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sophiewho's review against another edition
4.25
Content Warnings
Moderate: Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, and Sexual harassment
violetends's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
informative
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
This was fun, heavy, heartbreaking and empowering all at the same time. This was so well researched, phrased and structured that I don't really know what to say except that it does exactly what it promises and it does it incredibly well. This is a concise and at times painful analysis of consent, sexualized violence, gendered roles and experiences, political events, popcultural media, historical developments and movements and most of all, a clever and well-crafted answer to many (anti-feminist) rhetorical claims about women's positions and experiences around sex and consent. The author stresses that she can only speak on behalf of a very specific experience which is why she regularly quotes writers that have added queer and/or BIPoC perspective to discussions on these topics and I appreciate that transparency and acknowledgement.
I'm already looking forward to Katherine Angel's future writing.
I'm already looking forward to Katherine Angel's future writing.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Body shaming, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Murder, Gaslighting, Sexual harassment, and Classism
stevia333k's review against another edition
The book opens up with a literary analysis of a porno from James Deen's website where he asks viewers/amateurs to submit an application "to have sex with James Deen". James Deen is acknowledged to have over a dozen victims he SA'd come forward. So mind you he's likely the one writing the script that's being analyzed here as describing common experiences of pleasure & internalized slut shaming.
At 10:33 the author acknowledges she didn't do the legalism research, that she took the porno for face value. The problem is, professional regulations are you arrange for what acts what limits are involved before the scene starts. The fact the actress's face is on camera is ... Ugh. If the set up she talked about is actually non-fictional footage, then that would be a highly illegal set-up.
Point being, studios have to keep records of contracts such as ages of performers etc. Like every porn site has info like a Title 2257, and address for conducting business. The author could've prioritized getting the "real" information involved in shooting that scene. In fact, she could've chosen any porno scene filmed, she'd have a variety of studios to choose from. But instead, she treats the fictional movie made by a actor/director/editor with a history of abuse at face value.
This book is therefore unreliable as fuck! Lacking the context of how porno production is professionally conducted when you talk about an actor's/director's dangerousness & then choose a work by them to use for what's literary analysis, it's whorephobia, and it's definitely classist.
Seriously, we could've been talking about dealing with the contradiction between continuously-required consent & contractual obligations, but Katherine Angel doesn't even try to get the contractual information. She just wanted to do literary analysis on a porno in order to trigger people's sex drive when we're trying to talk about oppression.
So yeah, very I didn't know patriarchy existed until I saw segregation among brown people in Afghanistan when you're a normative white woman vibes. I call this conservative bullshit if not also neoliberal bullshit. Frankly, I don't give enough of a shit to waste good time after bad.
At 10:33 the author acknowledges she didn't do the legalism research, that she took the porno for face value. The problem is, professional regulations are you arrange for what acts what limits are involved before the scene starts. The fact the actress's face is on camera is ... Ugh. If the set up she talked about is actually non-fictional footage, then that would be a highly illegal set-up.
Point being, studios have to keep records of contracts such as ages of performers etc. Like every porn site has info like a Title 2257, and address for conducting business. The author could've prioritized getting the "real" information involved in shooting that scene. In fact, she could've chosen any porno scene filmed, she'd have a variety of studios to choose from. But instead, she treats the fictional movie made by a actor/director/editor with a history of abuse at face value.
This book is therefore unreliable as fuck! Lacking the context of how porno production is professionally conducted when you talk about an actor's/director's dangerousness & then choose a work by them to use for what's literary analysis, it's whorephobia, and it's definitely classist.
Seriously, we could've been talking about dealing with the contradiction between continuously-required consent & contractual obligations, but Katherine Angel doesn't even try to get the contractual information. She just wanted to do literary analysis on a porno in order to trigger people's sex drive when we're trying to talk about oppression.
So yeah, very I didn't know patriarchy existed until I saw segregation among brown people in Afghanistan when you're a normative white woman vibes. I call this conservative bullshit if not also neoliberal bullshit. Frankly, I don't give enough of a shit to waste good time after bad.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Misogyny, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Sexual harassment, and Classism
lesenilpferd's review against another edition
informative
reflective
medium-paced
3.5
Content Warnings
Moderate: Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence
jourdanicus's review against another edition
informative
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
The level of nuance Katherine Angel brings to the fraught topics of sex and consent is incredibly refreshing. I got a lot out of reading this book. It has already both cemented how I thought about sex and consent and further influenced my thinking. I imagine it will have an effect on my views for a long time to come.
Content Warnings
Minor: Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual content
thesinginglights's review against another edition
5.0
There's a lot to say that would do this book a disservice to explain but it does well to be very even-handed considering the sensitivity of the subject. Divided into four sections, we explore, desire, consent, arousal, and vulnerability.
One of the most interesting aspects was the distinction making throughout: that we should not bundle up desire and consent, for one can be present without the other. Failing to separate them means we give ground to the outright dismissal of sex workers who people often wish to create more protections for.
Further to that, it carefully dismantle the idea that sexuality is linear and forthright, something that (mostly) women need to reclaim and be confident in. But many people don't know what they want and sometimes can't know, sometimes until you are in the situation. Then comes the question of safety, second-guessing, trust, understanding. Part of that is in the act itself, in not knowing.
This is my very bad way of summarising key ideas that have stuck with me but it's a very, very fascinating book. Recommended.
One of the most interesting aspects was the distinction making throughout: that we should not bundle up desire and consent, for one can be present without the other. Failing to separate them means we give ground to the outright dismissal of sex workers who people often wish to create more protections for.
Further to that, it carefully dismantle the idea that sexuality is linear and forthright, something that (mostly) women need to reclaim and be confident in. But many people don't know what they want and sometimes can't know, sometimes until you are in the situation. Then comes the question of safety, second-guessing, trust, understanding. Part of that is in the act itself, in not knowing.
This is my very bad way of summarising key ideas that have stuck with me but it's a very, very fascinating book. Recommended.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Racism, Rape, Sexism, and Sexual assault
leahlovesloslibros's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
3.5
This book was a great mix of feminism, science, and psychology - all surrounding the topic of sex. Women are constantly trying to be convinced that they should enjoy sex in the "right way," which typically equates to what men actually envision as being the right way. Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again uses the crossover between science and psychology to explain consent, assault, and desire in the era of Me-Too and feminism.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual content
Moderate: Cursing and Racism
inlaraland's review against another edition
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
I picked up this book on a whim and can honestly say that this short piece digs deep into the subject of female sexuality. The book is composed of four sections discussing the subject of consent, desire, arousal and vulnerability in our modern era and how these topics have evolved from the past to present day. I particularly enjoyed how she saw a double sided point of view with each topic, portraying the positive and negative connotations that have intertwined with women embracing their sex and sexuality. I also appreciated that the author was clear in her text by pointing out that women of color and trans women have a broader and complex experience regarding the subject matter overall, and didn't try to override that fact with her analysis. In a nutshell, this is a pretty thought provoking read.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Misogyny, Rape, and Sexism
littlemaddi's review against another edition
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.5
Content Warnings
Moderate: Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence
hadleym12's review against another edition
challenging
hopeful
informative
fast-paced
3.5
this book is successful in exposing the failures of most modern consent discourse specifically where it places the burden of preventing sexual violence on women, just in new progressive sounding ways. i especially like the consideration that the notion of consent cannot and does not adequately cover various power imbalances that occur between any individuals entering into a sexual encounter. failing to see how these imbalances result in uncertainty and miscommunication while relying on either negation/force or affirmative/enthusiastic yes to indicate consent is setting vulnerable people up to be gaslit or denied a right to feel violated or in pain. where this book challenged mainstream consent discourse and the pathologization of female sexuality i was impressed. unfortunately i think the failure of this book was a major one in its adherence to a white cishet perspective. some attempts are made to work in the different issues women of color face but it is done as almost a footnote to the main narrative, as if to suggest that women of color have the exact same experience as white women just worse in some ways rather than white supremacy being an integral part of rape culture and conversations about consent/sexual relationships. similarly, a few times attention is brought to the unique experiences of sex workers but little is said about the sex trade as an industry. i wish more was said about what the sex trade reveals about the nature of consent for everyone in and outside the trade. most obvious and disappointingly absent was the consideration of lgbt+ identities. leaving that conversation for someone else to uncover would be a fine choice if it wasn’t for the bioessentialism and cisnormativity. the assumption that there is some fundamental difference between men (people with penises) and women (people with vaginas) goes dangerously unchallenged. and worse, discussions of sexual violence are centered around cis women, ignoring or even excluding trans women from consideration. i don’t believe that the author is a terf or otherwise discriminatory towards trans people, rather i think this lack of consideration comes from ignorance and an unwillingness to grapple what seems to be a daunting can of worms. overall i think the conclusions of the book are still mostly sound but when the bioessentialism and cisnormativity appear it is an unfortunate distraction. my final problem is that towards the end, in the chapter “on vulnerability” i think the author is lost a bit in their own imaginary utopia of what sex is/should be, so that the final conclusions are a lot less grounded than the rest of the book. there is an unpleasant back and forth between the empowering potential of vulnerability and the reality of sexual violence, and the contradiction between these things goes unresolved. the ending of the book especially suffers from a lack of consideration for people of color and for those in the sex trade who are especially unable to open up to vulnerability in the way the author describes. i think she is aware that this conflict is unresolved and i don’t expect her to have all the answers, i just wish there was something to take away that wasn’t just “sex would be so good if we could trust people not to be violent.” ultimately i think the notion of vulnerability is a powerful one to explore especially as an alternative to strict consent culture but a more thorough explanation of what it would mean in the real world and how it can be implemented is necessary.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Sexual content
Minor: Racism, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence