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EL BUEN SEXO MAÑANA: Mujer y deseo en la era del consentimiento (ALPHA DECAY) by Katherine Angel
22 reviews
lenin_lover_69's review against another edition
informative
reflective
slow-paced
3.5
Was prepared to like this and learn something but ultimately found it quite hard to read and take in...increasingly have less time for Very Serious analytical non fiction that reads like someone's masters thesis edited into a book. Authors like Lola Olufemi, Shon Faye and Amelia Horgan have shown how you can approach complex social justice issues in an accessible, readable and often funny way! They've really set the benchmark for me and I think this book is the poorer for its tone, which I think sits closer to some of the writers from the aughts/2010s she references e.g. Jessica Valenti.
I did like the discussion around how we shouldnt always have to know what it is we want and that there is excitement and eroticism in that unknowing. Also had never really thought about arousal and how it is conflated with desire.
I did like the discussion around how we shouldnt always have to know what it is we want and that there is excitement and eroticism in that unknowing. Also had never really thought about arousal and how it is conflated with desire.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Rape and Sexual assault
thesinginglights's review against another edition
5.0
There's a lot to say that would do this book a disservice to explain but it does well to be very even-handed considering the sensitivity of the subject. Divided into four sections, we explore, desire, consent, arousal, and vulnerability.
One of the most interesting aspects was the distinction making throughout: that we should not bundle up desire and consent, for one can be present without the other. Failing to separate them means we give ground to the outright dismissal of sex workers who people often wish to create more protections for.
Further to that, it carefully dismantle the idea that sexuality is linear and forthright, something that (mostly) women need to reclaim and be confident in. But many people don't know what they want and sometimes can't know, sometimes until you are in the situation. Then comes the question of safety, second-guessing, trust, understanding. Part of that is in the act itself, in not knowing.
This is my very bad way of summarising key ideas that have stuck with me but it's a very, very fascinating book. Recommended.
One of the most interesting aspects was the distinction making throughout: that we should not bundle up desire and consent, for one can be present without the other. Failing to separate them means we give ground to the outright dismissal of sex workers who people often wish to create more protections for.
Further to that, it carefully dismantle the idea that sexuality is linear and forthright, something that (mostly) women need to reclaim and be confident in. But many people don't know what they want and sometimes can't know, sometimes until you are in the situation. Then comes the question of safety, second-guessing, trust, understanding. Part of that is in the act itself, in not knowing.
This is my very bad way of summarising key ideas that have stuck with me but it's a very, very fascinating book. Recommended.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Racism, Rape, Sexism, and Sexual assault
mari_books's review against another edition
I really wanted to enjoy this book, it was recommended by a content creator I like, but I just could not get into it fully. Parts what the author described were fantastic, and so refreshing to see these individual experiences that are actually cultural phenomenon but down on paper. But, at times I failed to find the central thesis and the book fell into its own trap of questioning itself, going on and on. Additionally, it did not seem to acknowledge the different realities (cultural, socioeconomic, racial) that women and their sexualities inhabit well enough for me. Stopped reading because I was bored.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, and Sexual harassment
leahlovesloslibros's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
3.5
This book was a great mix of feminism, science, and psychology - all surrounding the topic of sex. Women are constantly trying to be convinced that they should enjoy sex in the "right way," which typically equates to what men actually envision as being the right way. Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again uses the crossover between science and psychology to explain consent, assault, and desire in the era of Me-Too and feminism.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual content
Moderate: Cursing and Racism
madsbeth's review against another edition
challenging
informative
medium-paced
4.0
I wish this book took a more intersectional approach. Sure, the author included the occasion statistic on how Black women experience the world differently than White women, but White, heterosexual, cisgender women were largely the focus of the book. That being said, there was still plenty in here that was thought provoking and challenged hegemonic ideas about sex and sexual assault.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Rape, Sexual assault, and Sexual harassment
littlemaddi's review against another edition
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.5
Content Warnings
Moderate: Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence
anastazija's review against another edition
dark
informative
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Noodzakelijke literatuur
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, and Toxic relationship
samothraces's review against another edition
challenging
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Misogyny, Rape, and Sexual assault
noahee's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.5
Content Warnings
Minor: Sexual assault and Sexual harassment
hadleym12's review against another edition
challenging
hopeful
informative
fast-paced
3.5
this book is successful in exposing the failures of most modern consent discourse specifically where it places the burden of preventing sexual violence on women, just in new progressive sounding ways. i especially like the consideration that the notion of consent cannot and does not adequately cover various power imbalances that occur between any individuals entering into a sexual encounter. failing to see how these imbalances result in uncertainty and miscommunication while relying on either negation/force or affirmative/enthusiastic yes to indicate consent is setting vulnerable people up to be gaslit or denied a right to feel violated or in pain. where this book challenged mainstream consent discourse and the pathologization of female sexuality i was impressed. unfortunately i think the failure of this book was a major one in its adherence to a white cishet perspective. some attempts are made to work in the different issues women of color face but it is done as almost a footnote to the main narrative, as if to suggest that women of color have the exact same experience as white women just worse in some ways rather than white supremacy being an integral part of rape culture and conversations about consent/sexual relationships. similarly, a few times attention is brought to the unique experiences of sex workers but little is said about the sex trade as an industry. i wish more was said about what the sex trade reveals about the nature of consent for everyone in and outside the trade. most obvious and disappointingly absent was the consideration of lgbt+ identities. leaving that conversation for someone else to uncover would be a fine choice if it wasn’t for the bioessentialism and cisnormativity. the assumption that there is some fundamental difference between men (people with penises) and women (people with vaginas) goes dangerously unchallenged. and worse, discussions of sexual violence are centered around cis women, ignoring or even excluding trans women from consideration. i don’t believe that the author is a terf or otherwise discriminatory towards trans people, rather i think this lack of consideration comes from ignorance and an unwillingness to grapple what seems to be a daunting can of worms. overall i think the conclusions of the book are still mostly sound but when the bioessentialism and cisnormativity appear it is an unfortunate distraction. my final problem is that towards the end, in the chapter “on vulnerability” i think the author is lost a bit in their own imaginary utopia of what sex is/should be, so that the final conclusions are a lot less grounded than the rest of the book. there is an unpleasant back and forth between the empowering potential of vulnerability and the reality of sexual violence, and the contradiction between these things goes unresolved. the ending of the book especially suffers from a lack of consideration for people of color and for those in the sex trade who are especially unable to open up to vulnerability in the way the author describes. i think she is aware that this conflict is unresolved and i don’t expect her to have all the answers, i just wish there was something to take away that wasn’t just “sex would be so good if we could trust people not to be violent.” ultimately i think the notion of vulnerability is a powerful one to explore especially as an alternative to strict consent culture but a more thorough explanation of what it would mean in the real world and how it can be implemented is necessary.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Sexual content
Minor: Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence