing style even if it wasn't my favorite of Shafak's books, it is an important one to read for women of all ages and views on careers and motherhood.

yarfaqikhdir's review

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4.0

A beautifully written semi-autobiography about inner struggles, personal growth and Elif’s experiences with maturing on her own pace and turn regardless of her gender and societal pressure to hurry up with the process.

About her inner conflicts with The Choir of Discordant Voices on sacrificing motherhood for excelling at her career or vise versa, not resorting to people, but to books and the voices of previous authors (women if you must know) and their experiences from their works or their diaries, and how she found her way.

An amazing read overall! You see a lot of the characters and events from her books later on that pay homage to her personal path and experiences mentioned in this beautiful work of art.

lenioczka's review against another edition

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5.0

"Czarne mleko" Elif Shafak to słodko-gorzka opowieść o kobietach, ich poszukiwaniach celu, sensu życia, naturze, złożoności, próbach pogodzenia wewnętrznych sprzeczności. Rozważania o tym co jest naturalne, a co kulturowe, co wrodzone, a co narzucone, czysto biologiczne, czy uwarunkowane socjologicznie. Dylematy dotyczące pogodzenia macierzyństwa z karierą zawodową, rozwojem osobistym. Zmagania z depresją poporodową.

Obok tak trudnej tematyki znajdziemy tu również cudowne opisy (mój ulubiony to ten o Księżycowej Kobiecie) oraz genialne poczucie humoru (ostatecznie Elif kupiła mnie przytoczonym cytatem o tym, czym dla niej była swego czasu miłość).

"Czarne mleko" to kojący plaster na pogmatwaną kobiecą duszę. Czytając, wielokrotnie miałam wrażenie, że autorka pisze o mnie. Harem Calineczek żyje wewnątrz każdej kobiety i musimy nauczyć się akceptować i dopuszczać do głosu wszystkie członkinie Chóru Niewspółbrzmiących Głosów, w równym stopniu.

farahhaikal's review against another edition

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4.0

حليب اسود: اشبه بالجلوس مع اليف في منتصف فبراير في مقهى هادئ نتأمل سوياً في معنى ان نكون نساء او في الاغلب اليف ستتحدث وانا سانصت .. سأقول احيانا ما هذا الهراء الذي تقوله واحيانا اخرى ستقول ما لطالما اردت قوله بشكل او بآخر ، مهما اختلفنا كنساء ستبقى انوثتنا وخبرتنا في ان نكون نساء تجمعنا .. ربما لم ولن اتفق مع اليف في بعض ما ذكرته لكن كان الكتاب اشبه برحلة داخل اكثر ممتلكات اليف قدسية وهو عقلها رحلة تعرض فيها تناقضاتها وانكساراتها وهزائمها وانتصاراتها نجاحاتها واخفاقاتها . لكنها ببساطة تعرضها ولا تُبد اي رغبة في ان تفرضها عليك ..

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maoooo's review against another edition

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emotional inspiring reflective slow-paced

4.25

jeereads's review against another edition

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4.0

عجبتني فكرة انها ذكرت معظم الكاتبات عن جانبهم الأمومى وجانبهم الأدبى وازاى وصلت بالنجاح او بالفشل.
عجبنى كمان صراعها مع نفسها وانها عايزة تمارس الكتابة وفى نفس الوقت تريد ان تحرب الأمومة
وعجبنى المعلومات الموجودة بالرواية عن الكاتبات وازواجهم وعن حياتهم
ولم يعجبنى مع الأسف انها لم تذكر اكتئابها وازاى اتعاملت معاه إلا فى آخر الاجزاء من الرواية ، كان نفسي تكتب عن الجانب دة اكتر وتتعمق فيه اكتر.
ولكنه فى النهاية رائع

shanviolinlove's review against another edition

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2.0

A bit underwhelmed by this one. Shafak articulates the multi-faceted experience of something similar to schizophrenia going on within her -- six conflicting alter-egos (?); personalities; mini-versions of her battling through her writing career and her pregnancy. While she is an accomplished writer whose novels I greatly admire, I found her self-heralding a bit tedious throughout the first few chapters and couldn't understand why she spent laborious efforts talking about what it meant to be a writer and a mother when the thesis of this essay was to revolve around post-pardem depression.

khader's review against another edition

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4.0

لا احد يستطيع ان يكتب عن تجربة شخصية، صعبة، وحميمية بهذه الطريقة الرائعة.
لم أكن متحمسا في البداية لقراءة هذه المذكرات ولكن مع الصفحات الاولى لها تدرك انك مع رحلة لن تعرفها مع اي كاتبة او كاتبة سواء مع اليف شافاق هذه الروائية المبدعة، لا احد يكتب بهذه الطريقة سواها.
بقد جبنا عالم مخلوق داخل إمراة من تناقضات كثيرة. من علم وثقافة وأدب، معلومات غزيرة عن الروائيات عن الأمومة وعن اكتئاب ما بعد الولادة بشكل رائع.
لا احد يمتلك براعة اليف لا احد.

_dunno_'s review

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4.0

Excellent. I postponed reading it for so long, but apparently, this was the perfect timing for this book and I. Quite intriguing, what I didn't like at its fullest now was Shafak the fiction writer. I could have been spared the conversations between her and the choir of discordant voices/Thumbelinas/finger-fairies, but then again, I completely understand the need of inserting the dialogues in the book, and maybe if I listen attentive enough I can hear my own Thumbelinas asking for their rights, pushing me into doing one thing or another.

Shafak the non-fiction writer, the mother to be and then the post-partum diagnosed new mother is something I cannot comment on. It just happens and you deal with it, one way or another. There's no solution she gives for overcoming depression, but there's her own experience to help.

And then, my favourite, Shafak the researcher, the scholar. While baffled whether it is indeed the right time to become a mother or if she will ever be a good one and a good writer at the same time, she started taking examples from the literary world, successful women writers who either chose not to have children, or had some and successfully managed being mothers and writers, plus others who abandoned them or couldn't have them. There are so many women writers on my "to-read" list right now because of how she managed to bring them up and tell their stories of womanhood and writinghood*, I think I won't be reading male writers for a while. :)

*I think this word doesn't exist, will Merriam-Webster give me some credit for it?