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tlaynejones's review
challenging
dark
emotional
hopeful
reflective
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
5.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Addiction, Homophobia, Panic attacks/disorders, Rape, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Grief, Religious bigotry, Alcohol, and Colonisation
lizzie24601's review
emotional
reflective
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
This was such a beautiful read. The author crafted these characters and their relationships so beautifully. The only thing keeping me from 5 stars is that I felt the narrative was slightly skewed toward focusing on Taiye, and although her story was really interesting, I would've liked some more details about Kambirinachi's adult life and Kehinde's young adulthood. As such, Kambirinachi's ending felt so sudden. She JUST reconciled with her daughters and IMMEDIATELY wants to die??? Huh???
Content Warnings
Graphic: Rape, Sexual assault, and Grief
Moderate: Body shaming, Death, Drug use, Suicide attempt, and Death of parent
Minor: Addiction, Animal death, Bullying, Child death, Gun violence, Infidelity, Miscarriage, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Blood, Murder, Pregnancy, Outing, Alcohol, and Injury/Injury detail
books4bee's review
adventurous
emotional
reflective
relaxing
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
4.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Child death
Moderate: Gun violence, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Vomit, Death of parent, Murder, and Pregnancy
Minor: Animal death, Body shaming, Drug use, Eating disorder, Homophobia, Panic attacks/disorders, Suicide, Forced institutionalization, Blood, Cannibalism, Religious bigotry, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Cultural appropriation, Abandonment, Alcohol, Colonisation, and Injury/Injury detail
schnooglefaceduthie's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
reflective
sad
slow-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Content Warnings
Graphic: Child abuse, Death, Gun violence, Homophobia, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Grief, Car accident, Abortion, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Pregnancy, and Alcohol
Moderate: Schizophrenia/Psychosis
navayiota's review against another edition
adventurous
challenging
dark
emotional
funny
informative
reflective
sad
tense
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
What a book! This was such rollercoaster of a tale and definitely in my favourites list. The author managed to twist a corner of my heart with every emotional sub-plot and I am thankful. What a soulful read. So glad I picked it up.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Death, Drug abuse, Drug use, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Grief, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Pregnancy, Abandonment, and Alcohol
Moderate: Body shaming and Fatphobia
now_booking's review against another edition
challenging
dark
emotional
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.75
It’s hard for me to rate this because I think it’s a good book and I did like it a lot but I had “buts…”. I thought it was fabulously well-written in terms of the language. Admittedly, this was a “Bookstagram made me do it” pick. I didn’t read the synopsis and yearn to check it out. But so many bookish social media friends had raved about it so I couldn’t be left out. Besides the title had me intrigued and I was promised there would be food.
The premise of this novel is that Kambirinachi, mother of Taiye and Kehinde, is an Ogbanje, who has struggled since birth to stay tethered to the world as a human being. Perhaps it is as a result of this, that her life has been assaulted by tragedy at every turn, her “kin” or other-worldly spirits using the experiences to taunt her back to the spirit world. Because of this, Kambirinachi is a somewhat unavailable mother to Taiye and Kehinde, despite her best intentions, leaving them vulnerable to a devastation that finally tears the family apart. Now for the first time in years the family is gathered again in Lagos and this might be their one chance to discover if healing is possible.
I liked this book and I can tell why so many people love it. The writing and use of language is lovely and evocative, the experiences are realistic and recognizable to the Nigerian experience. The author captured the swallowed pain and silence of a family who has gone through trauma so well and as for the way she writes about food, it’s absolutely delicious and visceral- you smell the smells and taste her words. The story is told by 3 different narrators telling the story interchangeably from both past and future. It’s a testament to the author’s skill that it’s pretty straightforward to keep the story straight. And even more testament to the author’s brilliance how she pieces together the commonality of the protagonists’ experiences around butter, honey, pig or bread. How she jigsaw puzzle fits overlapping experiences at different times to fit into a solid whole without rehashing old tales we already know. In this way, the author crafted a cohesive story that was well put together in spite of all moving parts of different protagonists, different character perspectives , and different timelines.
For me, this wavered between 3 stars and 5 stars. The food for certain, was the 5 stars. Every single time food was on the page, every time the author mentioned a high quality butter, or a high grade lard, or mentioned roasting spices in rich coconut oil, or talked about Nigerian raw honey in such luxurious language, or described the decadance of the pig and the spicy heat of suya or talked about the varieties of bread and the yeasty doughy texture of Nigerian bread! How can anyone not grade this 5 stars for the food alone! The author’s love and admiration for food came out to shine in this book and that was my favourite part of this novel. The author would mire you in trauma and grief and then comfort feed you so your belly would be as full as your heart and the reading less painful for that.
For me, the 3-star rating hovered through large swathes of the middle of the book. This starts off so well and so strongly. The first 20% of the book, I was consumed by the story, entranced by the characters. But then it kind of became very much Taiye’s story, which was fine. I liked Taiye. But I kept wanting more. I wanted more of a balance in the stories. If this was Taiye’s book, that would be fine, but we got just enough of Kehinde and Kambirinachi that I felt like surely, they deserved as much care and intention as Taiye got. I feel like we dwelled A LOT in Taiye’s varied expressions of trauma but only sort of skimmed the surface of Kehinde and to a lesser extent, Kambirinachi. And sure it could just be that Kambirinachi lived so much in her head that there wasn’t much story for her out of it that couldn’t be captured in “her kin was calling her,” and fine, maybe Kehinde, was just a million times more boring and straight-laced than Taiye and had no friends or story to carry more plot with her, maybe that’s why this felt a lot like a book about Taiye’s self-destruction stemming from family trauma, rather than a book about all 3, where I was actively curious about all 3. There’s a point in the novel where Taiye says she’s tired of her own BS and at that point in the novel, perhaps that was intentioned by the author, because I was pretty sick of Taiye as well by then. I mean at that point I had gotten the point of why she was self-destructive, how it manifested and why. And it was a repeatedly destructive cycle that kind of dragged around in the middle portion of the book. And with having 3 protagonists, I don’t think this was a book that needed to drag at all, given how quickly (and somewhat rushed) the ending was. If this was to be a story about healing, for me it needed a little more time on the pages to marinate. More steps, more coverage, more scenes. That part of the story felt a little last gasp to me and I would have liked to see more build towards the resolution, it was kind of a smash-bang, one-and-done sort of drive to the finish that felt kind of inconsistent with the indulgence with which the rest of the story had been told.
This is only the second book I’ve read featuring an Ogbanje woman and the psychological, mental and emotional traumas associated with that existence. In that sense, this is similar to Freshwater (by Akwaeke Emezi) but that’s about where the similarities end. Both books are about Ogbanje but this book deserves its own separate moment because its approach and sensibility and style are pretty different even if the themes are quite similar. This book examines generational trauma, abandonment, child abuse, difficult mother-daughter relationships, sexuality, sexual assault and abuse, homophobia (and indeed internalized homophobia), fatphobia (along with eating disorders), religion, love, trauma, family and loss in the most heartbreaking ways. If there is any trauma you have that could be triggering, tread carefully in approaching this book. It is beautifully written but would be unrelentingly sad if not that the author always pops up with the most delicious food so that your eyes can feast your sorrows away, at least till you have to eat the next wave of pain with the characters.
I highly recommend this to anyone looking for a really meaningful and heartbreaking story of mothers and daughters and spirits, with a Nigerian queer protagonist and lots and lots of yummy food. There are even loose recipes in the prose if that sweetens the pot (it should, they’re worth checking out). Prepare your heart for breakage, but definitely check this out.
The premise of this novel is that Kambirinachi, mother of Taiye and Kehinde, is an Ogbanje, who has struggled since birth to stay tethered to the world as a human being. Perhaps it is as a result of this, that her life has been assaulted by tragedy at every turn, her “kin” or other-worldly spirits using the experiences to taunt her back to the spirit world. Because of this, Kambirinachi is a somewhat unavailable mother to Taiye and Kehinde, despite her best intentions, leaving them vulnerable to a devastation that finally tears the family apart. Now for the first time in years the family is gathered again in Lagos and this might be their one chance to discover if healing is possible.
I liked this book and I can tell why so many people love it. The writing and use of language is lovely and evocative, the experiences are realistic and recognizable to the Nigerian experience. The author captured the swallowed pain and silence of a family who has gone through trauma so well and as for the way she writes about food, it’s absolutely delicious and visceral- you smell the smells and taste her words. The story is told by 3 different narrators telling the story interchangeably from both past and future. It’s a testament to the author’s skill that it’s pretty straightforward to keep the story straight. And even more testament to the author’s brilliance how she pieces together the commonality of the protagonists’ experiences around butter, honey, pig or bread. How she jigsaw puzzle fits overlapping experiences at different times to fit into a solid whole without rehashing old tales we already know. In this way, the author crafted a cohesive story that was well put together in spite of all moving parts of different protagonists, different character perspectives , and different timelines.
For me, this wavered between 3 stars and 5 stars. The food for certain, was the 5 stars. Every single time food was on the page, every time the author mentioned a high quality butter, or a high grade lard, or mentioned roasting spices in rich coconut oil, or talked about Nigerian raw honey in such luxurious language, or described the decadance of the pig and the spicy heat of suya or talked about the varieties of bread and the yeasty doughy texture of Nigerian bread! How can anyone not grade this 5 stars for the food alone! The author’s love and admiration for food came out to shine in this book and that was my favourite part of this novel. The author would mire you in trauma and grief and then comfort feed you so your belly would be as full as your heart and the reading less painful for that.
For me, the 3-star rating hovered through large swathes of the middle of the book. This starts off so well and so strongly. The first 20% of the book, I was consumed by the story, entranced by the characters. But then it kind of became very much Taiye’s story, which was fine. I liked Taiye. But I kept wanting more. I wanted more of a balance in the stories. If this was Taiye’s book, that would be fine, but we got just enough of Kehinde and Kambirinachi that I felt like surely, they deserved as much care and intention as Taiye got. I feel like we dwelled A LOT in Taiye’s varied expressions of trauma but only sort of skimmed the surface of Kehinde and to a lesser extent, Kambirinachi. And sure it could just be that Kambirinachi lived so much in her head that there wasn’t much story for her out of it that couldn’t be captured in “her kin was calling her,” and fine, maybe Kehinde, was just a million times more boring and straight-laced than Taiye and had no friends or story to carry more plot with her, maybe that’s why this felt a lot like a book about Taiye’s self-destruction stemming from family trauma, rather than a book about all 3, where I was actively curious about all 3. There’s a point in the novel where Taiye says she’s tired of her own BS and at that point in the novel, perhaps that was intentioned by the author, because I was pretty sick of Taiye as well by then. I mean at that point I had gotten the point of why she was self-destructive, how it manifested and why. And it was a repeatedly destructive cycle that kind of dragged around in the middle portion of the book. And with having 3 protagonists, I don’t think this was a book that needed to drag at all, given how quickly (and somewhat rushed) the ending was. If this was to be a story about healing, for me it needed a little more time on the pages to marinate. More steps, more coverage, more scenes. That part of the story felt a little last gasp to me and I would have liked to see more build towards the resolution, it was kind of a smash-bang, one-and-done sort of drive to the finish that felt kind of inconsistent with the indulgence with which the rest of the story had been told.
This is only the second book I’ve read featuring an Ogbanje woman and the psychological, mental and emotional traumas associated with that existence. In that sense, this is similar to Freshwater (by Akwaeke Emezi) but that’s about where the similarities end. Both books are about Ogbanje but this book deserves its own separate moment because its approach and sensibility and style are pretty different even if the themes are quite similar. This book examines generational trauma, abandonment, child abuse, difficult mother-daughter relationships, sexuality, sexual assault and abuse, homophobia (and indeed internalized homophobia), fatphobia (along with eating disorders), religion, love, trauma, family and loss in the most heartbreaking ways. If there is any trauma you have that could be triggering, tread carefully in approaching this book. It is beautifully written but would be unrelentingly sad if not that the author always pops up with the most delicious food so that your eyes can feast your sorrows away, at least till you have to eat the next wave of pain with the characters.
I highly recommend this to anyone looking for a really meaningful and heartbreaking story of mothers and daughters and spirits, with a Nigerian queer protagonist and lots and lots of yummy food. There are even loose recipes in the prose if that sweetens the pot (it should, they’re worth checking out). Prepare your heart for breakage, but definitely check this out.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Addiction, Animal death, Body shaming, Child abuse, Child death, Death, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, Homophobia, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Blood, Vomit, Medical content, Grief, Medical trauma, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Lesbophobia, Outing, Gaslighting, Abandonment, and Alcohol
Moderate: Chronic illness, Gun violence, and Panic attacks/disorders
Minor: Alcoholism