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mattea29's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
medium-paced
4.5
brookepriestas's review against another edition
4.0
I had chills finishing this book. Carrie Goldberg, you are one badass woman.
nakbari's review against another edition
challenging
dark
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
sad
tense
fast-paced
2.5
torialmond's review against another edition
dark
emotional
informative
sad
tense
4.0
the last chapter of this book (the conclusion) was one of the most horrifying stories i’ve ever heard in my life. there were many graphic stories in here that were shocking to hear, and lots of people (men) with despicable behavior, so when i reached the end assuming we were maybe on an upswing, i was not prepared for this grand finale of a story. wow.
i feel like i also learned a lot in terms of law and legislation when it comes to things like stalking, revenge p*rn, etc as she talked about various clients of hers throughout her career. at times the legal jargon went a bit over my head or i had to rewind but overall
it was digestible.
the author showed so much resilience and perseverance in situations i could not begin to imagine experiencing and surviving through. not only is she a survivor herself, but she fights for other survivors in her professor and it’s pretty amazing to see that she turned such terrifying experiences into the career she has. the authors note was very uplifting and hopeful without cheapening the message overall. very moving, very emotional, super graphic so please be warned!!!
i feel like i also learned a lot in terms of law and legislation when it comes to things like stalking, revenge p*rn, etc as she talked about various clients of hers throughout her career. at times the legal jargon went a bit over my head or i had to rewind but overall
it was digestible.
the author showed so much resilience and perseverance in situations i could not begin to imagine experiencing and surviving through. not only is she a survivor herself, but she fights for other survivors in her professor and it’s pretty amazing to see that she turned such terrifying experiences into the career she has. the authors note was very uplifting and hopeful without cheapening the message overall. very moving, very emotional, super graphic so please be warned!!!
Content Warnings
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Child death, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Racism, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Stalking, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
anastasiarozova's review
4.0
“The American [but honestly every other country's as well] justice system creeps forward at a glacial pace, stymied in part by the efforts of the same powerful men who benefit from laws that protect their interests and forgive their sins.”
This is an important read.
It's important for women so they know they are not alone. There are people who are willing to help, who want to help, and who choose a whole career path to help. That's a little reassuring, even when you live in a totally different country.
It's important for men so they can understand what A LOT of girls and women come through. Often multiple times in their lives. It's harrowing and exhausting. It ruins careers, families, lives. Please listen to women around them, trust them, help them (if and how they ask you to), but more importantly, don't judge them, support them.
Sisters, I am with you. You are not alone. We are not alone. We'll be fine.
On the audiobook itself. Carrie's narration works perfectly, she did a great job, even though there were some pauses in the wrong places. But I understand how hard it is to voice a whole book, so no complaints there.
This is an important read.
It's important for women so they know they are not alone. There are people who are willing to help, who want to help, and who choose a whole career path to help. That's a little reassuring, even when you live in a totally different country.
It's important for men so they can understand what A LOT of girls and women come through. Often multiple times in their lives. It's harrowing and exhausting. It ruins careers, families, lives. Please listen to women around them, trust them, help them (if and how they ask you to), but more importantly, don't judge them, support them.
Sisters, I am with you. You are not alone. We are not alone. We'll be fine.
On the audiobook itself. Carrie's narration works perfectly, she did a great job, even though there were some pauses in the wrong places. But I understand how hard it is to voice a whole book, so no complaints there.
mklein319's review against another edition
challenging
dark
emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
sad
slow-paced
4.75
Content Warnings
Graphic: Child abuse, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, Sexual violence, Stalking, and Sexual harassment
rachebarkley's review
4.0
Ultimately, this was a good read. As a law student, a survivor advocate, an aspiring victim’s rights attorney, and a survivor myself, I was awed by Carrie Goldberg’s journey of starting her firm and her passion for supporting survivors. That said, I wish that the language had been a bit more nuanced when regarding men who behave in violent, manipulative ways. Throughout the book, Carrie refers to men who cause harm as psychos. Not every man who engages in these patterns of behavior are psychotic under the clinical definition and not all psychotic people engage in these patterns of behavior. As a person with a disability who suffers from mental illness as a result of my trauma, ableist language like this is not only reductive, but further stigmatizes mental health and the notion that those with mental illness are violent, unpredictable, and dangerous.
Additionally, I wish that the chapter called “girls lives matter” had been called “Black girls lives matter” considering most of the young clients she profiles in that chapter were Black. Yes, White girls and other girls of color are victimized as well, but as many Black scholars, commentators, and activists have stated time and time again, it’s important to say what you mean when you’re discussing race, privilege, and power as it relates to Black people. The word Black isn’t a slur and acknowledging that Black women and girls are most affected by gender-based violence and less likely to be believed when coming forward due to patterns of adultification and race-based stereotypes, it’s important to be clear that when you’re saying girls lives matter you mean Black girls…. Plus referring to any other race and using “lives matter” after it is in poor taste considering how often White supremacists use the terms all lives matter and white lives matter to make a mockery of the movement.
Overall, great book with a unique focus on non-consensual dissemination of sexual imagery. As someone who reads a lot about gender-based violence and sexual assault, it was also great to see a lot of reference to sexual violence that occurs off of college campuses
Additionally, I wish that the chapter called “girls lives matter” had been called “Black girls lives matter” considering most of the young clients she profiles in that chapter were Black. Yes, White girls and other girls of color are victimized as well, but as many Black scholars, commentators, and activists have stated time and time again, it’s important to say what you mean when you’re discussing race, privilege, and power as it relates to Black people. The word Black isn’t a slur and acknowledging that Black women and girls are most affected by gender-based violence and less likely to be believed when coming forward due to patterns of adultification and race-based stereotypes, it’s important to be clear that when you’re saying girls lives matter you mean Black girls…. Plus referring to any other race and using “lives matter” after it is in poor taste considering how often White supremacists use the terms all lives matter and white lives matter to make a mockery of the movement.
Overall, great book with a unique focus on non-consensual dissemination of sexual imagery. As someone who reads a lot about gender-based violence and sexual assault, it was also great to see a lot of reference to sexual violence that occurs off of college campuses