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Non so perché ti amo. From Lukov with Love by Mariana Zapata

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turnthepages_nl's review against another edition

slow-paced

Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? It's complicated

3.0

Met liefde van Lukov is op de eerste plaats een slow burn. Niet alleen de relatie tussen de personages was traag, het boek opzich las ook traag voor mij. Ik heb er 10 dagen over gedaan terwijl ik een boek van dit formaat meestal in vijf dagen lees...

Dominant

Het begin vond ik leuk. Ik vond Jasmine ook een interessant personage. Maar ik vond Ivan dus helemaal niks. Hij was dominant (ik HAAT dominant) en oke hij had een lieve kant. Maar de relatie tussen de twee voelde voor mij wat hakkelig. Er was geen vloeiende groei. Ze namen abrupte sprongetjes vooruit en dat kwam mij wat vreemd over.

Geen romance

Met liefde van Lukov voelde voor mij absoluut niet als een romantisch verhaal. Het draaide voor mij echt om Jasmine die met haar struggles leert omgaan. Ze praat nogal negatief over zichzelf (niet qua lichaam, maar echt hoe ze is als persoon) en door het verhaal leert ze bepaalde dingen los te laten en krijgen anderen een plekje. Ze vindt rust op een bepaalde manier. En dat was mooi.

Gekibbel en verschuivende relaties

Mijn favoriete scènes waren die van conflict. Dan gebeurde er tenminste iets 😅. Het gekibbel in het begin tussen Jasmine en Ivan vond ik grappig. Maar op een gegeven moment voelde het vervelend en irritant. Vooral omdat Jasmine niet meer zoveel zei en Ivan haar uit de tent probeerde te lokken. Het werd flauw en ze vielen in de herhaling. Het voelde bij tijden geforceerd. Niet organisch en natuurlijk.
Toen de relatie van hatelijk naar vriendschappelijk begon te verschuiven, veranderde het gekibbel. Maar toen bleef er maar weinig over wat hun relatie voor mij interessant maakte. Ivan begon aardig te doen. Jasmine wist niet wat ze er mee aan moest. En Jasmine werd daardoor erg passief en vlak. Ook bleek later dat Ivan haar nooit heeft gehaat. En haar plaagde omdat hij haar leuk vond. Dat draagt weer bij aan het idee van 'meisjes-plagen-kusjes-vragen'. Een idee dat huiselijk geweld voedt...

Dyslexie

Jasmine heeft een leerstoornis. Het werd nooit bij naam genoemd maar de dingen die werden omschreven wijzen op dyslexie. De dyslexie representatie vond ik heel goed gedaan. Vooral de impact die het op haar zelfbeeld had en de relatie met haar vader.

School, falen, zelfbeeld

Veel mensen met een learning disability hebben het moeilijk op school. Op school wordt vooral gekeken naar je cijfers en prestaties. En als je daar niet goed in bent, voelt het al snel of je faalt. Als je dan ook nog opmerkingen van je vader hoort als

'Jasmine heeft geen leerstoornis. Ze moet gewoon beter haar best doen'

dan komt dat je zelfbeeld niet ten goede.
Ze was nergens echt goed in, alles op school kostte haar ontzettend veel moeite. Maar zodra ze op het ijs stond ging het vanzelf. Daar wist haar lichaam wat het moest doen. Het was zo natuurlijk als ademen. Daarom stortte ze zich volledig op het kunstschaatsen. Eindelijk iets wat ze goed kon, waardoor ze zich speciaal voelde. Levend. En als ze ergens haar tanden in zet laat ze niet meer los. Want ze is een doorzetter, een harde werker en absoluut geen opgever. Dat is waarschijnlijk deels hoe ze is als persoon, en deels hoe ze heeft moeten worden om het op school te redden...

Kracht ondermijnend

Ik vind het alleen wel jammer dat Ivan Lukov als een ridder op het witte paard voor haar moest opkomen tegen haar vader. Ze had zo veel groei doorgemaakt. Maar Ivan's speech had meer impact dan wat Jasmine zelf tegen haar vader zei. En daar baal ik van. Jasmines kracht werd ondermijnd zodat Ivan kon laten zien hoe goed hij haar kende en dat hij een geschikte partner voor haar zou zijn...

Spicy time

Omdat dit boek zo'n enorme slow burn is, krijgen we pas in het een na laatste hoofdstuk een spicy scène. En ik vond de scène verschrikkelijk...
Ivan was dominant en deed wat hij wilde zonder verbale consent. Ze zegt dat ze aan de pil is en dat is blijkbaar het signaal dat condooms niet nodig zijn? Maar er wordt niet gesproken over SOA's en hun status. Dat gecombineerd met het gebrek aan consent gaf me de bibbers. Vervolgens lees je dat het Jasmine pijn deed. En dat ze dat nooit zou zeggen. Wat voor veilige omgeving heb je dan? Als je niet tegen je partner kan zeggen dat het pijn doet. (En dit was geen kinky pijn, dit was pijn omdat het te snel ging). Haar lichaam was er duidelijk nog niet klaar voor. Ivan had daarbij compleet de leiding en deed met haar lijf wat HIJ wilde en had geen aandacht voor haar leek het.
Hoe het er stond vergroot weer de mythe dat het normaal is dat seks (in het begin) pijn doet. Seks hoort geen pijn te doen. Nooit. Tenzij je aan pain/pleasure spel doet maar dat is een ander verhaal.

Ook dringt hij aan op een tweede ronde. Jasmine zegt half grappend dat ze niet heeft aangegeven dat ze daar zin in heeft. En zijn antwoord is dat hij haar heeft laten klaarkomen. Als of dat een reden is om nog weer seks te hebben?!!
Ik ben echt geschokt door alle slechte dingen in deze seks scène. Ik denk niet dat ik ooit nog weer een Mariana Zapata boek zal lezen...

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funny lighthearted medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? No
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

This is a slow-burn rivals-to-lovers story with an open-door scene toward the end, but what truly captivated me was the focus on competitive skating. With zero knowledge of the sport, I was fascinated by the behind-the-scenes look at their intense training routines.

The story centers on themes of perseverance, personal growth, and family. Honestly, it could have been just as compelling without the romance.

I rated it 3 stars mainly because the excessive use of certain words was making my reading experience frustrating—"blink" appears 191 times, and the f-word is used 330 times! Moreover, the main characters often act and speak like spoiled teenagers, which detracted from their development for me.

Despite these issues, the insights into the world of competitive skating kept me engaged.

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Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

The start was a bit choppy for me, and the author has a quirk in her writing that I kind of hate- any time another woman is in the scene with the main character, also a woman, she has a habit of saying things like ‘said the other woman in the room’ and ‘the other woman said’. This may be a language issue that I just don’t understand, but it bugs the hell out of me.

That is my only complaints tho. As I continued reading, I fell in love with the characters and their journey and the ending was everything I had hoped for. Great writing filled with so much emotion. Actually the best romance I’ve ever read.

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emotional inspiring reflective sad slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0

“Because I'm okay with you having ten other people be your favorite. But you're always going to be my favorite person.”

This was on my top 24 TBRs in 2024 and I'm so glad I tackled it already because I would hate myself if I were not to read this ever. Basing from the reels I've been seeing in Bookstagram, I know for sure I would love to get my hands on a copy of this book. So when I saw it available on my usual online seller (that had to wait months to arrive), I immediately bought it. I'm not sure why I didn't reach for it as soon as it had arrived last November - I need to slap the old me for that. This month though, I was in a big mood reader so I wasn't trusting my TBR jar to make the choice. It took a few hours for me to decide and finally reached out for From Lukov With Love. Best decision this April so far too.

I love stories that revolves in any sport on ice. I'm not sure what it is about but there's always something graceful about people on ice. What I did not expect was a story about pair figure skaters. I was also unaware that this was an enemies-to-lovers? Anna, why don't you ever read the synopsis at the back of the book? It's there for a reason. But I always love going in blindly when it comes to books. I trust people so much in the net that I don't even bother reading what it was about. I wasn't even disappointed at all. I love it as soon as I hit more than 10% of the book. I always love banters in books but this level of banters between the main characters are on a different level. I was laughing out loud on several occasions and just kept on wishing for these two to get together. I knew Mariana is known her slow burn stories but girl, I did not expect this kind of slow burn. I was shookedt. I kept waiting and waiting and waiting and more waiting for them to get together but bro...it took

400 +

for them to even kiss? I was so happy when it finally did happen because these two are just meant to be. They really are meant for each other - and not just because it's fictional but also because if it was the real world, it would definitely last.

Of course, it wasn't just a romance book. To be honest, it's more of a family story type of book because it literally focused on Jasmine and her relationship with her family. I can't get over her relationship with her dad because I relate so much to it. Jasmine felt not loved because of her career path and it' just simply because their family ain't the affectionate ones and have different love language that can't easily be understood. Ugh. I wanted to hug Jasmine so much. It's a good thing Ivan was there to do it for us readers.

10/10 will recommend.

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emotional funny lighthearted medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Plot
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

4 Stars!

This was so cute! And while I was expecting a little more spice from all of the posts and videos I’ve seen talk about it, I didn’t feel like the story was lacking because of it. I was almost dad when the epilogue started because I wanted to continue being a fly in the wall during Ivan and Jasmines skating practices.

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lighthearted medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

I loved this story but minus one star for the ending seeming very rushed and the main skating event only getting a page??? AND the author’s confusing refusal to use a character’s name multiple times in a paragraph. It’s so odd. Examples:

“I took a step onto the ice and glided off just a couple feet away to give IVAN room to do the same. He followed after me, stopping just two feet away from me as the announcer called out our names. That was when I looked over my shoulder at THE MAN IN THE BROWN AND GOLD COSTUME that my sister had created, and found him already looking at me, with a smirk aimed right at me.”

““She was pinching me under the table,” BEN let me know, like that would surprise me. It didn’t. That was my mom right there. My defender forever and ever. “Sorry about that, Jas,” MY MOM’S FOURTH HUSBAND murmured.”

““Where’s Ben at, MOM?” “He’s out with his friends,” THE REDHEADED WOMAN WHO HAD GIVEN BIRTH TO ME, explained quickly before raising her gaze and aiming her fork in my direction.”

There were points where it truly confused me because I couldn’t even tell the author was talking about the same character. “The man” is used 30 times in the book and “the woman” 37 times, most often for characters that are already very well established. It’s confusing.

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emotional funny inspiring lighthearted medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

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kaylahcc's review against another edition

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funny inspiring relaxing medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

4.0

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skysometimesreads's review against another edition

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emotional funny lighthearted reflective slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

Very fun. All from Jasmine's pov heavy on the writing about her feelings and what's going on in her head. You can tell where it's going if you've read any other sports romance but still a fun read.

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2.75

I really wanted to love this book. And I was almost sure I would despite the fact the first book I read by Mariana Zapata wasn’t a hit for me. But I wanted to give her another chance, and ice-skating romance with enemies-to-lovers trope sounds right up my alley. Zapata is known as the queen of slow burn and I truly love slow burn romances, so me not liking her books did not sit right with me. So, I tried again.

And the slow burn itself would be perfect *but* things which bothered me in The Wall of Winnipeg and Me bothered me here. Mainly the bits of internalized misogyny here and there, not like other girl vibes in certain parts, sex scene which put me off, why bother with a condom and some more.

One of the most prominent offenders is the body shaming. In this book it is constant from the beginning until the end. You hear about chubby Jasmine, fat Jasmine, cheat-day-every-day Jasmine, chunky Jasmine, Ivan's heaviest partner etc. And that is from Jasmine herself, *the love interest* Ivan, Jasmine’s family… basically everyone at some point talks shit about Jasmine’s body. Mostly veiled as jokes and if it happened couple of times, I could get over it, but it was all the time. I understand that talking about bodies in context of being professional athletes is realistic, but it was not just that. Example being that Jasmine has small boobs mentioned several times, her family laughing about her not hitting puberty with--at that point a guy who she did not like (and said so to her family)--, and my “favourite” was her start-sex-scene-thought:

“I’ve never been happier that from the moment Mom had given me permission to shave—right after I’d hit puberty and hair grown in everywhere—that she’d stressed how important it was to do it every day.”

Thanks Jasmine’s mom, because body hair is gross! Right? Even more stupid is Jasmine’s mom has earlier a whole monologue about all bodies being beautiful.

Another thing that bothered me is the plot line involving stalking. Sexual harassment over internet which never gets resolved.

Ivan finds out, gets protective and pissed off at Jasmine about it for some reason too... aaaand it isn’t talked about again. Why include it at all if there is no proper follow up?

Why include it at all if you do not give it proper attention.

And my last point is about the aforementioned sex scene. I would be perfectly content to there not be one, but there is. The line:

“I’d never tell Ivan, but it hurts. At first.”

Like… why? Why would you not mention a discomfort to your sexual partner? It such a minor thing but it took me out of the scene completely. It could be written in million other ways without mentioning of *not-mentioning* it.

To not just pick on the negatives, the book is very readable. Some scenes were pretty cute, and I really liked the ice-skating parts of it. Even though I was annoyed with every character at some point, I think they all made sense and were not flat. I enjoyed that Jasmine’s relationship with her family was complex and not as easy.

It is annoying that I could not enjoy the book more, and I probably would love it if I read it when I was 16. But back then I was not aware of misogynistic language (and more problems) in certain romance novels (I am sure if I reread some of the books I read back then, I would be horrified). I would probably eat everything in this book up, thought it is reasonable to shit on yourself over small boobs etc. Unfortunately, I read the book at 26 and this stuff grates on me.

After giving two chances and a half (DNFd Under Locke pretty much 20p in) and reading article about the transphobic language Zapata employs in her other book, I can safely say I won’t be rushing to pick another book by her. Never say never, but at this point I’d say Zapata is not for me.

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