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The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - and How to Make the Most of Them Now by Meg Jay
6 reviews
mangofraiche's review against another edition
adventurous
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
4.5
Content Warnings
Moderate: Infertility, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Terminal illness, Grief, and Suicide attempt
readinglitwithbritt's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
fast-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Minor: Infertility, Miscarriage, Self harm, Grief, Mass/school shootings, and Suicide attempt
cbh's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
4.75
Honest, amazing, and blunt but never mean spirited. Meg Jay does a wonderful job of unraveling the reality behind our twenties, and undoing the blindfold behind major milestones awaiting twentysomethings. Not all encompassing or definitive, but a marvelous piece.
Content Warnings
Minor: Miscarriage
waste_cup's review against another edition
challenging
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
slow-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Drug use, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Suicide, Grief, Pregnancy, and Toxic friendship
ufollowbooks's review against another edition
informative
reflective
fast-paced
3.75
Very interesting book, but better to be read with some dose of scepticism. Some ideas about having kids, for example, are just a little old fashioned.
Also, the fact that all characters and examples from her book are very heteronormative — queer couples where mentioned literally once, even though about 2/3 of the book about romance and body. Probably that's okay as this is non-fiction, but yet, felt quite under represented 🌝
And there's one mention of autism and some other neurodivergencies not in the best way — be aware!
Overall this book has some really good ideas and some that... not really good, let's say. I really liked what was said about self-confidence and finding people like yourself! But also there's a lot of pressure about Doing Everything The Right Way, which definitely could be disturbing.
Also, the fact that all characters and examples from her book are very heteronormative — queer couples where mentioned literally once, even though about 2/3 of the book about romance and body. Probably that's okay as this is non-fiction, but yet, felt quite under represented 🌝
And there's one mention of autism and some other neurodivergencies not in the best way — be aware!
Overall this book has some really good ideas and some that... not really good, let's say. I really liked what was said about self-confidence and finding people like yourself! But also there's a lot of pressure about Doing Everything The Right Way, which definitely could be disturbing.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Domestic abuse, Infertility, Infidelity, Miscarriage, and Abortion
Minor: Ableism
marisa_n's review against another edition
emotional
informative
medium-paced
3.0
I think the entire book could be summed up like this:
Your 20s are a critical turning point in your life. This is in part due to biology, as your brain is developing and you're hitting peak fertility (women & men). It is also because you're setting the trajectory for your 30's onward. Therefore, you don't have time to waste on jobs that aren't stepping stones to your ideal career, or on dating partners that you don't want to marry. Instead, your 20s should be spent intentionally planning for the future life you want.
My overall feelings are mixed. As someone in my mid-20s -- with my life (relatively) together -- I found it to be simultaneously validating and patronizing. I agreed with most of what she said about working in your 20s to have the life you want in your 30s, 40s, 50s, etc. I also agree with the importance of figuring out what you want & when, and then making a timeline to judge if you're on track... That said, I felt she came across condescending at times. For example, at times seeming to oversimplify "twentysomethings" as lazy, aimless, & unmotivated individuals. I don't think this was intentional, but more so a byproduct of someone older writing to a younger audience that they're used to having some form of authority over (a therapist talking about her clients in their 20s).
I probably wouldn't recommend this book often. That said, I would recommend this book to someone who thinks their 20s are supposed to be the "time of their life," and that big decisions about careers/love/kids/goals can wait until yours 30s to figure out. This book would be better suited for someone who's feeling lost, and perhaps could use a kick in the ass to get going.
Your 20s are a critical turning point in your life. This is in part due to biology, as your brain is developing and you're hitting peak fertility (women & men). It is also because you're setting the trajectory for your 30's onward. Therefore, you don't have time to waste on jobs that aren't stepping stones to your ideal career, or on dating partners that you don't want to marry. Instead, your 20s should be spent intentionally planning for the future life you want.
My overall feelings are mixed. As someone in my mid-20s -- with my life (relatively) together -- I found it to be simultaneously validating and patronizing. I agreed with most of what she said about working in your 20s to have the life you want in your 30s, 40s, 50s, etc. I also agree with the importance of figuring out what you want & when, and then making a timeline to judge if you're on track... That said, I felt she came across condescending at times. For example, at times seeming to oversimplify "twentysomethings" as lazy, aimless, & unmotivated individuals. I don't think this was intentional, but more so a byproduct of someone older writing to a younger audience that they're used to having some form of authority over (a therapist talking about her clients in their 20s).
I probably wouldn't recommend this book often. That said, I would recommend this book to someone who thinks their 20s are supposed to be the "time of their life," and that big decisions about careers/love/kids/goals can wait until yours 30s to figure out. This book would be better suited for someone who's feeling lost, and perhaps could use a kick in the ass to get going.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Infertility, Miscarriage, and Pregnancy
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