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I was impressed by how much value I found in this book. There are some parts that suffer from the audio format - lists and tables that would work perfectly in text, but get repetitive and hard to sustain focus on when read aloud - but the author (reading her own work) comes across as very warm and genuine, and very ready to laugh about shared human foibles.
I particularly liked Ray's very non-judgmental, collaborative approach to suggesting behaviour change. My favourite example: "instead of doing X, I invite you to practice doing Y". A beautifully non-threatening way to introduce options to readers who might well be experiencing a lot of fear and resistance to change.
Lots of food for thought here, and despite not being big on re-reading books I may well revisit this in the future.
I will just note that I found several of Ray's comments in the section on communication (passive, passive-aggressive, aggressive, and assertive) oddly lacking consideration of neurodiversity, despite other sections of the book explicitly acknowledging it. Many of the criteria and descriptions mention "appropriate" nonverbal responses, eye contact, etc, in a way that feels very prescriptive.
I particularly liked Ray's very non-judgmental, collaborative approach to suggesting behaviour change. My favourite example: "instead of doing X, I invite you to practice doing Y". A beautifully non-threatening way to introduce options to readers who might well be experiencing a lot of fear and resistance to change.
Lots of food for thought here, and despite not being big on re-reading books I may well revisit this in the future.
I will just note that I found several of Ray's comments in the section on communication (passive, passive-aggressive, aggressive, and assertive) oddly lacking consideration of neurodiversity, despite other sections of the book explicitly acknowledging it. Many of the criteria and descriptions mention "appropriate" nonverbal responses, eye contact, etc, in a way that feels very prescriptive.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Ableism
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