Reviews with content warning for Emotional abuse - Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents (16pt Large Print Edition)

Too much ableism to take seriously and it got increasingly repetitive that I felt I was not retaining anything by the end bc I kept zoning out. It was revelatory though, that for all their faults, my parents were emotionally mature when it came to raising me and made me feel I mattered. Like my dad hits most of the emotionally immature, externalizer checklists (lol) but in general he was surprisingly attentive to me growing up and not in a manipulative way or anything like in some of the examples provided here. So I thought I was gonna end up trashing my parents but no, I'm actually surprised that they were PARENTS parents to me. Who knew? So my focus went on how this book is so ableist and dunks on neurodivergent people ridiculously a lot, why are people praising it so much? Also, when she starts describing externalizers vs. internalizers it felt like reading the horoscope and she kept referecing old, Cold War era studies. But after reading this part in the book, it's not surprising.

Human emotional immaturity has been studied for a long time. However, over the years it has lost ground to an increasing focus on symptoms and clinical diagnosis, using a medical disease model to quantify behaviors as illnesses suitable for insurance reimbursement.

That sounds red flaggy to me idk. And to reach her hard set conclusions this dr. has to be super simplistic and conveniently ignores a bunch of social, racial, economic and mental factors. Like I don't pretend to know more than her but the book feels incomplete to me bc of that, but maybe I'm just talking out of my ass.

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akswhy's review against another edition

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hopeful informative fast-paced

3.0

Good information for adults struggling with boundaries with their parents, but I read it for the final chapter on how to identify emotionally mature people while dating. That chapter was mainly common sense (they ask questions about you, they don’t have a temper, they are steady and consistent emotionally, etc.).

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reflective slow-paced

2.75

I feel like it included some interesting ideas overall, but also seemed to misrepresent an array of psychological studies when it talked about subjects related to the topic at hand.

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