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What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon

15 reviews

dragon_s_hoard's review against another edition

challenging emotional informative reflective sad slow-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Rape, Sexual harassment, Racism, Self harm, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Toxic friendship, Sexism, Sexual assault, Body shaming, Child abuse, Fatphobia, Sexual violence, Ableism, Emotional abuse, Medical trauma, Bullying, Eating disorder, Medical content, Misogyny, and Pandemic/Epidemic

Moderate: Chronic illness, Lesbophobia, Dysphoria, Gaslighting, Panic attacks/disorders, Police brutality, Classism, Transphobia, and Biphobia

thehinkydonut's review against another edition

challenging informative

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Medical trauma and Body shaming

Moderate: Sexual harassment, Cursing, Sexual assault, Sexism, Misogyny, Eating disorder, and Emotional abuse

massivepizzacrust's review against another edition

emotional informative reflective fast-paced

5.0

I should say I'm not really who this book is about, as a straight-sized person. Though I've had plenty of bad experiences related to my weight, including a doctor telling me that just in case I was planning on being pregnant soon, I should really consider losing weight (I was in college and saw her for an ear infection), I've never had to deal with abuse from strangers on the street or being escorted off a plane. Reading what the author goes through on a regular basis made me so angry. 

I think a lot of people would benefit from reading this book, and maybe afterwards we could stop holding on to harmful beliefs that only make people miserable, not healthy and definitely not thin. It's seriously disheartening how many people still believe being fat is a matter of willpower and discipline. I've had a lot of great conversations with people in my life while and after reading Aubrey's book, and I feel empowered to have more with the great resources provided. 

On top of that, this was just a really engrossing audiobook to listen to. Heartbreaking but also funny and relatable, it was a really enjoyable experience (upsetting topic aside). Highly recommend! That said, please be aware of any content warnings you might need. You do directly read things people have said or done to Aubrey and it can be upsetting.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse, Bullying, Fatphobia, Ableism, and Body shaming

tmchopra's review against another edition

challenging informative fast-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Fatphobia, Medical trauma, Eating disorder, and Medical content

Moderate: Sexual assault, Rape, Racism, Mental illness, Homophobia, Hate crime, Emotional abuse, Terminal illness, Sexual violence, Sexism, Misogyny, and Sexual harassment

toffishay's review against another edition

challenging emotional informative fast-paced

4.0

A really vulnerable and informative memoir/non-fiction exploration of anti-fat bias in modern Western society, all the legal, social, emotional, interpersonal, and intrapersonal challenges of an obsession with thinness, and what can be done to change the pervasiveness of this issue. This is a quick read and provides awesome resources to learn more. The language and style of prose is also quite lyrical and beautiful, but gets a little repetitive in places with the same phrasing used throughout. Overall, an awesome read.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Fatphobia

Moderate: Racism, Violence, Sexism, Panic attacks/disorders, Stalking, Sexual violence, Sexual harassment, Sexual assault, Self harm, Transphobia, Medical content, Bullying, Physical abuse, Medical trauma, Emotional abuse, Eating disorder, Toxic relationship, and Body shaming

karcitis's review against another edition

dark emotional hopeful informative sad medium-paced

4.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Eating disorder, Fatphobia, and Bullying

Moderate: Sexual violence, Panic attacks/disorders, Mental illness, Medical trauma, Sexual harassment, Sexism, Medical content, Violence, Rape, Racism, Gaslighting, Emotional abuse, Sexual assault, Suicide, and Ableism

Minor: Transphobia, Classism, Chronic illness, Cancer, Abortion, Pregnancy, Biphobia, Terminal illness, Lesbophobia, and Homophobia

amandaquotidianbooks's review against another edition

challenging emotional informative medium-paced

4.0

This is an excellent primer on anti-fat bias. This helped me find the language for my own struggles with weight stigma and helped me understand how people who are larger than me are often treated.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Fatphobia

Moderate: Sexual assault, Emotional abuse, and Eating disorder

Minor: Domestic abuse

foreverinastory's review against another edition

informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

Everyone needs to read this!!! Especially if you are not fat.

CWs: Fatphobia, body shaming, medical trauma, eating disorder, medical content, sexual harassment, bullying, ableism, misogyny, hate crime, sexual violence, threats of rape, sexism, emotional abuse, violence, gaslighting, death, transphobia/transmisia, classism. Moderate: queerphobia/queermisia, racism, dysphoria, chronic illness, cancer. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual assault, Ableism, Misogyny, Rape, Death, Medical trauma, Medical content, Sexual harassment, Sexism, Hate crime, Emotional abuse, Transphobia, Fatphobia, Body shaming, Eating disorder, Sexual violence, Bullying, Violence, Gaslighting, and Classism

Moderate: Racism, Dysphoria, Chronic illness, and Cancer

marisa_n's review against another edition

emotional funny informative reflective medium-paced

3.0

I bought this book after listening to every episode of Gordon's podcast, Maintenence Phase. Similar to the podcast, this book is a combination of research and personal anecdotes about anti-fat bias. I appreciated Gordon's vulnerability in sharing her story. I also loved that she brought up research & necessary policy changes. Rather than making it an internal "love yourself" problem, the book dives into the ways larger bodies are objectified, politicized, and discriminated against. Lastly, I appreciated the opportunity to think more deeply about potential personal biases & the changes needed to an unjust system. 

Unfortunately, I don't think this book quite captures the magic of her podcast. Although the content of this book is very similar ( at times so overlapping it felt reptitive), the organization, the tone, and the performance are just okay. I prefer the laughing, exasperated, "methodology queen" in the podcast.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Fatphobia, Toxic friendship, Sexual harassment, Medical trauma, Gaslighting, Emotional abuse, Eating disorder, and Body shaming

unsuccessfulbookclub's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative sad slow-paced

5.0

I could write pages and pages of my thoughts on this book but they all boil down to this one:

➡️ Everyone should read this. ⬅️

Aubrey Gordon is brilliant, engaging, emotionally vulnerable and inspiring. In 165 pages she gives an incredibly well-researched yet personal account of the costs of anti-fatness through an intersectional lens. And like every stain on American culture, the costs of anti-fatness are high and affect all of us.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Body shaming, Chronic illness, Classism, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Medical trauma, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, and Sexual harassment