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How Beautiful We Were, by Imbolo Mbue

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lsbonnie's review against another edition

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Plot- or character-driven? Plot
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

4.5

Okay. There is a lot that I want to say about it.

I don’t think I had ever read a fiction focused on ecology, which is why I was drawn to this story to begin with. What a treat! An American company settling near a fictional village to dig and take all of its oil to bring back to the USA, not caring one bit about the consequences caused by its activities. The water is polluted, the soil is polluted, the air is polluted, children are dying… What can they do to protect their village? Should it be peaceful, or violent? What will happen when they rebel?

But it is more than just ecology. It’s also about colonization.

Colonization has impacted the lives of Kosawa and neighbour villages for decades and still to this day. Slave trade, colonialism, putting a dictator in place who works with the American/European, neocolonialism, … It shows in plenty of small and big ways. It is everywhere. The story may be fictional, but the History is not; it is a reminder (for white people, really) of the violence committed against non-white people when invading countries.

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I also particularly liked the part with Konga not wanting the help of the Restoration Movement, not wanting their freedom to depend on them, because then are they truly free? “when you're old, you'll see that the ones who came to kill us and the ones who will want to save us are the same. No matter their pretenses, they all arrive here believing they have the power to take from us or give to us whatever will satisfy their endless wants.”

Culturally speaking, it is a truly interesting book. The Spirit, the twins Jakani and Sakani, Juba coming back from the dead, … – all the supernatural and other inexplicable events were gripping but also just made normal. American and European cultures tend to look at these beliefs in a condescending way but here they are shown as just normal, existing, part of everyday life, which they are. Even putting the supernatural aside, the book shows their lives as they are, without the patronizing view American/European can have (“they live in huts omg poor African people!”), which is refreshing.

On another note, as a (white and European) feminist, it was sometimes hard for me to read as there is quite a lot of misogyny in this book. But I also found it interesting because it reflects how some cultures are. You cannot expect every country, every culture to meet you where you are, you have to meet them where they are and try to see their point of view, their history, their ways of living. Just because they do things differently it doesn’t mean that they are wrong. Moreover, the Kosawa community is not completely closed off, I’d even say that it is open to change.

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For example, even though Thula won’t get married and have children, they still listen. Yes, the impregnation ceremony was awful to read, but in a way they are still giving her a choice (the child won’t come unless she decides to have a child), they are not sending someone to rape her or refusing to listen to her because she is a childless unmarried woman. And they were doing so to help her, so that she would be listened to in other communities. There are mentions of other sexualities and of gender, and while the Kosawa community may not understand they do not react violently or reject it categorically.

Honestly, I would love for Mbue to tell us why she included all those elements. I read some interviews but saw nothing about that.

However I’m confused as to why the (tw: pedophilia)

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grandfather assaulted by his uncle when he was a child

was in the story. Maybe Mbue wanted to say that (tw)

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boys and men get raped too?

Maybe it is something that part of her community prefers ignoring therefore she wants to shed light on it? It would be interesting to have her reasoning on this too.

To finish, I liked the writing style. I usually am not a fan of multiple narrators and/or narratives over many years as I tend to get lost, but I found it easy to follow here. I particularly liked when the narrator was “the children”, a whole group of people speaking at one. I will say though that at times it felt like Mbue went into too many details, slowing down the narrative. But I believe that it is worth pushing through, to read the whole story.

Almost a 5*, but I took off 0.5 because of the pace too slow at times and for some details that I consider unnecessary. But apart from that, I truly recommend reading this book, especially if you are white.

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Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

4.5

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noahsingh's review

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Loveable characters? N/A

4.0

This was really well-written, I enjoyed the character perspective jumps (which I normally don't to be honest), I love how they were used to expand upon a singular familys perspective on both each other and the events in Kosawa and it's a really heartbreaking but realistic depiction of neo-colonialism/capitalism/etc
The reason this was only four rather than five stars for me is this (spoilers ahead and tw for rape/sexual assault):
1. What was the need to write the twins doing that to Thula? Seriously. It doesn't help the cause if any real way, she doesn't even end up realizing she's pregnant or having the child, she isn't even aware anything happened to her. Instead we just get the off-screen sexual assault of the main character with the complicity of some of the people she trusts most. Is the point just that women suffer from the short-sightedness of misogynistic men? If so, that was already made clear throughout the rest of the book. It was just upsetting for no reason in my opinion.
2. By the end of the book you're stuck with only Juba's perspective and the children who didn't rebel. I understand that the ending was realistic in terms, things like this often don't get fixed. What I didn't understand was the need to finish the book with the perspectives of those who conform to, and even benefit from, the oppression of people who they were once like. There was just, a bit too much sympathy for the oppressors in this book, I mean, what was the need for the Leader to have a tragic backstory as well? I'm sure lots of people who participate/benefit from oppression had some tragedy in their past, that doesn't make being complicit in the deaths of dozens of children okay? People do desperate things in desperate situations, sure, but why not focus more on solidarity? On potentially building resistance with the labourers at the oil pipes, rather than against them? I suppose my issue with this book is that despite the fact that I loved 90 percent of it, those last 40 or so pages of the book really lets it down. There's also quite a bit of skipping key/plot-important moments in the novel while instead lingering in the moments of depression/fear/terror. Which wouldn't be a problem if there was any payoff at the end, even if that had just been seeing the Five/Thula fight back against the soldiers, rather than hearing about it all third hand. Yes its brilliantly written, but the ultimate perspective jumps into Juba and the other Children, means that the final message of the book seems to be one of assimilation into systems of western/capitalism/neocolonial oppression. It lets down the rest of the book.

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ameeth's review

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Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

This is a book that I have to give 5 stars, because it still gnaws at me many days after finishing. Mbue writes incredibly vivid characters, and with the use of multiple POVs, we get to read (and reread) the events of this community unspool over 40 long years. While there were a couple character perspectives I wished she had returned to, the intergenerational focus on the women of Thula's family was apt. In addition to fighting environmental racism, colonialism, etc, the women were forced to contend with a patriarchal system on all sides.

Another strong choice was the returning, omniscient second person POV of "the children." These chapters not only illuminated the trauma and failures of each previous generation- they kept reinforcing how much and how little was changing. Nevertheless, I found their hope infectious, to detrimental effect. This story is a gut punch, in part because it is more real than fiction.

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Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

3.25

This is a solid read - but not for the lighthearted. The topics this story deals with are heavy and

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given the realities that it takes inspiration from, you cannot expect a happy ending no matter how much you hope for the village to persevere

. At first, I was a bit thrown by the multiple and almost omnipresent narrators, but towards the end, you start to realize how it made sense - I only wish I would have gotten more opportunity to return to the perspectives of some characters throughout instead of being constantly carried through by “The Children”. As a consequence of the multiple narrators, we also skipped over some quite uncomfortable gender roles or realities - while it makes perfect sense to get an insight into the various mindsets and traditions within the village, it would have been nice to see even more emphasis on the strong female characters in the story, as they could have made for an excellent and more obviously pronounced feminist storyline. Overall though, a nice read - albeit one should prepare for sadness more than happiness!

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qqjj's review

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Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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cabuff's review

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Plot- or character-driven? Plot
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

4.75

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Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

Wow. When they say something is an arduous read... this definitely felt like one. Perhaps it is because as a Nigerian person from the oil-producing Niger Delta region, this felt like a salt on a raw wound, like a bandaid slowly, painfully being peeled off a hairy leg, like digging into a raw wound. And yet it is so gorgeously written, that even though I was triggered and absolutely heartbroken and destroyed reading this, I was highlighting large swathes of the gorgeous writing.

The premise is that Kosawa is a (fictional) post-colonial village somewhere in a forgotten, rural part of a fictional unnamed country in Africa. After decades of oil exploration, their land and water have been destroyed by villainous American oil company, Pexton, and the pollution is killing their children and relatives. One family, the Nangi, family seems destined to take on the burden of leading the revolution to bring justice to the community and end decades of exploitation, specifically granddaughter Thula Nangi, but it comes at a steep cost.

This was a book that covered a lot of ground thematically and historically in a really painstaking way, trying to cover varied perspectives. For that reason, it felt a lot slower and a lot longer than it was. This was a somewhat slow and difficult read and not just because it’s meandering through different storytellers with different perspectives of the same story, not because of the sometimes back and forth shifting timelines, or the tedious detail that is gone into to ensure that no piece of the story is missed makes it a slow read, this was difficult because it is real and honest and true and anyone from anywhere who has ever been exploited and treated like justice doesn’t matter will relate.

When I started this book, I imagined that it was based on my country but reading further and deeper, I realized that the book is kind of based off a lot of African countries. The leader, His Excellency, is a conflation of every awful African dictator that has ever existed - you can pick your traits and utterances and identify which real life leaders contributed what to this Frankenstein-like monster. The oil company, Pexton, could really be any foreign mining or extraction company raping African resources and then adding insult to injury, colluding with corrupt governments to exploit the people. The reference to forced labour on rubber plantations and atrocities against those ancestors forced into that labour is clearly from Congo. I feel like this story belongs to many people, however it was inspired.

This book often read like anti-capitalist environmental fiction with an air of dystopia in it, but it’s even more devastating for the fact that I know it’s plausibility and I know it’s true because my people from my place of origin have lived through these exact things, are living through these exact things. So how wouldn’t I feel “a way” re-opening wounds about governments prioritizing corporations over people and over justice. How won’t I sympathize with Kosawa and with Thula and the children. How wouldn’t anyone of conscience empathize and condemn these acts.

This book feels like an indictment of corporate greed and irresponsibility, of leaders who sell their people out, of hierarchies that ignore the deaths and suffering of innocent children, of broken justice systems and of those of us who sit and wait to dialogue everything to death whilst the status quo persists, of the ones who choose violence and the consequences they bring to the innocent and to themselves. It is not a very hopeful book, but the reality of the situation for millions of people around the world who are being exploited by corporations is not a hopeful one either.

This is my second book by this author and what I love about this author’s writing is that she doesn’t tell you what to think, she doesn’t editorialize and tell you her opinions. She reveals the characters and how they think and feel and their opinions- wrong or right in a way that absolutely makes you understand their motivations whether you agree or not. She did this in Behold The Dreamers, and she does it here as well. I have worked on projects around post-conflict reconstruction around the extractive industry-motivated militancy and justice and access to data from the oil exploration sector, and I’ve never read or heard anyone reveal the history of things and provide a justification for the violence and bitterness that ensued like I’ve witnessed from this author in this book. I wish everyone from every other region who says “why are they so mad,” “why resort to violence?,” “why don’t they ask their own regional governments questions,” I wish everyone who looks down and judges my people could read this to understand the whys and the origin story.

But this book isn’t all modern capitalist atrocities and failed governments, somewhere in there are themes of colonialism and loss of heritage, of love and family and responsibility, of grief and heartbreak and loss, of femininity and feminism and sexuality, gender roles and culture and power. And of course, justice. But yes, this is definitely a story about how the worship of profit over people and the exploitation and corruption that result are historical- it’s in the heritage of the slave trade and slavery from Africa to the West, it’s in the way indigenous people in the the Americas (and elsewhere) have been unjustly treated and exploited over their own ancestral land and resources, it in the way that there is some in-born spirit of selfishness in those that seek to exploit others and greed in those willing to sell their compatriots out for money and power. The author then brings it down to the family level and talks about the corruptions and exploitations families overlook even when victims speak up, the misogyny and assault and betrayal amongst friends, the gaslighting, the loss of self and of cultural heritage, the colonization of future generations who were born free citizens. It is pretty depressing and triggering in every single way possible.

This book is divided into chapters by narrator. Each narrator sort of gets one shot to tell the story from their perspective- interspersed by chapters from “The Children” who are a sort of chorus of Thula’s (Thula Nangi is the sort of protagonist) age-mates at different stages in their lives from young childhood to grandparenthood. My favourite chapter was grandmother, Yaya’s chapter. I think that’s the level of resignation I’ve reached with this issue personally. When I read the first chapter of this, I thought I was going to give it 5 stars. But I think this was such a huge undertaking, there were so many themes and so many issues that the author captured that sometimes it felt too much a little and main thread of the story was a little lost. And I think this makes sense with so many sources telling the same story from different points of view and different times in life, and that is executed brilliantly and probably results in the art the author wanted to create even though it lost some of threads I wanted followed and I wanted to read. I think objectively, this is a 5-star book, but I feel a 4-star way about it: so 4.5 stars???? If you pick this up, bring your fury along, you’ll need it for this book. The rage alone!!!

Many thanks to Random House for the complementary review copy through NetGalley.

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