Reviews

Anatomy of an Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them by Dave Carder

kristianawithak's review

3.0

This was practical and insightful.

s_mack_'s review against another edition

4.5

This book was written by someone who is specialized in counseling people in marriages that are walking through sexual temptation and infidelity. The material is hard because alot of the people he's worked with didn't have their happy endings. This book, as the cover suggests, is a warning. It teaches you how to detect those ***danger ahead*** signs, how discover your specific and unique vulnerabilities from childhood relationships, coping mechanisms, marriage tension, and seasonal difficulties. It's very interactive and is most effective done in conjunction with your spouse if they choose to work through this with you. This information has helped me be aware and on guard while being sensitive to those same things in my husband now that weve shared these stories together. And that my friend, is priceless!

jill_rey's review against another edition

3.0

Anatomy of an Affair is an intense, thoughtful and eye-opening read. I have been with my partner nearly a decade and this book succeeded in teaching us a lot about each other, our thoughts and our feelings. Specifically, page 129-131 has a list of roles, values, responsibilities, etc. that provided an extraordinary aid in breaking down our marriage/household tasks. It facilitated a great conversation that then led into discussing several other topics within.

Author, Dave Carder, does a thorough job of explaining “close calls” in a relationship, what to be careful of and how to keep the spark of joy and excitement alive in marriage. One suggestion, aided by this book, is to recreate 8 great moments from “dating,” by taking time for ourselves we remember what brought us together in the first place.

*Disclaimer: A review copy was provided by the publisher. All opinions are my own.