jbryson's review against another edition
1.0
This book is a true story. Usually when I read a work of fiction, I forget it's fiction. With this book, the writing was so melodramatic, I had to keep reminding myself it was a true story. I also have concerns that the sex offender in this book works with youth.
stiniskaninis's review against another edition
5.0
Alla bör läsa. Hemsk och fin samtidigt, man förstår och inte förstår båda sidorna då en våldtäkt sker. Värd att läsa!
anneke_b's review against another edition
5.0
This book is so much more than the blurb. It was so relatable, even though I have never experienced anything with a similar impact. It is about reflection, coming to peace with yourself and the importance of being able to live with your deeds, good AND bad. So recommended.
mrmichaela's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
relaxing
fast-paced
5.0
scribepub's review
South of Forgiveness reads like group therapy: deep pain is unearthed and examined like a jewel beneath a light. Crucially, Elva has the humility to claim she has the same capacity for darkness as Stranger, yet the privilege and power he is afforded as a man means he is more inclined to commit violence … By owning the label ‘‘rapist’’ and exploring his motivations, Stranger allows the mythical perpetrator to be demystified. The monstrous shadow is given meek human form, allowing men’s actions, not women’s, to be interrogated. And through her informed analysis of gender inequality, Elva reveals the social mechanisms that create male sexual entitlement.
Lou Heinrich, Weekend Australian
What saves South of Forgiveness from being a book-length rehashing of old hurts interspersed with worthy sentiments about forgiveness, is the blossoming of Elva and Stranger’s personal quest into something larger. As they pick apart the whys of Stranger’s actions (while never for a moment excusing them), they have some important insights about the way our culture can lead young men to feel a dangerous sense of entitlement over women’s bodies … Some will find the idea of a rapist educating people about rape absurd and offensive … But the same things that make [Tom's] venture fraught might make it actually work … [A] genuine, wholehearted attempt to change the conversation around rape.
Emily Maguire, Sydney Morning Herald
An incredible achievement. Everyone could benefit from reading this book. I’m certainly richer as a result of having done so. Absolutely recommended.
Arni Arnason, UK rock band The Vaccines
Thordis and Tom take daring steps into the minefield of the most fragile issues of our times. By confronting the stigma of victim and perpetrator they give us valuable insight into the darker corners of our existence.
Andri Snaer Magnason, Author and Icelandic Presidential Candidate
A profoundly moving, open chested, and critical book. An exploration into sexual violence and self-knowledge that can only shine a healing light into the shrouded corners of our universal humanity. There is a disarming power in these pages that has the potential to change our language, shift our divisions, and invite us to be brave in discussing this pressing, global issue.
Pat Mitchell, Chair of the Sundance Institute and Women’s Media Center
Every man, woman and couple should read this book. And the woman and man that wrote it ought to be garlanded with medals. It’s an unprecedented achievement.
Sandi Toksvig
Written with sensitivity, courage and compassion, this book is a shared, outer and inner journey of recovery. In this intimate account of that journey, the story draws attention to one of the most overlooked perspectives regarding the act and meaning of rape: the shame of rape, harboured by the victim, belongs in fact to the perpetrator. Without any leanings toward self-indulgence, it is a deeply honest exploration of the dynamics of forgiveness and personal transformation. I felt as if I was with them (and their loved ones) on their journey. I will remember it and recommend it for a long time to come.
Dr Ian McCallum
Extraordinarily moving … Hats off to Elva and Stranger for a brave journey that might well change lives.
Christina Patterson, The Sunday Times
Both Elva and Stranger have been brave enough to publicly expose their separate vulnerabilities, in order to contribute to an important debate about sexual violence.
The Irish TImes
Elva and Stranger’s story … [is] as compelling and uncomfortable as it is complex. The resulting book, South of Forgiveness, is one the reader will barely be able to wrench themselves from.
Sunday Business Post Dublin
Very brave.
Catholic Herald
Lou Heinrich, Weekend Australian
What saves South of Forgiveness from being a book-length rehashing of old hurts interspersed with worthy sentiments about forgiveness, is the blossoming of Elva and Stranger’s personal quest into something larger. As they pick apart the whys of Stranger’s actions (while never for a moment excusing them), they have some important insights about the way our culture can lead young men to feel a dangerous sense of entitlement over women’s bodies … Some will find the idea of a rapist educating people about rape absurd and offensive … But the same things that make [Tom's] venture fraught might make it actually work … [A] genuine, wholehearted attempt to change the conversation around rape.
Emily Maguire, Sydney Morning Herald
An incredible achievement. Everyone could benefit from reading this book. I’m certainly richer as a result of having done so. Absolutely recommended.
Arni Arnason, UK rock band The Vaccines
Thordis and Tom take daring steps into the minefield of the most fragile issues of our times. By confronting the stigma of victim and perpetrator they give us valuable insight into the darker corners of our existence.
Andri Snaer Magnason, Author and Icelandic Presidential Candidate
A profoundly moving, open chested, and critical book. An exploration into sexual violence and self-knowledge that can only shine a healing light into the shrouded corners of our universal humanity. There is a disarming power in these pages that has the potential to change our language, shift our divisions, and invite us to be brave in discussing this pressing, global issue.
Pat Mitchell, Chair of the Sundance Institute and Women’s Media Center
Every man, woman and couple should read this book. And the woman and man that wrote it ought to be garlanded with medals. It’s an unprecedented achievement.
Sandi Toksvig
Written with sensitivity, courage and compassion, this book is a shared, outer and inner journey of recovery. In this intimate account of that journey, the story draws attention to one of the most overlooked perspectives regarding the act and meaning of rape: the shame of rape, harboured by the victim, belongs in fact to the perpetrator. Without any leanings toward self-indulgence, it is a deeply honest exploration of the dynamics of forgiveness and personal transformation. I felt as if I was with them (and their loved ones) on their journey. I will remember it and recommend it for a long time to come.
Dr Ian McCallum
Extraordinarily moving … Hats off to Elva and Stranger for a brave journey that might well change lives.
Christina Patterson, The Sunday Times
Both Elva and Stranger have been brave enough to publicly expose their separate vulnerabilities, in order to contribute to an important debate about sexual violence.
The Irish TImes
Elva and Stranger’s story … [is] as compelling and uncomfortable as it is complex. The resulting book, South of Forgiveness, is one the reader will barely be able to wrench themselves from.
Sunday Business Post Dublin
Very brave.
Catholic Herald
teejayfem's review against another edition
5.0
An amazing book that shows the power of forgiving, growing, and maturing. It has very poignant examples of how to have a conversation that leads to understanding and growth. It touches on the patriarchy, entitlement, rape culture, forgiveness both of yourself and others. It's an amazing read that I highly recommend.