Reviews tagging 'Gaslighting'
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself, by Nedra Glover Tawwab
3 reviews
throwback682's review against another edition
challenging
informative
medium-paced
3.75
I think this book could potentially have a lot to offer some folks, especially in context of other books on setting boundaries. I have a few problems with it but I also liked a lot of things. Some things I simply wish would've been covered earlier in the book, such as asking yourself whether your requests are reasonable, and asking yourself if you're trying to change the other person on an intrinsic level. In my mind, those should be basic reflections before you ever set a boundary, as a part of understanding what a boundary actually is, but in this book they were an afterthought many chapters in. I also think the author and I have different definitions of "boundary". For example, "Be home by 5:00" isn't a boundary. It's a command. An explanation I find helpful about boundaries is "Boundaries aren't 'You won't' but are 'I will'." Sometimes I feel like her examples blurred that line. Particularly the example about the family with the alcoholic dad; I felt the son was trying to make rules for his dad instead of set boundaries for himself. All that being said, some of the examples were extremely helpful. I liked how many examples she gave and how much language she provided for different scenarios. I also liked that she used both straight and queer couples in her examples, and that there was at least one passing mention that indicated she was not assuming that monogamy is the standard for every relationship.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Alcoholism, Toxic friendship, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Sexual violence, Infidelity, Child abuse, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Pregnancy
sakisreads's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
✨ Reread ✨
I remember feeling so acknowledged and seen the first time reading this, so I knew I’d need to come back to it. It is definitely a book that you can refer back to and take parts from over and over again, as it’s a great guide to setting boundaries and maintaining them in different parts of life 👏🏼 I know my material and time boundaries are the least well kept, so that will be something to work on with my friends 🥹 I also loved the line where it said ‘read for pleasure, not always to grow or learn something’, because I know I’m VERY guilty of getting in reading slumps solely because I feel I have to keep learning 😳
I am a huge fan of this book and would highly recommend it to ANYONE, whether you know all about being boundaried or whether it’s your first time hearing about the concept 🥰
Content Warnings
Minor: Abandonment, Alcoholism, Body shaming, Gaslighting, and Racism
ashleycmms's review
hopeful
informative
reflective
tense
fast-paced
4.0
Content Warnings
Minor: Alcohol, Death, Infidelity, Toxic relationship, Alcoholism, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Abandonment, Death of parent, Grief, and Toxic friendship
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