sunsess's review
4.0
A little background before I get into my thoughts on this book. I'm a very easygoing person. It takes a lot for me to lash out at other people because as long as they treat me with respect, I don't see the need. Even with people who are mildly annoying I usually just brush whatever happens off and go on with my day. Going into this, I would not have said I had an anger problem. My reasoning for getting this book was solely to understand people who do, of which I know at least one person who suffers from extreme rage. I wanted to know where they come from, why they are the way they are, because I genuinely don't get how one can hurt someone over something so little.
If you're goal is as mine was, this isn't the book for you. It provides several ideas at a base level but doesn't dive as deeply as it could have, focused more on solving the issue at hand rather than understanding the issue (which, is understandable. I do not fault the book for this). If you are dealing with your own issues, it is enough a jumping point to get you to consider why you do the things you do, but this will not help you to really understand how anger develops like this. I will have to continue my journey on that front.
That said, as I was reading this book several things I did not expect to happen, happened, which made this book more than worthwhile. Firstly, I felt validated in my experiences with these kind of people, reading stories of other peoples experiences and knowing people do this, and it was much more common than I thought. And secondly, it talked about different kinds of anger problems. Specifically, it mentioned how holding anger in and being dissmisive of your own feelings, or simply being sweet to everyone to avoid conflict, is just as unhealthy if not more so then lashing out and other people. So it got me thinking: do I actually have an anger problem?
I'd say in some regards: yes, probably. It's only really present when dealing with certain people, but that doesn't mean its not a problem, just an easier problem to address, and this book gave me some excellent ideas as to how. So overall I'd say its worth a read, because even if you don't have full blown anger rage, everyone can benefit from knowing some anger management techniques for when you need it.
I will say there were some parts that I felt... a bit odd and contradictory, which is why I have rated it so. But I don't feel the bad parts of this book take away from the good. Just keep in mind when reading this book that if something feels off, it may be, and don't be afraid to have contradicting opinions just because its about anger management.
Overall? Three and a calf out of five cows.
If you're goal is as mine was, this isn't the book for you. It provides several ideas at a base level but doesn't dive as deeply as it could have, focused more on solving the issue at hand rather than understanding the issue (which, is understandable. I do not fault the book for this). If you are dealing with your own issues, it is enough a jumping point to get you to consider why you do the things you do, but this will not help you to really understand how anger develops like this. I will have to continue my journey on that front.
That said, as I was reading this book several things I did not expect to happen, happened, which made this book more than worthwhile. Firstly, I felt validated in my experiences with these kind of people, reading stories of other peoples experiences and knowing people do this, and it was much more common than I thought. And secondly, it talked about different kinds of anger problems. Specifically, it mentioned how holding anger in and being dissmisive of your own feelings, or simply being sweet to everyone to avoid conflict, is just as unhealthy if not more so then lashing out and other people. So it got me thinking: do I actually have an anger problem?
I'd say in some regards: yes, probably. It's only really present when dealing with certain people, but that doesn't mean its not a problem, just an easier problem to address, and this book gave me some excellent ideas as to how. So overall I'd say its worth a read, because even if you don't have full blown anger rage, everyone can benefit from knowing some anger management techniques for when you need it.
I will say there were some parts that I felt... a bit odd and contradictory, which is why I have rated it so. But I don't feel the bad parts of this book take away from the good. Just keep in mind when reading this book that if something feels off, it may be, and don't be afraid to have contradicting opinions just because its about anger management.
Overall? Three and a calf out of five cows.
akarman's review
1.0
اکثر کتابای روانشناسی یه طور خاصی هستن شایدم فقط من اون مدلای خاصو خوندم به هرحال یه طوری هستن که ادم احساس میکنه اع آره راست میگه نویسنده و ازش یه چیز یاد میگیری
نویسندهی این فقط شعار داده، تو کتاب روانشناسی شعار آخرین چیزیه که آدم بهش نیاز داره
نویسندهی این فقط شعار داده، تو کتاب روانشناسی شعار آخرین چیزیه که آدم بهش نیاز داره
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