nbub123's review against another edition
3.0
I heard Reshma speak at my company meeting two years ago. She was so powerful and inspiring which is why I read this book. I took a lot of actionable items away from reading this but overall it was a bit repetitive and I believe could've been 100 pages.
thewoollygeek's review against another edition
4.0
A good helpful book if your looking to break out of the cycle of how you were raised, breaking out of believing you aren’t good enough, that you have to be perfect. There are some good tips here, I found it a bit repetitive at times, but it has good sound helpful ideas. Sometimes a bit simplistic but I did find it helpful, a good starting point to jump off into further reading
Thanks to netgalley and the publisher for a free copy for an honest opinion
Thanks to netgalley and the publisher for a free copy for an honest opinion
blairlovesbooks's review against another edition
3.0
A five hour (if you listened to the audiobook as I did) expansion of a TED talk. Not bad, and it could be a good gift for a teenager, but as an adult woman in 2022, it did very little for me.
cherylcheng00's review against another edition
4.0
Sometimes perfectionism tells us that other people won't accept or value or love us unless we're perfect (what psychologists call "socially prescribed perfectionism"); other times it feels like we're the ones pushing ourselves to reach our own impossible standards ("self-oriented perfectionism"). Either way, it's a nagging presence that whispers in our ear, constantly reminding us of all the ways we failed others and ourselves.
Being able to handle it all doesn't require perfection. It demands bravery. It takes bravery to let go of control and delegate, to aim for 100 percent but be okay if you come in at 90, to make mistakes and own up to them without sliding into shame. It takes bravery to take care of yourself and say no when that voice in your head is telling you to sacrifice everything for your job and family. It takes bravery to give yourself a break and refuse to let guilt dictate your daily life ...
It's become a bit of a cliche to call yourself a perfectionist in a job interview, thinking it implies a strong work ethic and high attention to detail. The irony is that perfectionism actually impedes excellence. It causes us to overthink, overrevise, overanalyze: too much perfecting, not enough doing.
Being able to handle it all doesn't require perfection. It demands bravery. It takes bravery to let go of control and delegate, to aim for 100 percent but be okay if you come in at 90, to make mistakes and own up to them without sliding into shame. It takes bravery to take care of yourself and say no when that voice in your head is telling you to sacrifice everything for your job and family. It takes bravery to give yourself a break and refuse to let guilt dictate your daily life ...
It's become a bit of a cliche to call yourself a perfectionist in a job interview, thinking it implies a strong work ethic and high attention to detail. The irony is that perfectionism actually impedes excellence. It causes us to overthink, overrevise, overanalyze: too much perfecting, not enough doing.
redhickory's review against another edition
2.0
I found this book (even at 177 pages) too long for the premise, it became very repetitive. The author used the same examples from her life over and over again, it was more interesting when she brought in the experiences of others.
Like many books of this kind, what you will get out of it will partly depend where you are in your life. I would have found this much more valuable in my 20s. Now there is nothing new it in for me, and I found the binary way the author conceptualised things slightly annoying. I also disliked the use of the word "bravery" for other concepts. There is a bit about bravery but mostly it is about resilience and persistence.
Like many books of this kind, what you will get out of it will partly depend where you are in your life. I would have found this much more valuable in my 20s. Now there is nothing new it in for me, and I found the binary way the author conceptualised things slightly annoying. I also disliked the use of the word "bravery" for other concepts. There is a bit about bravery but mostly it is about resilience and persistence.
lizmart88's review against another edition
4.0
This book was recommended to me by a girlfriend, and I will be recommending it to everyone else!
I feel like it is a great companion to the book Burnout too!
So much of what they wrote resonated deeply with me about the fear of failure, the need for perfection, and how society harms girls through their expectations.
Makes me think deeply about how to be a role model for the little girls in my life and how I can push to be braver!
I feel like it is a great companion to the book Burnout too!
So much of what they wrote resonated deeply with me about the fear of failure, the need for perfection, and how society harms girls through their expectations.
Makes me think deeply about how to be a role model for the little girls in my life and how I can push to be braver!
annjk's review against another edition
4.0
It's a really good book, I enjoyed the research facts along with a myriad of short stories accomanying every chapter to give real life examples. I do have to note about a third of the chapters were already concepts that I've developed naturally throughout my life so far, so at parts I was really impatient when reading.
Wasn't exactly groundbreaking for me, more of a reassuring book, but I can imagine to someone else this read could be immensely valuable.
Wasn't exactly groundbreaking for me, more of a reassuring book, but I can imagine to someone else this read could be immensely valuable.
ejmiddleton's review against another edition
I want to read a book about how many of the cultural origins of gender differences are capitalist (buy makeup. Pay for hair color. Buy stuff for your kids - you can't blame the companies for trying, they're only selling it because people buy it. Universities expecting you to be a full time student at 18), and the harder part of equality is availability of insurance, the fact that women haven't had equal access to things for so long they might do things because they can and not that they want to (stem. Law school. Is this different than the second oldest son having to join the church?), working for traditionally male dominated companies can feel unwelcoming, the tricky business of being the only gender who can give birth, and having expensive or no available childcare.
kritzreads's review against another edition
3.0
"No more silencing or holding ourselves back or teaching our daughters to do the same it's time to stop this paradigm in its tracks."
Brave, Not Perfect by Reshma Saujani is one of the gems of the books I've come across in my lifetime. This is an authentic take against gender discrimination and sexism which is deftly baked in our culture. It is a powerful insight that redefines bravery and makes us follow our true dreams!
This amazing read written by Reshma Saujani is divided into three parts. Part 1 highlights how perfection is ingrained in a culture and how this cult is making the lives of young girls difficult everywhere. Part 2 redefines bravery it makes us rethink what actually is perfection!
Part 3 talks about the ways we can genuinely accept our flaws and flubs and provides us with methods to lead a bold and joyful life. It frees women from the moratorium placed on them in which to "be liked or be damned to hell" is the lesson taught every day and it destigmatizes this "all-or-nothing" game of perfection.
Amazingly written with various examples and contemporary references, this book will make you learn that "setbacks will not destroy, they will set you free."
It definitely helps girls and women of all ages to throw out the "elusive carrot of perfection" they are made to chew every day.
When I finally turned the last page of the book it left me with a sense of hope and accomplishment. It made me feel complete in a certain way which is the best possible thing a book can gift you!
Brave, Not Perfect by Reshma Saujani is one of the gems of the books I've come across in my lifetime. This is an authentic take against gender discrimination and sexism which is deftly baked in our culture. It is a powerful insight that redefines bravery and makes us follow our true dreams!
This amazing read written by Reshma Saujani is divided into three parts. Part 1 highlights how perfection is ingrained in a culture and how this cult is making the lives of young girls difficult everywhere. Part 2 redefines bravery it makes us rethink what actually is perfection!
Part 3 talks about the ways we can genuinely accept our flaws and flubs and provides us with methods to lead a bold and joyful life. It frees women from the moratorium placed on them in which to "be liked or be damned to hell" is the lesson taught every day and it destigmatizes this "all-or-nothing" game of perfection.
Amazingly written with various examples and contemporary references, this book will make you learn that "setbacks will not destroy, they will set you free."
It definitely helps girls and women of all ages to throw out the "elusive carrot of perfection" they are made to chew every day.
When I finally turned the last page of the book it left me with a sense of hope and accomplishment. It made me feel complete in a certain way which is the best possible thing a book can gift you!