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Fantastic book! Lots of good stuff about sexuality, body images, breaking down gender role binaries, and how change works for people over time. (A whole chapter on "but I want my partner to change! Now!" and why it doesn't work that way.) I learned a lot but also felt like it was an accessible read. 

It builds on her first book Come As You Are, but you can start with this one first.

Though the book doesn't set out to explain polyamory, it does that on the way to get where it's going, and I truly appreciated the respectful, no-nonsense depictions of healthy relationships in that context. Lots of really good advice for both monogamous and nonmonogamous people. It does a good job of framing polyam as something that can take a lot of work, and offers great communication tips for both styles. I honestly think it's what I'm gonna recommend for people who ask me about polyam to fix their relationship problems. (Hint, if you have problems in your relationship, adding more people is not the solution you think it will be!)

At any rate, I loved this book. I originally got the hardcopy but ended up borrowing the audiobook from the library to make headway while life got busy. The audiobook is great, full of Nagoski's classic empathy and nonjudgmental hilarity. 

I'm so so grateful I read it!

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