Reviews tagging 'Toxic friendship'

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk

5 reviews

beklovesbooks's review

challenging dark emotional informative inspiring reflective sad tense slow-paced

5.0

An excellent textbook on trauma and the science-backed approaches to healing from it. Also an interesting journey through the author’s professional experiences that led to his outstanding knowledge on the subject. 

Read the trigger warnings and take them seriously. He often gives details about horrific abuse and sensitive information about patients, later illustrating their growth, but I would imagine it would be too much for many people with backgrounds touched by abuse, neglect, suicide etc.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, Child abuse, Drug use, Infidelity, Medical content, Medical trauma, Dementia, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Hate crime, Incest, Rape, War, Drug abuse, Mass/school shootings, Panic attacks/disorders, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Grief, Gun violence, and Suicidal thoughts

Moderate: Blood, Mass/school shootings, Pedophilia, Pregnancy, Religious bigotry, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Suicide attempt, Suicide, Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, Violence, Confinement, Dysphoria, Torture, War, Biphobia, and Eating disorder

monstrouscosmos's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional informative reflective sad slow-paced

1.0

I used to always recommend this book to people, but I'm at a point where I think it's an avoid. it's meant as a professional resource, and while as a non-professional I think there's something to be gained by learning about these topics: there are less triggering, less retraumatizing, and more empowering options out there. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abandonment, Grief, Homophobia, Mass/school shootings, Eating disorder, Gaslighting, Infidelity, Car accident, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Medical trauma, Ableism, Addiction, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Classism, Colonisation, Death, Genocide, Gun violence, Hate crime, Incest, Mental illness, Misogyny, Murder, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Police brutality, Racism, Rape, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Stalking, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Torture, Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, Trafficking, Violence, and War

gays0up's review

challenging dark hopeful informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

4.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Abandonment, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Incest, Physical abuse, Sexual harassment, Drug use, Eating disorder, Pedophilia, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Trafficking, Violence, Death, Grief, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Self harm, Suicide attempt, Alcohol, Child abuse, Toxic friendship, Suicide, and Toxic relationship

vigil's review

informative reflective sad slow-paced

4.75

the body keeps the score is a dense text; small font on big pages full of scientific jargon and material. however, if you allow the book to be what it is it’s much more accessible than you’d think. 

bessel van der kolk has spent thirty years in practice which gives the book a somewhat academic, frank edge. it’s very insightful into traumatized individuals across the board, but i wouldn’t recommend it to any traumatized person off the bat due to kolk’s unrestrained tone throughout the book.

i have seen some question the ideas and theories he speaks of in here, but i’m (and probably them as well, if we’re being honest) not qualified to dissect that fully. nevertheless, i think everything in here is worth giving some thought to.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Cursing, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Grief, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, Violence, War, Alcohol, Abortion, Alcoholism, Car accident, Child abuse, Child death, Drug abuse, Drug use, Gun violence, Incest, Sexual violence, Suicide, Medical content, Abandonment, Chronic illness, Classism, Death, Genocide, Infidelity, Panic attacks/disorders, Rape, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, Terminal illness, Toxic friendship, Animal death, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Blood, Bullying, and Cancer

alex3099's review

emotional informative slow-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Dysphoria, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Gun violence, Addiction, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Death of parent, Hate crime, Mass/school shootings, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Self harm, Sexual harassment, Suicidal thoughts, Violence, War, Bullying, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Abandonment, Adult/minor relationship, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Cancer, Car accident, Drug abuse, Grief, Incest, Classism, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug use, Forced institutionalization, Gaslighting, Medical trauma, Rape, Religious bigotry, Sexual assault, Kidnapping, Sexual violence, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, and Trafficking