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All About Love: New Visions, by bell hooks

lakerss12's review

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3.0

Chapter One: Love is the “as the will to extend ones self for the purpose of nurturing ones own or another’s spiritual growth”
Chapter Two: largely about children being needed to learn how to love. Not innate and we often don’t understand our childhood experiences through a proper lens
Chapter Three: honesty is crucial to love. Lying harms love and we are in a society where lying is encouraged
Chapter Four: meh, didn’t connect much. Self love
Chapter Five: spirituality also men
Chapter Six: love ethic, a lot of macro level stuff
Chapter Seven: greed undermines love
Chapter Eight: community
Chapter Nine: when men reject patriarchy they often instead remain boys who are looking for maternal figures
Chapter Ten: love is a choice, you do not fall in love. Instead you make the active decision to accept and seek love with a person or people
Chapter Eleven: becoming familiar and not fearing death
Chapter Twelve: opening yourself up to healing
Chapter Thirteen: meh

Overall I didn’t love or connect much with the book at all

jessrabbit's review

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2.0

If the rating was only for about the first 1/3 of the book it would be much higher. The initial points about love and its definition are well thought out, feel genuinely deep, and remain applicable today. Unfortunately the rest of the book did not feel the same way to me - many statements felt out of date, highly gendered, and reinforced troubling troubling societal expectations (e.g. commitment to biological family even in the face of experiencing ongoing harm from them).

kyulee's review

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This book is so tender and affirming, but also really challenges you to rethink what does it mean to love?
Will revisit :)

piscesfilms's review

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4.0

much to think about ...

absarokamw's review against another edition

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hopeful reflective medium-paced

3.5

bedsidearchive's review

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emotional hopeful informative inspiring medium-paced

3.0

 
i am happy i read this book at a time where i had grown into and understood what my personal politics are, so while the conflicts i have with this book and other bell hooks media is frustrating, it is not disruptive to my learning. i am also very grateful to hooks for her work on cultural theory surrounding community and class that has served as the foundation for many radical frameworks today. both can be true! 

emmaby's review against another edition

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4.0

realistically if that wasnt by bell hooks it would probably be more of a 3-3.5

there were parts of this book i really enjoyed and it was a v accessible read which was nice but ultimately i didn't love it as much as i expected.

a lot of it felt outdated/like an older person was lamenting on the decline of society and its moral haha - which i guess makes sense given this book was published in 2000 but just wasn't what i was expecting lol - there was a lot about god/religion/being spiritually empty, a lot about forgiveness in ways that i didn't agree with (in the words of taylor swift u don't need to forgive or forget to move on lol), how people should prioritise/stay w their families, addiction and prisoners as being greedy?, stuff about consumerism/narcisism etc etc - also the stuff about monica lewinksy?? and then later saying that shaming/mocking people who are made a victim is “psychological terrorism”??? bestie u just did that tho

anyway i think the book is still worth reading! there was still a lot i enjoyed and liked the idea of love as something u choose (which wasn't a new concept to me but it was cool to see it fleshed out more bc i think all i'd heard abt that was a gracie abrams interview lol). i will say the preface was 10/10 and that set my expectations too high haha. first few and final few chapters were my fav minus a lot of religious stuff in the end


dcaposito's review

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4.0

i’ve always been a deeply feeling person, highly empathetic. lots of my struggles in life have stemmed from feeling other peoples pain, taking it on as my own. my heart has always been tender in my chest- and for a very long time i felt ashamed of my softness, like it was a weakness, and in turn hardened my exterior hoping others couldn’t see how much i was feeling

bell hooks talks about love as a transformative, powerful force- one that our world is lacking. everyone is looking for love but no one wants to define it or admit it or study it. bell hooks does so effortlessly. she interweaves psychology, feminism, politics and beautiful prose like nothing i’ve read before. i think this should be required reading, even for the most cynical among us.

don’t get me wrong, i am a huge fan of media about “the unhinged woman” and things of that nature as i identify a lot with it (i mean, who doesn’t when living in this capitalist hellscape) but i think we can be multifaceted and learn from people with open hearts like bell hooks.

kelsw's review

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emotional reflective fast-paced

5.0

catrionabruce's review

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informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.0