jeremiglio's review against another edition
1.0
I'm about 1/3 of the way in, having started reading purely out of morbid curiosity as a happily married woman who was lucky enough to meet my perfect partner aged 22. And there's no fucking way I'm reading any more of it.
My problems with it are, principally:
1. it's extremely whiny and clearly personal for the author. It's fine that she has regrets, but generalising from this and cherry-picking other anecdotal evidence is dumb. Which brings me to
2. it completely ignores the idea that some women may be ok with not getting married or having kids. Seriously - if I hadn't met anyone who enhanced my life as much as my partner does, I'd happily have taken on the role of mad spinster aunt with heaps of spare money and time. We do exist, even if Gottlieb thinks we're just in denial (and she claims to be a feminist lol)
3. it assumes that gender roles, re. for example sharing childcare and income, are innate, which is so problematic and plain WRONG I don't even know where to start (again, 'feminist' lmfao)
4. it repeats the same basic premise over and over. The female fertility window is narrow. If we want kids we may need to compromise. I didn't need 300 pages to tell me that.
Tl;dr - EUW. Sexist, poorly-researched garbage
My problems with it are, principally:
1. it's extremely whiny and clearly personal for the author. It's fine that she has regrets, but generalising from this and cherry-picking other anecdotal evidence is dumb. Which brings me to
2. it completely ignores the idea that some women may be ok with not getting married or having kids. Seriously - if I hadn't met anyone who enhanced my life as much as my partner does, I'd happily have taken on the role of mad spinster aunt with heaps of spare money and time. We do exist, even if Gottlieb thinks we're just in denial (and she claims to be a feminist lol)
3. it assumes that gender roles, re. for example sharing childcare and income, are innate, which is so problematic and plain WRONG I don't even know where to start (again, 'feminist' lmfao)
4. it repeats the same basic premise over and over. The female fertility window is narrow. If we want kids we may need to compromise. I didn't need 300 pages to tell me that.
Tl;dr - EUW. Sexist, poorly-researched garbage
mandiewoodson's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
fast-paced
4.0
bookitmik's review against another edition
3.0
I thought it was a bit repetitive but a necessary wake up call for young, naive perfectionists. Overall a good quick read except that I was depressed for weeks after reading it.
jennybard's review against another edition
3.0
This was an interesting read. Somewhat memoir, somewhat research, somewhat exploratory journalism, Gottlieb takes the reader through some particularly modern questions that women have when dating in the era where there are a million choices. I found myself wanting the book to hurry up, but I did enjoy each anecdote that came up throughout the text.
I found the language of maximizers vs. optimizers to be applicable to the world outside of dating and that gave me some good insight into ways in which people can view the world. Overall, this isn't a required read, but it is good if you are interested in psychology or dating.
I found the language of maximizers vs. optimizers to be applicable to the world outside of dating and that gave me some good insight into ways in which people can view the world. Overall, this isn't a required read, but it is good if you are interested in psychology or dating.
booked_bylaura's review against another edition
informative
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
emilyos's review against another edition
4.0
A great sociological, psychological, cultural and even economic look at dating and relationships in this day and age.
naomisbookshelf's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
fast-paced
4.0