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The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now by Meg Jay
6 reviews
alex_in_wonderland's review against another edition
challenging
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
4.0
Fact-based advice, but it's very centered around American twentysomethings. So, some things might not be as relevant to other nationalities, but most things will be.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Pregnancy
Minor: Suicide attempt
s_mivsek's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
4.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Infertility, Mental illness, and Pregnancy
Minor: Self harm, Suicide, and Alcohol
annahamburger's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.5
Content Warnings
Moderate: Infertility, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Grief, and Pregnancy
Minor: Sexism, Sexual content, Pregnancy, and Alcohol
ashleycmms's review against another edition
challenging
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
3.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Infertility, Mental illness, Pregnancy, and Alcohol
waste_cup's review against another edition
challenging
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
slow-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Drug use, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Suicide, Grief, Pregnancy, and Toxic friendship
marisa_n's review against another edition
emotional
informative
medium-paced
3.0
I think the entire book could be summed up like this:
Your 20s are a critical turning point in your life. This is in part due to biology, as your brain is developing and you're hitting peak fertility (women & men). It is also because you're setting the trajectory for your 30's onward. Therefore, you don't have time to waste on jobs that aren't stepping stones to your ideal career, or on dating partners that you don't want to marry. Instead, your 20s should be spent intentionally planning for the future life you want.
My overall feelings are mixed. As someone in my mid-20s -- with my life (relatively) together -- I found it to be simultaneously validating and patronizing. I agreed with most of what she said about working in your 20s to have the life you want in your 30s, 40s, 50s, etc. I also agree with the importance of figuring out what you want & when, and then making a timeline to judge if you're on track... That said, I felt she came across condescending at times. For example, at times seeming to oversimplify "twentysomethings" as lazy, aimless, & unmotivated individuals. I don't think this was intentional, but more so a byproduct of someone older writing to a younger audience that they're used to having some form of authority over (a therapist talking about her clients in their 20s).
I probably wouldn't recommend this book often. That said, I would recommend this book to someone who thinks their 20s are supposed to be the "time of their life," and that big decisions about careers/love/kids/goals can wait until yours 30s to figure out. This book would be better suited for someone who's feeling lost, and perhaps could use a kick in the ass to get going.
Your 20s are a critical turning point in your life. This is in part due to biology, as your brain is developing and you're hitting peak fertility (women & men). It is also because you're setting the trajectory for your 30's onward. Therefore, you don't have time to waste on jobs that aren't stepping stones to your ideal career, or on dating partners that you don't want to marry. Instead, your 20s should be spent intentionally planning for the future life you want.
My overall feelings are mixed. As someone in my mid-20s -- with my life (relatively) together -- I found it to be simultaneously validating and patronizing. I agreed with most of what she said about working in your 20s to have the life you want in your 30s, 40s, 50s, etc. I also agree with the importance of figuring out what you want & when, and then making a timeline to judge if you're on track... That said, I felt she came across condescending at times. For example, at times seeming to oversimplify "twentysomethings" as lazy, aimless, & unmotivated individuals. I don't think this was intentional, but more so a byproduct of someone older writing to a younger audience that they're used to having some form of authority over (a therapist talking about her clients in their 20s).
I probably wouldn't recommend this book often. That said, I would recommend this book to someone who thinks their 20s are supposed to be the "time of their life," and that big decisions about careers/love/kids/goals can wait until yours 30s to figure out. This book would be better suited for someone who's feeling lost, and perhaps could use a kick in the ass to get going.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Infertility, Miscarriage, and Pregnancy