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The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy

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cattheteawitchfairy's review against another edition

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5.0

This was an incredible read, not just for information on polyamory but for on relationships and as a way of reframing many things within my mind.

The writing style is easy to comprehend, with explanations of confusing terms and a structure that is broken up on the page to allow for concentration breaks.

As well as giving you information, you get personal insights from the authors themselves and exercises to try to help you comprehend the material further.

I would recommend this text to anyone, especially if they are interested in sex and relationships as a topic; it will aid you in understanding polyamory as well as your own self and identity within romance and sex.
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ashurah's review against another edition

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4.25

A very informative book for those who are interested in or curious about nonmonogamy. Hardy and Easton explain it in a very inclusive and succinct manner. It's still a good read even if you are monogomous—there are exercises that work for all types of relationships relating to topics like jealousy, communication, and sexual needs.

The only criticism I have is that, although the authors taking great care to do so, it could be more intersectional/inclusive. For example, the authors only mention asexuality and aromanticism in a small section and the topic of race is barely mentioned. Most of the anecdotes used are very similar and relate to sexual encounters; it almost gives off the impression that the situations within these anecdotes are the "proper" way to experience nonmonogamy. For people who aren't in the typical audience the book can feel tone deaf at best, alienating at worst. I wish that the authors included more reflection on how a monogamous society affects our views of relationships and more anecdotes about building non-sexual relationships (i.e. questions to ask on dates, emotional connections, etc), rather than just initiating (most likely sexual) relationships.

For people who are more knowledgeable about nonmonogamy this book may not provide you with deeper insights, as it mostly acts as a primer for people who want to pursue or are new to polyamory. However, it's very good for those who don't have an idea of where to start.
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thewrongkenna's review against another edition

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4.5

Great book, very informative and fairly inclusive. 

I read the 3rd edition. 

There was some bits not relevant to me; childbearing etc - so I just skipped those.

Appreciated the glossary and further reading pages. 

Although it did include acespec identities there was still a heavy focus on sex. Which is fine but something to bear in mind when reading. 
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