rainbow_reviewss's review
5.0
I have read Jason Armstrong’s first book titled Solosexual. It was a great informative and tantalizing read. In Getting Off the author goes back to the penetrative sex with the help of PrEP which opened the door again to bareback sex in the gay community and culture. The book discusses how a gay man feels to be again part of sexual contact with a partner or a number of partners after identifying himself as a solosexual for many years. Jason takes us with him in this beautiful, sometimes difficult but definitely sexy journey to experience his real and raw emotions without any outer cosmetics.
Right from the introduction I was hooked by the author’s opinions and ways of looking at the gay community and what male sexuality means and weights in our current times. Many of his statements about the clichés and the public’s negative opinions about men do make sense. I loved his openness about his worries, about whether those readers of his first book would feel betrayed now that he is going to engage again with other men in penetrative sex. I don’t think readers would have that feeling. Personally, I was very excited to read and see how things have turned out for him with all that.
Jason’s first time hiring a male escort is fascinating. He shows us the anticipation of it and then the vulnerability and insecurity when the time for the real action comes. All brilliantly written and explained. This shows that every experience we have can enrich us as human beings even the ones that aim primarily on sex. Then Jason goes on to talk about his first gay friend and his first time watching gay pornography. I think every gay man would be able to relate a lot to such experiences. His working experience at a video rental store really brought a smile to my face. I am glad that the author included his experience publishing his first book and how that made him feel emotional. The way he felt about that one negative review his book received is understandable, I am very happy how positive it all turned out for him eventually.
Mr. Armstrong then dives deep into his sexual experiences that include a partner or multiple partners. Be it the subway dancer, or the daytime orgy which he gives us all the hot details! The solosexual man inside him eventually wins and makes him leave that orgy party heading back to his mancave. His time at the bathhouse using his bating trick is something interesting. Definitely, a way to break the ice and encourage others.
The presence of PrEP today has brought back the 1970s era. The bareback sex is back. The author goes on to give his opinion about it and how it helped him in making his sexual explorations somehow easier now that he feels a bit protected. There are three chapters questioning love and where does it fall in a solosexual man’s life. I doubt if every reader would be able to agree with how the author feels about not feeling lonely. Solosexuals will be able to understand that for sure. Remember, we are all different and have different needs and the author conveys this message here perfectly.
Despite being a little shorter than two hundred pages, this book is stuffed. Not even once I felt that something that I was reading was there just for the sake of filling pages like many nonfiction books suffer from. Every single word that the author has put on pages comes from the heart in its most honest and rawest forms. This kind of honesty I sensed as well in the author’s first book and continues here too. I have tried my best not to make this a long review. I know I have not covered many subjects like the author’s PNP experience and the conclusion of these experiences but those are better left out for you to discover. Whether this solosexual man continues these adventures or returns back to his comfort zone where he finds his true self that is for you to find out. What I’m encouraging you to do is to read this awesome memoir. I think it is fascinating a lot and can be relatable in a way or another to many men, gay or straight.
Many thanks to the author Jason Armstrong for providing me with a free copy of this book. I am leaving this review voluntarily after being sent the book.
The Review
Right from the introduction I was hooked by the author’s opinions and ways of looking at the gay community and what male sexuality means and weights in our current times. Many of his statements about the clichés and the public’s negative opinions about men do make sense. I loved his openness about his worries, about whether those readers of his first book would feel betrayed now that he is going to engage again with other men in penetrative sex. I don’t think readers would have that feeling. Personally, I was very excited to read and see how things have turned out for him with all that.
Jason’s first time hiring a male escort is fascinating. He shows us the anticipation of it and then the vulnerability and insecurity when the time for the real action comes. All brilliantly written and explained. This shows that every experience we have can enrich us as human beings even the ones that aim primarily on sex. Then Jason goes on to talk about his first gay friend and his first time watching gay pornography. I think every gay man would be able to relate a lot to such experiences. His working experience at a video rental store really brought a smile to my face. I am glad that the author included his experience publishing his first book and how that made him feel emotional. The way he felt about that one negative review his book received is understandable, I am very happy how positive it all turned out for him eventually.
Mr. Armstrong then dives deep into his sexual experiences that include a partner or multiple partners. Be it the subway dancer, or the daytime orgy which he gives us all the hot details! The solosexual man inside him eventually wins and makes him leave that orgy party heading back to his mancave. His time at the bathhouse using his bating trick is something interesting. Definitely, a way to break the ice and encourage others.
The presence of PrEP today has brought back the 1970s era. The bareback sex is back. The author goes on to give his opinion about it and how it helped him in making his sexual explorations somehow easier now that he feels a bit protected. There are three chapters questioning love and where does it fall in a solosexual man’s life. I doubt if every reader would be able to agree with how the author feels about not feeling lonely. Solosexuals will be able to understand that for sure. Remember, we are all different and have different needs and the author conveys this message here perfectly.
Despite being a little shorter than two hundred pages, this book is stuffed. Not even once I felt that something that I was reading was there just for the sake of filling pages like many nonfiction books suffer from. Every single word that the author has put on pages comes from the heart in its most honest and rawest forms. This kind of honesty I sensed as well in the author’s first book and continues here too. I have tried my best not to make this a long review. I know I have not covered many subjects like the author’s PNP experience and the conclusion of these experiences but those are better left out for you to discover. Whether this solosexual man continues these adventures or returns back to his comfort zone where he finds his true self that is for you to find out. What I’m encouraging you to do is to read this awesome memoir. I think it is fascinating a lot and can be relatable in a way or another to many men, gay or straight.
Many thanks to the author Jason Armstrong for providing me with a free copy of this book. I am leaving this review voluntarily after being sent the book.
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