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savonmoniz's review
5.0
I am so glad I read this, the concepts and self reflection helped me so much in my relationship and friendships.
headre89's review
5.0
I loved reading about how men think and seeing that I’m not alone in the way I do want to be better for your spouse I highly recommend this book
lindsical's review
5.0
If you're married, read this book. If you're in a relationship, read this book. If you want to be in a relationship and have it work, read this book.
Why men are men and why women are women and why that is perfectly all right. Understand your spouse/significant other/opposite sex.
Understand yourself.
This book will help with it all!
Why men are men and why women are women and why that is perfectly all right. Understand your spouse/significant other/opposite sex.
Understand yourself.
This book will help with it all!
thewellreadrunner's review
1.0
I went into this book very optimistic. I read one of Dr. Laura's marriage books a few years back and really disliked it, so I was hoping this one would be different.
It was different, but not in the way I hoped. First of all, I won this book through Goodreads, but I don't exactly fit the profile of the type of person that this book was written for (which I didn't know when I entered the drawing). I'm a liberal, feminist, atheistic female who dislikes shopping and will probably never stay at home to raise my kids (not by choice but by financial necessity), and my husband is a well-adjusted male who was was raised for the majority of his childhood by a single mother, cooks and does dishes, and is often more talkative than I am. Yet we are still very happily married. :) Not exactly the audience that was catered to in this book.
I was drawn in by the introduction, because I can get behind appreciating each other's differences and attempting to adjust behaviors in order to work for a more harmonious marriage. Where I got lost was in the seven "modes" and "moods". I have a very hard time generalizing people into boxes like that, especially when the generalizations made were SO very different than the way my husband and I actually are. For example, I can't imagine asking my husband if he could work fewer hours, and having him completely ignore my initial request. But according to this book, that is to be expected, and wives need to use a variety of other tactics to get through to him. Perhaps we communicate differently, but either way, this type of explanation didn't work for me.
The bottom line is: this book is about appreciating differences in order to make a marriage stronger. I get that, I like that. But I think this book can really only work effectively if the couples reading it fit into the author's generalizations about male and female behavior. My husband and I both felt that, the majority of the time, that did not include us.
It was different, but not in the way I hoped. First of all, I won this book through Goodreads, but I don't exactly fit the profile of the type of person that this book was written for (which I didn't know when I entered the drawing). I'm a liberal, feminist, atheistic female who dislikes shopping and will probably never stay at home to raise my kids (not by choice but by financial necessity), and my husband is a well-adjusted male who was was raised for the majority of his childhood by a single mother, cooks and does dishes, and is often more talkative than I am. Yet we are still very happily married. :) Not exactly the audience that was catered to in this book.
I was drawn in by the introduction, because I can get behind appreciating each other's differences and attempting to adjust behaviors in order to work for a more harmonious marriage. Where I got lost was in the seven "modes" and "moods". I have a very hard time generalizing people into boxes like that, especially when the generalizations made were SO very different than the way my husband and I actually are. For example, I can't imagine asking my husband if he could work fewer hours, and having him completely ignore my initial request. But according to this book, that is to be expected, and wives need to use a variety of other tactics to get through to him. Perhaps we communicate differently, but either way, this type of explanation didn't work for me.
The bottom line is: this book is about appreciating differences in order to make a marriage stronger. I get that, I like that. But I think this book can really only work effectively if the couples reading it fit into the author's generalizations about male and female behavior. My husband and I both felt that, the majority of the time, that did not include us.
bookwormmichelle's review against another edition
5.0
I really enjoyed this one. It's written from a Christian perspective; half of the book is aimed at explaining men to their wives, and half at explaining women to their husbands so we can cherish one another better. I learned a lot! I do think the half of the book explaining men is the stronger half--a couple of the women's chapters were a bit thin. :-) No surprise, since the author is a man who confesses to being flummoxed by women often enough. I guess I give him credit for a credible effort despite his being clearly perplexed by us. LOL Still, if couples paid more attention to what the author does explain, we'd probably all have happier marriages.
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