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Tous les hommes désirent naturellement savoir by Nina Bouraoui
2 reviews
morebedsidebooks's review against another edition
Content Warnings
Graphic: Homophobia, Sexual assault, Violence, and Xenophobia
Moderate: Alcoholism, Drug abuse, Infidelity, Pedophilia, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, and Murder
Minor: Animal cruelty, Confinement, Domestic abuse, Mental illness, Racism, Blood, Antisemitism, Medical content, and Religious bigotry
james1star's review against another edition
emotional
reflective
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
5.0
Wow! Honestly this book totally blew me away, by page three I knew it was something special and at thirty three it became a new favourite of mine.
Bouraoui’s work of autofiction tells her story of being a lesbian in 1980s Paris exploring her sexuality and identity under the backdrop of a growing threat (AIDS) and a legacy of silence and shame within the queer community. This marks the ‘chapters’ (they’re tiny, none more then three pages) headed ‘Becoming’ with the others: ‘Remembering’ and ‘Knowing’ giving the reader insight into Nina’s childhood split between Algeria and France, where her Father and Mother are from respectively. There is rather minimal plot but you don’t read it for this, the poetic, lyrical, mesmerising, darn right beautiful prose pulls you in and refuses to let you go from page one right to the very end. The writing is so exquisite leaving me stunned on nearly every page, I underlined whilst reading and only about 70% is left untouched, that’s how amazing I found it. What I also loved was how relatable parts of this was, as a queer person reading this there was just a lot I could not only understand but wholeheartedly feel within me and for this I truly appreciate books you can see yourself in. The queer experience is only half of what’s encapsulated within, that if being an immigrant and having two nationalities/identities is so well articulated. Additionally, themes of friendships, relationships, family dynamics, motherhood, religion and politics, racism and so many more are discussed.
I could fill pages upon pages with quotes from this book but I’ll narrow it down so you have something to look forward to when you read it… because you must read this book. These are the best from the first thirty three pages, there’s a lot where this comes from:
‘In the gay community (I like these two words, they don’t do much belong to me as own me)…’
‘France is an outfit I wear; Algeria is my skin, exposed to sun and storms.’
‘There is such thing as a gay childhood. My childhood. No excuses are needed. There’s no explanation. It simply is.’
‘The gay child is not lacking, she is different, outside of the norm, inside a normality of her own; not until later will she come to understand that her normality marks her out from others, condemns her to secrecy and shame.’
Bouraoui’s work of autofiction tells her story of being a lesbian in 1980s Paris exploring her sexuality and identity under the backdrop of a growing threat (AIDS) and a legacy of silence and shame within the queer community. This marks the ‘chapters’ (they’re tiny, none more then three pages) headed ‘Becoming’ with the others: ‘Remembering’ and ‘Knowing’ giving the reader insight into Nina’s childhood split between Algeria and France, where her Father and Mother are from respectively. There is rather minimal plot but you don’t read it for this, the poetic, lyrical, mesmerising, darn right beautiful prose pulls you in and refuses to let you go from page one right to the very end. The writing is so exquisite leaving me stunned on nearly every page, I underlined whilst reading and only about 70% is left untouched, that’s how amazing I found it. What I also loved was how relatable parts of this was, as a queer person reading this there was just a lot I could not only understand but wholeheartedly feel within me and for this I truly appreciate books you can see yourself in. The queer experience is only half of what’s encapsulated within, that if being an immigrant and having two nationalities/identities is so well articulated. Additionally, themes of friendships, relationships, family dynamics, motherhood, religion and politics, racism and so many more are discussed.
I could fill pages upon pages with quotes from this book but I’ll narrow it down so you have something to look forward to when you read it… because you must read this book. These are the best from the first thirty three pages, there’s a lot where this comes from:
‘In the gay community (I like these two words, they don’t do much belong to me as own me)…’
‘France is an outfit I wear; Algeria is my skin, exposed to sun and storms.’
‘There is such thing as a gay childhood. My childhood. No excuses are needed. There’s no explanation. It simply is.’
‘The gay child is not lacking, she is different, outside of the norm, inside a normality of her own; not until later will she come to understand that her normality marks her out from others, condemns her to secrecy and shame.’
Content Warnings
Moderate: Homophobia, Racism, Violence, Sexual harassment, and War
Minor: Addiction, Alcoholism, Bullying, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Infidelity, Mental illness, Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Antisemitism, Islamophobia, Grief, Religious bigotry, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Lesbophobia, and Colonisation