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grovesr's review
emotional
informative
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced
4.5
Delightfully casual and informative. Great for anyone interested in exploring BDSM: tops and bottoms alike.
freckled_frog_boi's review
fast-paced
2.25
Okay... I'm glad I finally got to read one of the OG kink books everyone recommends. As many people said, if you're interested in kink at all, a lot of the stuff said in here is well-known to you and is common sense, but I am glad to see such a thorough talk about consent and learning how to talk to your top about what you want.
Although, there are some things that are distinctly White New-Age Religion in a way I'm uncomfortable with. I think kink really needs to take a look at, and learn from, the native cultures where they pull ritual practices from. I also think if there was going to be a discussion on oppression dynamics in kink, specifically around historical tragedies, I would like to hear more from those who engage in it and more careful consideration of how to present that type of play, rather than a few sentences about Nazis and saying the N slur.
Although, there are some things that are distinctly White New-Age Religion in a way I'm uncomfortable with. I think kink really needs to take a look at, and learn from, the native cultures where they pull ritual practices from. I also think if there was going to be a discussion on oppression dynamics in kink, specifically around historical tragedies, I would like to hear more from those who engage in it and more careful consideration of how to present that type of play, rather than a few sentences about Nazis and saying the N slur.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Racial slurs, Rape, Sexual content, and Antisemitism
Moderate: Adult/minor relationship, Abandonment, and Injury/Injury detail
angievdbroeck's review
4.0
Very similar experience as their other works, where I feel like there is no new information presented, but mostly affirms ideas I already had, which is valuable! Not a how-to guide, but a why-guide, which is exactly what I needed
yorno's review against another edition
3.0
“Some people’s real-world hobbies and professions are a clue about their bottom space - Dossie likes to knit and crochet, and loves rope-“