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Perdegimas: kaip suvaldyti emocijas, sumažinti įtampa ir džiaugtis gyvenimu by Amelia Nagosky, Emily Nagoski

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witchboyofboston's review against another edition

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3.25

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takarakei's review against another edition

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5.0

This is my new "everyone I know has to read this" book. 

Audio was good, but also glad I own a copy that I can refer back to. They also have some built in worksheets to help process some of the topics discussed.
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novella42's review against another edition

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5.0

 Probably one of the books I recommend the most. I’ve read it something like five times in the last four years. It includes very accessible science and phenomenal strategies on how to process and release the stress that builds up in our bodies over years of repression. Introduced me to the concept of body language as in “learn to speak the language of your body” instead of just ignoring and hating it and wondering why it’s constantly rebelling against me. It helped me see emotions as information from my body and nervous system, and it helped me truly understand why the only way out is through—that emotions only feel like they last forever if we resist them.

"The quality of our lives is not measured by the amount of time we spend in a state of perfection." 

"To be “well” is not to live in a state of perpetual safety and calm, but to move fluidly from a state of adversity, risk, adventure, or excitement, back to safety and calm, and out again. Stress is not bad for you; being stuck is bad for you."

“So how much rest is adequate? Science says: 42 percent. That’s the percentage of time your body and brain need you to spend resting. It’s about ten hours out of every twenty-four. It doesn’t have to be every day; it can average out over a week or a month or more. But yeah. That much. ‘That’s ridiculous! I don’t have that kind of time!’ you might protest—and we remind you that we predicted you might feel that way, back at the start of the chapter. We’re not saying you should take 42 percent of your time to rest; we’re saying that if you don’t take the 42 percent, the 42 percent will take you. It will grab you by the face, shove you to the ground, put its foot on your chest, and declare itself the victor.”

Read it for the chapters on fight/flight/freeze, on escaping the cycle of learned helplessness, and ESPECIALLY for the chapter on processing stress while laying in bed. (It’s not a perfect alternative to physical exercise, but a literal lifesaver when you’re disabled and struggling). I honestly don’t know who I would be if I hadn’t had these specific exercises during 2020-2024. 
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anniefwrites's review against another edition

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I learned a lot from this book, and I’m still processing it all. I heard the authors on Brené Brown’s podcast and resonated with the idea of completing the stress cycle, and I found that part of the book the most useful and eye-opening. Some of it I found a little too conversational or simple for people who are decently versed in feminism, but there are a lot of gems and nuggets of knowledge in it. I haven’t done the exercises yet, so I’m hoping they’ll crack open some of the more abstract ideas they presented. 
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