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Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
26 reviews
lizziaha's review against another edition
4.0
Slightly outside the target audience for this book, but good info nonetheless.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual content
jcinf's review against another edition
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced
4.5
For nonfiction, I really enjoyed this. I’m not a nonfiction girly, so it did take me a little while to get through.
But the narrator (I believe the author narrated) was really engaging. She had a great tone. Fun when it was time to be fun and serious when necessary, too.
SA (s*exual ass*ult) trigger warning. But those parts were super well written. I appreciated how she didn’t linger on those parts too long. It felt just enough to inform without being triggering.
My main complaint is that it felt redundant at times. Tho I can understand that she may have been redundant bc the whole point of the book is to shift narratives surrounding AFAB/women/femme people’s sex lives. And it’s hard to shift narratives rooted is misogyny with just a few sentences.
Main topics I loved:
• dropping the shame around sex
• normalizing a diversity labias
• understanding your style of desire — spontaneous or responsive
• changing your expectations of yourself during sex
Highly recommend to anyone like me, who gets in their head during sex sometimes.
But the narrator (I believe the author narrated) was really engaging. She had a great tone. Fun when it was time to be fun and serious when necessary, too.
SA (s*exual ass*ult) trigger warning. But those parts were super well written. I appreciated how she didn’t linger on those parts too long. It felt just enough to inform without being triggering.
My main complaint is that it felt redundant at times. Tho I can understand that she may have been redundant bc the whole point of the book is to shift narratives surrounding AFAB/women/femme people’s sex lives. And it’s hard to shift narratives rooted is misogyny with just a few sentences.
Main topics I loved:
• dropping the shame around sex
• normalizing a diversity labias
• understanding your style of desire — spontaneous or responsive
• changing your expectations of yourself during sex
Highly recommend to anyone like me, who gets in their head during sex sometimes.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Misogyny, Sexism, Sexual content, and Sexual violence
Moderate: Sexual assault
Minor: Ableism
smokingchagga's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
reflective
5.0
Honestly, this passed my expectations (which were already very high) unbelievably well. While a lot of it is centered on cis women, I do believe it's useful for pretty much everyone. Much of the information and advice can be applied to almost any context, no matter the gender, sexuality, or sex of the reader.
I saw another review on Goodreads complaining about the huge amount of metaphors. They didn't bother me and did a lot to upkeep the 'lightness' of the book. I can see it being mildly annoying to some but it doesn't take away from what the book is saying. Besides, how can I critique a book that calls me a tomato plant?
Jokes aside, there were a few sentences and wording that made me 'hmm' but it's not significant enough to subtract stars from the rating.
I saw another review on Goodreads complaining about the huge amount of metaphors. They didn't bother me and did a lot to upkeep the 'lightness' of the book. I can see it being mildly annoying to some but it doesn't take away from what the book is saying. Besides, how can I critique a book that calls me a tomato plant?
Jokes aside, there were a few sentences and wording that made me 'hmm' but it's not significant enough to subtract stars from the rating.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexism
Moderate: Sexual assault
Feels interesting to add content warnings to a nonfiction book but it has to be said. Sexism and sexual assault are the most prevalent warnings. They are however discussed with care and understanding so I doubt it would be an issue in that sense. It does go into some detail about myths and harmful ideas about sexual assault which might be a hard thing to read about. Everything does absolutely have an optimistic undertone.liv_txt's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.25
Content Warnings
Graphic: Misogyny
Moderate: Sexual assault and Sexual harassment
Minor: Fatphobia, Rape, Sexism, Suicide, Grief, and Stalking
klimatyczny_bluszcz's review against another edition
funny
informative
inspiring
relaxing
slow-paced
4.25
I really liked how the author made all of the knowledge funny, easy to read and complete. The style of writing and the amusing metaphors made it easy to focus on the text and understand the point made. Helpful in discovering and depthening my understanding of my own sexuality. However I felt quite concerned while reading about the author's radical acceptance for almost everything around sex and the constantly reapeted sentence: 'You are normal, you are healthy'. I am not quite sure that completely everything consensual and without unwanted pain, as Emily suggested, is healthy in sex. I can see, why it appeared so many time in the book, as I observe quite a lot of fear and stigma around women's sexuality, but I do not agree that it is so easy to tell everyone they are normal. Therefore, I was not completly satisfied with the read, however I found it really useful and entertaining at once
Content Warnings
Moderate: Sexism, Sexual content, and Sexual violence
cdingler07's review against another edition
challenging
hopeful
informative
reflective
tense
slow-paced
3.5
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual content
Moderate: Mental illness, Sexism, and Sexual assault
Minor: Rape
This book primarily covers sexual function with references to elements that can hinder a pleasurable experience. TW: sexual assault, mental illness, misogyny etc.kingrosereads's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.5
An incredible health book on sexuality. It was organized well with enough examples and worksheets to make the content understandable. It taught me so much about my own sexuality and I understand so much more about the body and sex. The only thing I wish this book included was sexual orientation, asexuality, and more on sex after trauma. I feel like I learned a lot, but there was just something missing from the book, like there was more to be discussed. I definitely recommend this book to everyone. Men, women, enbies, queer, hetero, singles, couples, everyone. I think it's incredibly important to talk about the societal expectations and the reality surrounding sex. The book focuses on how the physical response doesn't always align with the mental reception and how to understand our sexual brakes and accelerators.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Rape, Sexism, and Sexual assault
rosalind's review
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual content
Moderate: Sexual assault and Grief
Minor: Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Misogyny, Sexism, Stalking, and Acephobia/Arophobia
zombiezami's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
4.0
Most of what's in this book is stuff I knew already. I think this would be more useful for people with more complicated relationships with sex and their bodies. The author's tone is compassionate and knowledgeable, and I'm sure the book has helped and will continue to help lots of people. I wish that the author was more specific about using terms like "cis" and "dfab" since that's the audience she's discussing.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Body shaming, Fatphobia, Misogyny, Sexism, Sexual content, Medical content, and Gaslighting
Moderate: Homophobia, Mental illness, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Pregnancy
Minor: Ableism, Cancer, Drug use, Eating disorder, Terminal illness, Death of parent, Alcohol, and War
cis-centrismblackcatkai's review against another edition
funny
informative
reflective
slow-paced
3.0
CW: cis-centered language/science, sexual content, medical content, mentions of sexual assault
overall, a lot of good information. lots of basics, more in-depth discussions, every section has a tl;dr breakdown of what you just read that makes it easier to know basic points to refer to later. it was a bit repetitious with some information/sentences & the author would often mention how something is talked about more in other chapters. generally not a bad thing, but it happened a lot so it just felt like too much at times.
there are a couple stories interwoven throughout the book that correlate with the section/topic being discussed but they often feel disjointed as theyre so broken up that it's easy, when you get back to it, to be confused a moment before the context comes back to you. understandable why the author set it up this way, the execution was just slightly off for me, personally.
Nagoski brings up tons of good points, information, and i did absolutely get emotional in specific sections that super hit home for me, personally, so it can definitely be a book i go back to reference for myself in the future, but i do wish it was a bit more inclusive in it's language in general. i get it, but as a nonbinary afab person, it just got to me, mostly in the beginning sections.
overall, a lot of good information. lots of basics, more in-depth discussions, every section has a tl;dr breakdown of what you just read that makes it easier to know basic points to refer to later. it was a bit repetitious with some information/sentences & the author would often mention how something is talked about more in other chapters. generally not a bad thing, but it happened a lot so it just felt like too much at times.
there are a couple stories interwoven throughout the book that correlate with the section/topic being discussed but they often feel disjointed as theyre so broken up that it's easy, when you get back to it, to be confused a moment before the context comes back to you. understandable why the author set it up this way, the execution was just slightly off for me, personally.
Nagoski brings up tons of good points, information, and i did absolutely get emotional in specific sections that super hit home for me, personally, so it can definitely be a book i go back to reference for myself in the future, but i do wish it was a bit more inclusive in it's language in general. i get it, but as a nonbinary afab person, it just got to me, mostly in the beginning sections.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Misogyny, Sexism, Sexual content, and Medical content
Moderate: Rape and Sexual assault