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acwill422's review against another edition
3.0
I liked the perspectives in this book and it was easy to listen to with lots of stories.
awinn's review against another edition
5.0
After losing my Dad just 6 months ago, I was skeptical to read this book thinking it may be too "self-helpish". I could not be more wrong. The accuracy and poignancy of the emotion that Sheryl Sandberg shares could not be more on point. At times I felt like she was pulling my own thoughts out of my head. For anyone who is going through loss and adversity, this book is a must.
jlrowse's review against another edition
4.0
While the frame of the book is set up as a resilience guide post-death of a loved one, nearly all the advice and anecdotes are universal for any type of loss--a job, a friendship, self-confidence, etc. If you are an easy crier, don't read in public. I made that mistake when I began the book, and before I hit page 20, I was misty. Some really great practical advice as well for how to support those who are dealing with any kind of loss. 4 stars only because a couple of sections lagged, but that could've been because they didn't immediately resonate with me. I bought this book, marked it up, and will likely reference it in the future when needed.
cpope9's review against another edition
3.0
More memoir than self help book. And more self help book than the more scientifically rigorous and evidence-based discussion of resilience than I'd have expected from the authors. As someone who has never had a truly grief-enducing, resilience-demanding life experience, I didn't connect to this from an emotional perspective. And I wish there was more in this book to allow me to connect intellectually. Though, at some point, this will likely be a valuable collection of words to to-read.
sherylk's review against another edition
2.0
I wish I had liked this book more, because [b:Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead|16071764|Lean In Women, Work, and the Will to Lead|Sheryl Sandberg|https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1364250803s/16071764.jpg|21865596] was very influential to me. This book was about Sandberg's unexpectedly losing her husband, how she coped, and how other people can cope with great challenges as well.
Unfortunately the book didn't hit the mark. I spent the entire book feeling pulled in different directions among a memoir, self-help book, and sociological study. I would have been interested in reading any one of the three, but the way the book was constructed, I didn't think it did any of them particularly well.
I understand this may be partially because Sandberg co-wrote this with [a:Adam Grant|161527|Adam Grant|https://s.gr-assets.com/assets/nophoto/user/u_50x66-632230dc9882b4352d753eedf9396530.png]. If she needed to do that to get through the heartbreaking subject matter, than I'm glad she did - for her. As a reader, the empathy I felt for her loss still didn't make me like the book any more.
One nugget I took with me, however, was the idea that kids with a "growth mindset" were more resilient than those without. It was the first I'd heard of a growth mindset, and it immediately changed how I've been talking to my kids.
Unfortunately the book didn't hit the mark. I spent the entire book feeling pulled in different directions among a memoir, self-help book, and sociological study. I would have been interested in reading any one of the three, but the way the book was constructed, I didn't think it did any of them particularly well.
I understand this may be partially because Sandberg co-wrote this with [a:Adam Grant|161527|Adam Grant|https://s.gr-assets.com/assets/nophoto/user/u_50x66-632230dc9882b4352d753eedf9396530.png]. If she needed to do that to get through the heartbreaking subject matter, than I'm glad she did - for her. As a reader, the empathy I felt for her loss still didn't make me like the book any more.
One nugget I took with me, however, was the idea that kids with a "growth mindset" were more resilient than those without. It was the first I'd heard of a growth mindset, and it immediately changed how I've been talking to my kids.
karinapplesauce's review against another edition
I’ve made it a habit to not give ratings to “help” or “business” books because they are a different beast than fiction. And because I’m lazy. I’m also lazy with writing reviews about business books so here’s a bunch of quotes that struck me:
“[Resilience] isn’t about having a backbone, it’s about strengthening the muscles around our backbone.”
“Option A is not available, so let’s kick the shit out of Option B.” - reference to the title.
3 P’s can stunt recovery: 1) Personalization: the belief that we are at fault 2) Pervasiveness: the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life and 3) Permanence: the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever
“Leaning in to the suck.”
“He who was a why to live for can bear almost any how.”
“Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end.” - Seneca/Semisonic
“Wanting to improve is not a sign of weakness.”
The concept of “Moral Elevation” -- seeing someone else do something noble or virtuous and wanting to do the same yourself.
Space programs were more likely to have success after a catastrophic failure because they are scrutinized more carefully.
>>”To be resilient after failures, we have to learn from them.”
“A resilient organization helps people over these reactions (defensive, shut down) by creating a culture that helps people acknowledge their missteps and regrets.”
“You regret the things you don’t do, not the things you do.”
Failure as a learning opportunity.
In short, Sheryl Sandberg seems like a well-balanced, emotionally intelligent person and is everything that I am not. I vary between mad respect and not feeling good enough. I also wished she were the one who narrated her own book...
“[Resilience] isn’t about having a backbone, it’s about strengthening the muscles around our backbone.”
“Option A is not available, so let’s kick the shit out of Option B.” - reference to the title.
3 P’s can stunt recovery: 1) Personalization: the belief that we are at fault 2) Pervasiveness: the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life and 3) Permanence: the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever
“Leaning in to the suck.”
“He who was a why to live for can bear almost any how.”
“Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end.” - Seneca/Semisonic
“Wanting to improve is not a sign of weakness.”
The concept of “Moral Elevation” -- seeing someone else do something noble or virtuous and wanting to do the same yourself.
Space programs were more likely to have success after a catastrophic failure because they are scrutinized more carefully.
>>”To be resilient after failures, we have to learn from them.”
“A resilient organization helps people over these reactions (defensive, shut down) by creating a culture that helps people acknowledge their missteps and regrets.”
“You regret the things you don’t do, not the things you do.”
Failure as a learning opportunity.
In short, Sheryl Sandberg seems like a well-balanced, emotionally intelligent person and is everything that I am not. I vary between mad respect and not feeling good enough. I also wished she were the one who narrated her own book...
ecuathai's review against another edition
5.0
Lose comes in many ways...a must ready for anyone simply dealing with life.
irmadk's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Perspective and reflection on major loss, resilience and community.
zbmorgan's review against another edition
4.0
Part memoir, part encouragement, this book by Lean In Author Sandberg tries to be both things, and while it never quite achieves the 'how to face adversity' part in a step by step manner, it does show enough statistics and personal stories to allow the reader to feel that it can be done.
What this book excels at though, is showing Sandberg as a human, lovely person, more in touch with her grief and how it affected her children, friends, family, and her own self-image than the average bear. Her regret - still - that her husband is no longer with her is something that comes across clearly. Don't read this in public, and make sure tissues are handy - it is at times so raw that you will have to put the book down.
What this book excels at though, is showing Sandberg as a human, lovely person, more in touch with her grief and how it affected her children, friends, family, and her own self-image than the average bear. Her regret - still - that her husband is no longer with her is something that comes across clearly. Don't read this in public, and make sure tissues are handy - it is at times so raw that you will have to put the book down.
toxicpick's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.5