Reviews tagging 'Sexual violence'
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself, by Nedra Glover Tawwab
3 reviews
throwback682's review against another edition
challenging
informative
medium-paced
3.75
I think this book could potentially have a lot to offer some folks, especially in context of other books on setting boundaries. I have a few problems with it but I also liked a lot of things. Some things I simply wish would've been covered earlier in the book, such as asking yourself whether your requests are reasonable, and asking yourself if you're trying to change the other person on an intrinsic level. In my mind, those should be basic reflections before you ever set a boundary, as a part of understanding what a boundary actually is, but in this book they were an afterthought many chapters in. I also think the author and I have different definitions of "boundary". For example, "Be home by 5:00" isn't a boundary. It's a command. An explanation I find helpful about boundaries is "Boundaries aren't 'You won't' but are 'I will'." Sometimes I feel like her examples blurred that line. Particularly the example about the family with the alcoholic dad; I felt the son was trying to make rules for his dad instead of set boundaries for himself. All that being said, some of the examples were extremely helpful. I liked how many examples she gave and how much language she provided for different scenarios. I also liked that she used both straight and queer couples in her examples, and that there was at least one passing mention that indicated she was not assuming that monogamy is the standard for every relationship.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Alcoholism, Toxic friendship, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Sexual violence, Infidelity, Child abuse, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Pregnancy
chilivanilli28's review
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
Content Warnings
Minor: Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, and Sexual violence
orchidd's review against another edition
informative
medium-paced
2.5
Content Warnings
Graphic: Toxic relationship and Toxic friendship
Moderate: Alcohol, Alcoholism, Body shaming, Sexual assault, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Racism, Addiction, Rape, Sexism, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Infidelity, Physical abuse, Sexual violence, and Suicide
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