kelley_beth's review
emotional
hopeful
reflective
sad
fast-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
A strong start to the new year. This was lovely. And so heart wrenching and I couldn’t put it down. The nuance of family relationships and the weight of expectations. It almost had an element of “murder mystery” that made you wonder if how Lydia died is how Lydia really died. But it’s mainly about the family dynamic and how hard and fraught those relationships can be.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Suicide, Racism, Sexism, and Racial slurs
Moderate: Abandonment
kyrstin_p1989's review against another edition
dark
emotional
hopeful
sad
tense
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.0
A novel about missed opportunities and words that were never said, this book is sad and thoughtful. It makes you question what you might do differently if the people you love were suddenly no longer here with us. Ng’s books are well-crafted — full of beautiful prose. I can’t wait for her newest novel.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Confinement, Racial slurs, Stalking, Child death, Xenophobia, Outing, Toxic relationship, Abandonment, Classism, Suicide attempt, Racism, Infidelity, and Grief
quietlex's review
dark
emotional
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Plot
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
2.5
I don’t know, I found this read pretty boring. The main struggles really all result from Marilyn running away, which in turn soiled her children’s relationships with each other and herself. The beloved middle child put on a pedestal, the eldest tolerated, and the youngest completely overlooked and forgotten. I enjoyed getting to know each character more, but there was so little to find out, in reality. It seems the reoccurring theme is running away: Overall, disappointing and predictable. You’re left with a hollow ending, like, “Welp, bad things happen, life goes on and then you die.”
Spoiler
Marilyn from her old life being a housewife instead of a doctor, James from constant racism and his sad wife who never seems satisfied with what he can offer, Nath from being at home and disappointing his parents, and Lydia from the crushing weight her parents put on her to be exactly what the other didn’t want, being popular/fitting in vs standing out/ being different. Lydia took on the responsibility of holding her parents relationship together, trying to be everything her mother wanted, as long as she wouldn’t abandon them again. Marilyn became obsessive once she lost her chance at medical school, forcing Lydia to become everything she wanted to be and more. I cannot believe the treatment of Hannah, the poor youngest. Literally and figuratively pushed away at every turn, just trying to find her place in the family and in the world. She is the magnum opus of the family, the one reason why Marilyn was forced to come back home, the one mistake that cost her her last chance of becoming a doctor. She is the real victim in the story. The infidelity is wrapped up rather hastily, with James swearing to never speak to Louisa again, making it seem like it was purely physical, like he was only cheating because his wife wasn’t putting out. There was so much more there, with her being the literal only other Asian in town, or baking handmade treats from James’s childhood. They had been close for so long, the emotional and sexual tension was downplayed a lot. And then the reveal of how Lydia actually died, I think sums up this book overall. Drawn out, not very exciting, just a bit of a let down.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Bullying, Suicide, Abandonment, Body shaming, Injury/injury detail, Alcohol, Racism, Infidelity, and Death
ruisquared's review
dark
emotional
hopeful
reflective
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
The main themes and tropes were approached in a way that felt authentic to reality and the characters. While some less familiar with these situations might find the family's (especially James and Marilyn) struggles and demands of each other to be unrealistic or outright ridiculous, they are most assuredly quite accurate as well.
However, my main issue was not with the content or characters but the style of prose. This may be a matter of preference but I prefer a more lyrical approach with ambiguity left for the reader to make their own interpretations.
Here, there is a much more 'tell' approach as opposed to 'show' – again, a matter of opinion as to which you'd prefer, but I think especially for such a character-centric book the latter could perhaps be better suited.
However, my main issue was not with the content or characters but the style of prose. This may be a matter of preference but I prefer a more lyrical approach with ambiguity left for the reader to make their own interpretations.
Here, there is a much more 'tell' approach as opposed to 'show' – again, a matter of opinion as to which you'd prefer, but I think especially for such a character-centric book the latter could perhaps be better suited.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Racial slurs, Racism, and Xenophobia
Moderate: Abandonment and Infidelity
marioosa517's review
challenging
emotional
reflective
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Abandonment, Child death, Racism, and Racial slurs
Minor: Child abuse, Homophobia, Vomit, and Injury/injury detail
sofipitch's review against another edition
emotional
mysterious
reflective
slow-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
This is a heartbreaking family drama, looking at generational trauma. And for the most part what is so frustrating is that most of the families issues would be solved through better communication. It's not the most dramatic story, it's actually quite common. If you look at this review and feel discouraged it does have a somewhat happy ending
Content Warnings
Graphic: Abandonment, Infidelity, Grief, and Racism
daeadevil's review
dark
emotional
inspiring
mysterious
sad
medium-paced
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.75
Content Warnings
Graphic: Abandonment, Death, and Infidelity
Moderate: Grief, Xenophobia, and Suicide
laurynreadsbooks's review
emotional
reflective
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Death, Abandonment, and Suicidal thoughts
Moderate: Sexual content, Racism, and Suicide
Not as much resolution at the end, but still a deeply touching book. This one really hit home for me and I’m going to have to think about this one for a while.amandas_bookshelf's review against another edition
emotional
mysterious
reflective
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.25
Content Warnings
Graphic: Abandonment, Child death, Death, Racism, Grief, Racial slurs, Infidelity, Sexism, and Xenophobia
Moderate: Bullying, Injury/injury detail, Sexual harassment, Death of parent, and Alcohol
megmccreery's review against another edition
challenging
dark
emotional
mysterious
sad
tense
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
This story opens with Lydia Lee, a 16 year old, in a small Ohio town, being found dead in a lake. The story explores everything that got Lydia and her family to this point, and how their whole family unit implodes with Lydia's death. There's generational trauma with the Lee parents projecting their wants, dreams, and desires that were never realized onto their favorite child, Lydia. There's two other kids in the Lee family, Nath and Hannah, and they have always been backburner children to Lydia. They have to find where they fit in in the family now that the star is gone.
I loved the discussion of not fitting in and being "different." James Lee was born from Chinese immigrants and has been the butt of racist jokes in all the Midwest towns he has lived in throughout his life. He dreams to fit in and have his kids fit in. Marilyn Lee is a woman who has always wanted to be different. She never wanted to have the husband, family, and white-picket home that her mother force-fed her her whole life. She wanted to become a rare female doctor in the 1960s.
The big question is: What happens when you just can't do it anymore? "It" meaning anything, a culmination of things, something you can't describe but only feel. The feeling of something suffocating you, holding you back, or maybe even the absence of feeling or feelings.
It did take me a minute to get into this book because Celeste Ng's writing is more complex and deeper than I'm used to reading, but it was such a heartbreaking, thought-provoking story. My heart hurt so much for all of the characters; I didn't think anyone's feelings or actions in reaction to their feelings were invalid. In conclusion, ouch my heart. Read this book.
I loved the discussion of not fitting in and being "different." James Lee was born from Chinese immigrants and has been the butt of racist jokes in all the Midwest towns he has lived in throughout his life. He dreams to fit in and have his kids fit in. Marilyn Lee is a woman who has always wanted to be different. She never wanted to have the husband, family, and white-picket home that her mother force-fed her her whole life. She wanted to become a rare female doctor in the 1960s.
The big question is: What happens when you just can't do it anymore? "It" meaning anything, a culmination of things, something you can't describe but only feel. The feeling of something suffocating you, holding you back, or maybe even the absence of feeling or feelings.
It did take me a minute to get into this book because Celeste Ng's writing is more complex and deeper than I'm used to reading, but it was such a heartbreaking, thought-provoking story. My heart hurt so much for all of the characters; I didn't think anyone's feelings or actions in reaction to their feelings were invalid. In conclusion, ouch my heart. Read this book.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Racism, Abandonment, Physical abuse, Xenophobia, Child abuse, Child death, Racial slurs, Infidelity, and Bullying
Minor: Suicide