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fulanitemagico's review against another edition
5.0
Amazing
This is am amazing book. It actually came to my life at the perfect moment. Thank you, I needed to talk with someone.
This is am amazing book. It actually came to my life at the perfect moment. Thank you, I needed to talk with someone.
kgray31's review against another edition
5.0
Honestly, this book felt really good to read. I enjoyed it very much.
lawstudentwhoreads24's review against another edition
4.0
4 ⭐️
These types of books are difficult to rate due to the topic content. This was a great book written in a therapist's POV delving into the reality of therapy whilst managing to anonyomise the patient accounts. My only complaint was that the audiobook felt quite long.
sewfrench's review against another edition
5.0
“We can’t have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same.”
“We tend to think that the future happens later, but we're creating it in our minds every day. When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. And having the future taken away is the mother of all plot twists.”
“But part of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself—to let go of the limiting stories you’ve told yourself about who you are so that you aren’t trapped by them, so you can live your life and not the story you’ve been telling yourself about your life.”
“There’s no hierarchy of pain. Suffering shouldn’t be ranked, because pain is not a contest.”
“Relationships in life don't really end, even if you never see the person again. Every person you've been close to lives on somewhere inside you. Your past lovers, your parents, your friends, people both alive and dead (symbolically or literally)--all of them evoke memories, conscious or not.”
“It’s impossible to get to know people deeply and not come to like them.”
“Above all, I didn't want to fall into the trap that Buddhists call idiot compassion - an apt phrase, given John's worldview. In idiot compassion, you avoid rocking the boat to spare people's feelings, even though the boat needs rocking and your compassion ends up being more harmful than your honesty. People do this with teenagers, spouses, addicts, even themselves. Its opposite is wise compassion, which means caring about the person but also giving him or her a loving truth bomb when needed.”
“Avoidance is a simple way of coping by not having to cope.”
“The inability to say no is largely about approval-seeking—people imagine that if they say no, they won’t be loved by others. The inability to say yes, however—to intimacy, a job opportunity, an alcohol program—is more about lack of trust in oneself. Will I mess this up? Will this turn out badly? Isn’t it safer to stay where I am?”
“Follow your envy - it shows you what you want.”
― Lori Gottlieb, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
“We tend to think that the future happens later, but we're creating it in our minds every day. When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. And having the future taken away is the mother of all plot twists.”
“But part of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself—to let go of the limiting stories you’ve told yourself about who you are so that you aren’t trapped by them, so you can live your life and not the story you’ve been telling yourself about your life.”
“There’s no hierarchy of pain. Suffering shouldn’t be ranked, because pain is not a contest.”
“Relationships in life don't really end, even if you never see the person again. Every person you've been close to lives on somewhere inside you. Your past lovers, your parents, your friends, people both alive and dead (symbolically or literally)--all of them evoke memories, conscious or not.”
“It’s impossible to get to know people deeply and not come to like them.”
“Above all, I didn't want to fall into the trap that Buddhists call idiot compassion - an apt phrase, given John's worldview. In idiot compassion, you avoid rocking the boat to spare people's feelings, even though the boat needs rocking and your compassion ends up being more harmful than your honesty. People do this with teenagers, spouses, addicts, even themselves. Its opposite is wise compassion, which means caring about the person but also giving him or her a loving truth bomb when needed.”
“Avoidance is a simple way of coping by not having to cope.”
“The inability to say no is largely about approval-seeking—people imagine that if they say no, they won’t be loved by others. The inability to say yes, however—to intimacy, a job opportunity, an alcohol program—is more about lack of trust in oneself. Will I mess this up? Will this turn out badly? Isn’t it safer to stay where I am?”
“Follow your envy - it shows you what you want.”
― Lori Gottlieb, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
amandagt's review against another edition
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
This provides a very engaging perspective on therapy and its value. I would highly recommend anyone considering therapy read it.
gihnanni's review against another edition
4.0
É um livro profundo e tem momentos bem densos, fala sobre vida, morte e altos e baixos da vida e dos relacionamentos humanos. Até os 70% parece que as coisas só pioram, depois ficam mais amenas. Muitooo interessante, vale muito a leitura, mas num momento em que você esteja bem pra ler.
zozobereading's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
relaxing
sad
tense
medium-paced
4.0