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idesofmarch's review
4.5
Graphic: Child death, Death, Gore, Blood, and Murder
asacco9642's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Body horror, Child death, Death, Genocide, Gore, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Terminal illness, Grief, Medical trauma, Death of parent, Fire/Fire injury, and Injury/Injury detail
Moderate: Addiction, Alcoholism, Animal death, Cancer, Chronic illness, Drug abuse, Drug use, Gun violence, Panic attacks/disorders, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Violence, Blood, Dementia, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Murder, War, and Pandemic/Epidemic
susheela's review
4.5
Graphic: Child death, Death, Gore, Violence, and Injury/Injury detail
Moderate: Miscarriage and Murder
brucethegirl's review
5.0
I adored this book. I personally got a little squeamish about the more medical details involved in the embalming and generally preparing a body for viewing. How the mouth is kept closed and the like. But as Campbell says in the afterward, she never assumed what the reader could and could not handle. She let us make that choice for ourselves. The discussions had about death, about care of the body, about the realities every person will one day face, were all compassionate and gave an understanding that I've never had in my life.
"The first dead body you see shouldn't be someone you love. You should first learn how to distinguish between death and loss." It's not an exact quote, but easily the most powerful statement the entire book makes. Because its not wrong. The entire book discusses the difference between the natural end of life, and the grief left behind by the loss of a loved one. She talks about how many people have had a hand in their loved ones after life care because they were first exposed to death outside their loss. Grave diggers who buried their mothers and have already dug their own future graves by way of family plots. Morticians who have bled their parents and pumped in chemicals to bring a false sense of life back to their body in preparation for the funeral. A death midwife who was prepared for a worst possible scenario when she faced a complication in pregnancy. All are able to cope, to a degree, with loss because they understand it as separate from death.
There are some statistics going around recently about why women are the preferred gender for care of a body after death (do not google why). But Campbell mentions a similar statistic but gives an explanation I wasn't expecting. More women are taking courses for this kind of care then men. Ever since the shift in mortuary care went from simply the person with the body to the person handling bereavement. As society becomes less deeply religious, there has been a shift away from the church and towards the people in the business. There is more care involved with a funeral by people. Campbell reasons it might be because of our natural connection with blood, and life, that could lead to a more natural inclination towards that field. Certainly an interesting conclusion.
This book is just beautiful. I honestly feel like I could write an entire breakdown of everything she discusses. From prison executions to cryo-freezing bodies for a possible future. Every topic she discusses is poignant and I had to take mini breaks between each chapter to think about what I had just learned, and the new approach I'd just been shown.
My parents are beginning to age, the knowledge that I have a finite time with them is more clear now than ever. This book might not be for everyone coping with death. But it couldn't hurt to check it out if you are.
Graphic: Cancer, Child death, Death, Drug abuse, Gore, Gun violence, Miscarriage, Suicide, Terminal illness, Blood, Excrement, Medical content, Death of parent, Pregnancy, and Injury/Injury detail
old_man_niemand's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Death, Gore, Medical content, and Car accident
Minor: Animal death, Cancer, Child death, Drug use, Genocide, Gore, Miscarriage, Suicide, Terminal illness, Blood, Grief, Death of parent, Murder, Fire/Fire injury, and Pandemic/Epidemic
erinreadsslow's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Cancer, Child death, Death, Gore, Miscarriage, Blood, Medical content, Grief, Medical trauma, Murder, and Injury/Injury detail
savvy999's review against another edition
4.25
Graphic: Child death, Death, Gore, Miscarriage, Suicide, Blood, Medical content, and Injury/Injury detail
chilivanilli28's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Child death, Death, Gore, and Blood
burymeinbooks's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Child death, Death, Gore, Suicide, and Medical content
grimmauxillatrix's review
4.25
The author reads the audiobook, and the best parts are where she lets her reading get emotional. Otherwise, her voice is flat, like she's reading a paper in front of her class. She doesn't have a bad voice or an annoying nasality or anything, it just gets a little boring sometimes.
Graphic: Cancer, Child death, Death, Drug abuse, Gore, Miscarriage, Terminal illness, Excrement, Medical content, Grief, Medical trauma, Death of parent, and Fire/Fire injury
Moderate: Chronic illness, Drug use, Genocide, Infertility, Blood, and Car accident
Minor: Animal death
THIS BOOK DISCUSSES DEATH, DEAD BODIES AND THE AFTERMATH OF DEATH IN EXPLICIT DETAIL. THE SUBJECT IS HEAVY AND TREATED WITH APPROPRIATE GRAVITY AND RESPECT, BUT IT IS VERY DETAILED. IF YOU DON'T THINK YOU CAN HANDLE LISTENING TO AN UPSETTING STORY ABOUT A DEAD BABY, DO NOT READ THIS BOOK