Reviews tagging 'Grief'

Concerning My Daughter by Kim Hye-Jin

12 reviews

franceswilde95's review against another edition

emotional sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death and Grief

padancer's review against another edition

challenging reflective sad fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Loveable characters? No

5.0

It was very sad to listen (I read in audiobook) about such mother who doesn’t accept her daughter at all. The most unique thing to me was

she could sympathize with her patient and her real physical wounds but she couldn’t see the mental wounds she puts on her daughter

Very good book and very well written, will stick to me for some time

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Homophobia, Terminal illness, Excrement, and Grief

nad_books623's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

Wow this was a raw story that a lot of people in the lgbtq+ community can relate to while reading. The mother was so annoying and hypocritical.

The whole time that she was reflecting towards the end of the book with the nursing home and her inner homophobia we never got to see her challenge her hypocrisy. Which, I guess makes the story more raw in a sense but still would be interested to see.

I did like the stories comment on being elderly and what happens in society when someone no longer has a purpose.

The scene when the reporters came to interview Jen was a good moment that showed how she was seen as disposable since she could not give what they wanted from her. Another moment in the book was towards the end when Jen is in the last nursing home and how the carer says they're all just going to die there always.

I think this book also discusses well how care taking is a commodity in society and that due to capitalism people who need care do not get the proper care they need.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Chronic illness, Death, Homophobia, Toxic relationship, Violence, Forced institutionalization, Dementia, Grief, Medical trauma, Lesbophobia, Gaslighting, Abandonment, and Classism

Moderate: Physical abuse

Minor: Excrement and Vomit

pingi444's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Homophobia, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, Excrement, Medical content, Dementia, Grief, Religious bigotry, Medical trauma, Lesbophobia, and Injury/Injury detail

rachjy's review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective sad fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Excrement, and Grief

Moderate: Physical abuse and Lesbophobia

Minor: Violence

breadbummer's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.5

Being queer, this book makes me wonder how my parents really view my queerness considering how they still talk to members of my family about my girlfriend being my friend; are they trying to protect me, or are they worried about how it will reflect on them? It was a very painful read in this way, but I did enjoy seeing the mother's way of caring for the elderly patients and was heartened (in a way?) by her

ultimately losing her job because she refused to take part in elder abuse

. This also hit me pretty hard, as it reminded me think about how the people at my grandma's nursing home could have possibly treated her the way they did.

On another note, I don't really know how I feel about the ending...it seemed like it was at the right point to stop but, at the same time, felt very abrupt and indefinite.

The book, itself, I think is a great example for how to take on the perspective of a multifaceted character, but the story itself was rather bleak and just alright, I guess.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Hate crime, Mental illness, Terminal illness, Dementia, Lesbophobia, and Injury/Injury detail

Moderate: Sexism, Police brutality, and Grief

Minor: Sexual content, Excrement, Medical content, and Murder

There was one small section of the book that made my stomach drop. While it wasn't a detailed description of killing one's own child, the mother more or less sympathizes with people who have killed their children for not being the way they wanted them to be (in this case, the mother wants her daughter to be "normal" and not a lesbian). She mentions that if her husband was still alive and had found out about it, he would have killed their daughter.

yasmin_raev's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Violence, Medical content, Dementia, Grief, Lesbophobia, and Injury/Injury detail

Minor: Domestic abuse

michaelion's review against another edition

emotional reflective sad fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

A perfect book for socialist baby lesbians in crisis. No I will not elaborate!

This one hits a lil too close to home for me because I too currently work in healthcare with a woman who has memory loss and I too am gay and have a girlfriend and I too do not like my roommate and I also do not have children. I am all of these characters. So extra points for being relevant to me and the life I currently live but who knows how I'll feel about it next year. I like the way the emotions are expressed. Even though it's a translation of a language I don't know I feel they did the original justice.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Dementia, and Lesbophobia

Moderate: Ableism, Homophobia, Physical abuse, Violence, Medical content, Grief, and Injury/Injury detail

I tagged ableism although it's more like ageism. But in this case it's one and the same.

milesjmoran's review

emotional reflective sad fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Death, Hate crime, Homophobia, Sexism, Terminal illness, Police brutality, Grief, and Lesbophobia

Moderate: Excrement and Vomit

szuum's review against another edition

emotional reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death, Hate crime, Homophobia, and Lesbophobia

Moderate: Confinement, Excrement, Medical content, Dementia, and Grief

Minor: Forced institutionalization