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bootsmom3's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Cancer, Racism, Sexual content, Terminal illness, Medical content, Grief, Death of parent, Gaslighting, and Alcohol
arthur_ant18's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
1.25
Graphic: Racism and Classism
Moderate: Sexual content
lololovesthings's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
1.5
"Everything's Fine" by Cecilia Rabess is, first and foremost, not a romance, and it was entirely mismarketed as such. It is an exploration of a toxic relationship between a white, conservative man who has no problem simultaneously flourishing in and ignoring a system that upholds white supremacy, and a progressive black woman who shrinks herself and falls into hypocrisy for the sake of a relationship with an imbalanced power dynamic that she should not be in in the first place, one that offers her comfort and security due to her proximity to the power that system upholds. The story seems to lack the conviction to take a firm stance on the issues it presents, instead, falling into the middle ground fallacy (where the truth falls in the middle of any argument). This book tries to make the audience understand both sides of the issues it presents. There can be no middle ground when someone's personhood and identity are on the line. There can be no "both sides" on issues of white supremacy. For some readers, the ending will come off as ironic, but for others, it will be affirming in the notion that everything *is* and *has been* fine when nothing could be further from the truth. We are meant to empathize with both characters, but I wound up hating them both. Josh does and says microaggression after outward aggression after gaslighty comment after overtly racist statement...and we're supposed to root for him to be with Jess because, why, exactly? Because he's a rich capitalist finance bro and he will keep her spineless and comfortable in a life where she is forced to diminish her thoughts and feelings and wants and needs and blackness and femininity so she can keep her proximity to the systems that oppress her? On top of this, they have virtually no chemistry with one another and seemingly hate (or at the very least, actively dislike) each other, which makes me wonder if Josh was only dating Jess because she's black! I struggled deeply to understand who this book's target audience was. It was very tiresome to read, and if I hadn't checked out the audiobook from Libby, I wouldn't have finished it. I don't think it's fair to the author that people have been rating this book 1 star without reading it first, but having read it, I almost wished I hadn't. I didn't find it to be ironic or sardonic, nor do I think it offers anything other than an excuse for brushing off people's racist tendencies under the guise of love or obligation. I'll say it again: there can be no "both sides" when it comes to racism. I can ascertain no deeper meaning here. I didn't like this book at all.
Thank you to Simon and Schuster, NetGalley, and Cecilia Rabess for the ARC of this book. All opinions are my own. I was not compensated for my review.
Graphic: Racism
dogbuttsandbooks's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
1.0
Graphic: Racism, Sexism, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, and Gaslighting
apmreads's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
After spending the last few days trying to get a better picture of this book and its wide array of opinions, I think it's important to note what Black women, in particular (since that's who our main character is and, really, who the story is about), are saying about this book. It doesn't really matter what I think, as a white left-leaning reader, but I found mostly two camps: (1) It was very triggering and this book shouldn't exist, and (2) it was very triggering but I have never felt more seen. I think, no matter your feelings on this book, they're valid. But I do think writing a one-star review before reading is doing this book a disservice.
For those of us walking in the world with white privilege and fragility, this book holds up a very clear mirror to the ways in which we make BIPOC walk on eggshells in every possible way. I felt so uncomfortable for Jess, who was trying her best and was still making two steps backward for every one step forward. There were cyclical arguments between Jess and her love interest, Josh that highlighted his white privilege and lack of perspective. He infantilizes her and her very real anger and sadness. Yes, there were cringe conversations, but those cringe conversations I've heard my actual family members say those kinds of things. I felt like, as a white reader, the nuances in this book that made me stop and think would be nothing new to Black people who inherently know and live the racism, misogyny, sexism, identity struggles, and social and economic conversations that were introduced here.
I think, if you go into this book expecting it to be an escape or a romance, your expectation should be changed into one of expecting discussion. This isn't a romanticized love story about people from two sides of the political spectrum. I think it's a story about the very real struggles BIPOC go through daily, but especially how Black women have to navigate this world and how much the Trump years and leading up to it really did a lot of social, emotional, and mental damage. How white privilege and fragility are harming and hateful, and how we as a society really need to work on how we treat each other and how we listen to each other.
I'm glad I read this book. I thought it was worth the read, and it's been worth listening to and engaging in the discussions that are happening because of it. Thank you to Simon and Schuster for sending me an advanced reader copy in exchange for my honest review. This title publishes June 6, 2023 in the US.
Graphic: Cancer, Misogyny, Racism, Sexism, and Death of parent
savvyrosereads's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.5
Graphic: Racism, Toxic relationship, and Death of parent
Moderate: Cancer, Death, and Physical abuse
rootedreader's review against another edition
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
2.0
Moderate: Racism
thevioletfoxbookshop's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
I know this book has been very controversial. But here's the thing - in my opinion - just because the book deal with difficult, uncomfortable, ugly stuff, does not mean it was a bad book. The controversy means conversation is happening about this stuff and I think that matters.
Graphic: Misogyny, Racism, Toxic relationship, Grief, Death of parent, and Gaslighting
Moderate: Sexism and Classism
Minor: Police brutality
literaryintersections's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? N/A
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
2.0
Is the point of the book to show the fallacy of youth? To highlight that when we are young it’s easy to be taken by lust and good looks and gloss over the gas lighting, violence, and racism? Is it to show that everyone’s internal understanding of “fine” is different? Or that white mens belief that Trump’s racism and white supremacist rhetoric is not actually “that bad” and “everything will be fine” is harmful and scary and makes Black people question their every move? Is it about what actually makes someone Black, and what it means to “find” or “understand” your Blackness?
If it’s any of those things then this book completely misses the mark. Because none of that depth discussed above is actually in the book. Jess doesn’t change. She’s still a Black woman struggling to make it in a white world, while continually trying to separate herself from other Black people, including her family. Jess is part of the problem, but I don’t think she ever actually see it that way.
If it was about any of those topics or questions above, this book would’ve been a 5 star. But it never got there far. Never took a chance. Hides behind this “enemies to lovers” bullshit that’s actually harmful.
I wanted to enjoy this. I actually devoured it and read it so quickly. But it rarely goes deeper than the surface and ultimately could be a book where white folks can read it, feel good about themselves and say, “well Atleast I’m not Josh”. And that is going to be so harmful to Black folks.
Graphic: Racism, Death of parent, and Gaslighting
Moderate: Grief
bookishmikay's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? N/A
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
1.0
Graphic: Toxic relationship, Death of parent, and Gaslighting
Moderate: Drug abuse, Panic attacks/disorders, Racism, Police brutality, Medical content, Grief, and Death of parent
Minor: Cancer, Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, and Antisemitism