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georgies5's review against another edition

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3.0

As many people know, I have recently been involved in quite a disastrous break up. For a while, the pain felt insurmountable and never-ending and there was only so much talking I could do. As supportive and amazing my friends and family are, they have their own lives, and I could only moan, whine and complain so much before becoming disrespectful to their own problems. My relationship ended suddenly due to infidelity and numerous issues coming to a head, and I struggled to comprehend why I had allowed myself to deal with these issues for so long. This book helped me come to terms that there were deeper issues involved, such as feeling like I was walking on eggshells and being afraid to raise an issue for fear of an argument. Rachel Sussman narrated like an experienced friend, validating my emotions whilst also providing me the tools to help solve my own problems. Drawing from her own experience as a psychotherapist and using the anecdotes of countless other women, Rachel helped me feel a little less alone and a bit more positive that I would come out the other side, stronger and more optimistic about the future.
I would advise though; this book is steered towards people that are on the receiving end of the breakup (especially if it was not amicable). This book took me through several coping mechanisms and helped me receive closure and explanations that were not given to me when my relationship ended (over text!). Providing invaluable advice that I deserve so much better than what was given to me, and that there was something I could do to ensure not to fall into the same traps. This book gave me the blunt, honest truths and helped me to take accountability for my part of the relationship failure. I worked my way through the 3 sections of the book, each section based on different stages of post-breakup. I especially love that this book does not use faith and mindfulness as much as other self-help books, as I felt that I could have a hand in my own recovery.
I strongly recommend this book if you are in a difficult place and are ready for some home truths whilst receiving a supporting hand of comfort. This book was so beautifully written and hit so many points on the head. However, I felt that I knew most of the contents, I just needed to read it and give myself a good kick up the arse. In some areas, the book can feel a little contrived and I felt longing for some sections to end. The sections that felt irrelevant to me, may be life changing for another reader, so please take my criticisms with a pinch of salt. Overall, a very useful guide and provides a good pick-me-up for a rainy day.

wistyallgood's review against another edition

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3.0

I saw another review that said this book is definitely more geared towards someone who was broken up with, rather than does the breaking up. I totally agree. Still, there was a lot of interesting psychology in this, and some cool suggestions. I mostly appreciated the chapter where the author shared her own story, and the chapter about dating again. She's a smart cookie, probably a great friend/therapist to have.

mercenator's review against another edition

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2.0

So heteronormative it hurts. Also: anyone with any kind of sense knows most of the things that she is suggesting. Some of the practices around attachment style were enlightening, but overall you could have gotten any of this from your own intuition.
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