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jp_riemersma's review against another edition
4.75
Graphic: Mental illness, Colonisation, Death of parent, Drug use, Gaslighting, Homophobia, Physical abuse, Pregnancy, Sexual violence, Violence, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Infidelity, Stalking, Abortion, Alcohol, Child abuse, Lesbophobia, Addiction, Biphobia, Rape, Infertility, Islamophobia, Racism, Sexual harassment, Medical content, Transphobia, Adult/minor relationship, Domestic abuse, Misogyny, Outing, Pandemic/Epidemic, Religious bigotry, Sexism, Sexual content, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Miscarriage, Racial slurs, Pedophilia, and Xenophobia
kwaeisig's review against another edition
4.5
Moderate: Abortion, Child abuse, Racism, Rape, Pregnancy, Religious bigotry, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, and Toxic friendship
Minor: Lesbophobia, Mental illness, Homophobia, Infertility, Ableism, Alcohol, Infidelity, Biphobia, and Classism
I think this book makes us stop and think about what sex is and means for the diaspora of Black women across the globe. It has no one definition and is an ever changing concept and women age and grow and experience new things throughout their lives. The way sex is viewed starts young and many times children are having sexual acts among themselves which is disheartening and troublesome and difficult to acknowledge. As many parents work to shield their children from such exposure, somehow, they are still being exposed be it from the media or their peers or watching adult interactions/mannerisms. I think this book does a good job by highlighting the similarities in all of our differences as Black women and how at the end of the day, we all wants to be understood, respected, listened to, and honored, while also having the freedom to have guiltless shameless sex that ends in orgasm without regret, sexual assault, or rape. This books makes you think of the younger generation of children that are on the cusp of puberty and how they are being socialized to understand (or not understand) their bodies, the reproductive system, sex, gender identity, gender expression, sex as an act, consent, and so much more. I can only hope that they are more knowledgeable than those that have come before them and are more powerful in how they navigate the world we all live in. Though some of the stories were quite sad, some were also motivational, relatable, and provided glimpses of hope for a better tomorrow. And for that I give thanks to the author for spending 5 years compiling these very real stories and sharing them.eilatan6991's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Infidelity, Sexual harassment, Racism, Transphobia, Rape, Sexual content, Child abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, and Sexism
Moderate: Emotional abuse, Suicide, Grief, Drug use, Miscarriage, Pedophilia, Colonisation, and Adult/minor relationship
miainthemargins's review against another edition
3.0
Graphic: Misogyny, Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Homophobia, Racism, Pregnancy, Domestic abuse, Sexual violence, Transphobia, Child abuse, Gaslighting, Physical abuse, Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Rape, Sexual assault, Lesbophobia, and Sexual harassment
freethefrican's review against another edition
5.0
Moderate: Homophobia, Emotional abuse, Addiction, Biphobia, Body shaming, Mental illness, and Miscarriage
seeceeread's review
3.5
A frien put me on by giving "a fat five stars" to this interview collection with "stories across age, religion, sexuality, gender and relationship status." Darkoa crisscrosses continents and a few languages to achieve such diversity in perspective. Subjects are remarkably candid — I often marveled at the details shared. For much of the book, I thought the women were forthcoming due to friendship (many have known the author for years) but in the end, NDS explains that it's moreso because interviewees were determined to break their silence to achieve pleasure and healing. Every story comes with its own content warning to encourage prepared engagement.
Some parts felt extremely relatable, even sadly predictable: partners' jealousy, youthful naivete that gave way to self-assurance, sexual assault. Still, I was agape at some of the drama and shenanigans: cheating, boarding school trysts, cheating, repeatedly returning to Red Flag Relationships, cheating, confiscated sex toys at the airport, more cheating. I'm curious about the set of questions that guided NDS.
I did not like the audio presentation. Several narrators sound prepared for more traditional theater, and they overperform the "characters" they inhabit, which perhaps added to my sense of distance from some contributors.
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Sexism, Sexual content, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Sexual harassment, Biphobia, Domestic abuse, Ableism, and Child abuse
nathwani's review against another edition
3.25
Graphic: Sexual content, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, and Sexual assault
lottieminney's review against another edition
4.25
Graphic: Racism, Sexual content, Sexual assault, Misogyny, Miscarriage, Mental illness, Sexual violence, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, Rape, Pregnancy, Physical abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Infidelity, Grief, Colonisation, Adult/minor relationship, Abortion, Violence, Domestic abuse, Sexism, and Religious bigotry