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enfrialf's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Moderate: Self harm
sophiebv's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
5.0
Graphic: Infidelity, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Suicide attempt, and Pregnancy
Moderate: Miscarriage, Self harm, Sexual violence, Suicide, and Outing
Minor: Drug use and Forced institutionalization
erint251's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Homophobia, Infidelity, Mental illness, Transphobia, Outing, and Dysphoria
Moderate: Death, Domestic abuse, Hate crime, Homophobia, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Abortion, and Suicide attempt
Minor: Eating disorder and Death of parent
karolinaz's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Body horror, Body shaming, Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Homophobia, Infertility, Infidelity, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Medical content, Grief, Medical trauma, Suicide attempt, Pregnancy, Lesbophobia, Outing, Toxic friendship, Sexual harassment, Dysphoria, and Injury/Injury detail
lixard's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
another is the conversation between reese & katrina about how race and gender and class intersect with motherhood, that women are not all given the same assumption of/decision for motherhood.
oh! and i loved the elephant metaphor, the wim hof method, the sex and the city problem, etc. just so much thought put into how each of the characters see the world. good on ya.
i have nothing else to add except that i wished we knew what happened to their little trio family :(
without further ado some quotes
“She’s suggested, in the way that naive cis people do, with a hint of self-congratulation at their own broad-mindedness, that it seems like trans people are starting to be everywhere, that maybe gender doesn’t matter that much. In his reply, he can’t help but let loose an old defensiveness on this topic. “I think it’s the opposite,” he says too sharply. “The whole reason transsexuals transition is because gender matters so incredibly much.”
“Yes and no. Some days I still love you and some days I don’t.”
Reese waited, sensing there was more. So he let her have as much of the truth as he could bear. “But the days I don’t love you…I have to work hard to make those days happen. The days I do require nothing of me.”
Graphic: Homophobia, Physical abuse, Self harm, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Transphobia, Violence, Suicide attempt, Pregnancy, Dysphoria, and Injury/Injury detail
Moderate: Deadnaming and Abortion
oliviareese's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.5
Graphic: Body shaming, Deadnaming, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Homophobia, Infertility, Infidelity, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Grief, Abortion, Suicide attempt, Pregnancy, Lesbophobia, Outing, and Dysphoria
lydiaie's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.75
Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, Deadnaming, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Homophobia, Infertility, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Physical abuse, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Grief, Abortion, Pregnancy, Lesbophobia, Outing, and Alcohol
thanmayi's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
3.75
This book is so beautifully written and is unapologetically trans, it looks at the darkest parts of being a trans woman, transitioning and detransitioning. I don't think I will ever be able to do this book justice when I talk about it. What I will say is that this is an important book, one that everyone needs to read at least once in their life.
I will emphasize going through the content warnings because this book has a lot of heavy content.
Graphic: Homophobia, Transphobia, and Outing
Moderate: Deadnaming, Domestic abuse, Miscarriage, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Suicide attempt, Pregnancy, and Toxic friendship
toofondofbooks_'s review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.0
I thought this book was overall, impressive. It is whip smart, funny, and often heartbreaking. It offers a window into a situation unlike anything I've ever read. The characters are complex and have diverse points of view and the dynamics between characters are incredibly interesting. The writing is beautiful and extremely smart - often a little too smart for me.
The issues I have with it don't necessarily have to do with the quality of the book itself and more with me. I thought that the book was going to be faster paced, and that we were going to see more of the interesting throuple-but-not dynamic than we actually got to see. There is a lot of backstory, which was excellent and told me a lot about Reese and Amy/Ames as people, but not a lot of plot to work with in the present day, which became frustrating for me toward the end. Ultimately, I think that this book is great, and reads quickly despite the slower pacing.
Graphic: Bullying, Cursing, Deadnaming, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Homophobia, Infidelity, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Racism, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Medical content, Grief, Abortion, Suicide attempt, Murder, Lesbophobia, Outing, Toxic friendship, Dysphoria, Injury/Injury detail, and Classism
Moderate: Pedophilia, Rape, and Self harm
allwaysbecoming's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
5.0
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Self harm, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Violence, Abortion, and Dysphoria
Minor: Suicidal thoughts and Suicide