Reviews tagging 'Rape'

Mies tahtoo muuttua by bell hooks

7 reviews

eliotfyffe's review against another edition

emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0

I came to this book full of cognitive dissonance about how I fit into the feminist movement. I knew that feminism is the path to everyone's liberation- men and women alike, but I couldn't recognize how to define myself outside of patriarchy without hating myself and my personal male-ness. This book taught me to view patriarchy as the enemy, not necessarily men. She argues, like plenty of her peers, that patriarchy was co-constructed and is perpetuated by both men and women, despite men being rewarded with power by this system. She urges us to abandon the view that the ability to violently dominate others is privilege, but rather define it as the ability to love and be loved. 100/10 best thing to ever happen to me.

p.s. there is so much wisdom sprinkled in that has nothing to do with gender dynamics too- this book helped me move away from simultaneous grandiosity and self-deprecation (both self-centered outlooks), embrace radical empathy in all contexts, and gain a greater understanding of intersectionality and our current domination ethic

p.p.s. One major caveat to this book, which everyone that I've spoken to has agreed on, is that much like many leftist like to reduce things entirely to class, hooks seems to explain every social phenomena through gender. It could be me misinterpreting her examples when they're supposed to be prototypical, but that's how most people seem to interpret her writing nonetheless. Her thoughts on religion were also somewhat confusing and seemingly contradictory.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, and Sexual harassment

tmchopra's review against another edition

emotional reflective medium-paced

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Misogyny and Sexism

Moderate: Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Gun violence, Homophobia, Incest, Physical abuse, Racism, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Toxic relationship

Minor: Schizophrenia/Psychosis

notsosecrethistory's review against another edition

emotional informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Minor: Addiction, Incest, Misogyny, Racism, Rape, Sexual violence, Violence, and War

margozaldivar's review against another edition

challenging informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

3.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Rape and Violence

tessjx's review against another edition

challenging informative inspiring medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, Grief, Death of parent, Murder, and Alcohol

Minor: Racism and Rape

bellegrant's review against another edition

hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

3.75

It was a bit repetitive ( some topics are mentioned more than once with almost the exact same wording ) but other than that, this was so enlightening. This lifted such a heavy weight from my chest, it made me rethink everything i know and think about men. It definitely made me more forgiving of the men around me. I would recommend this to anyone.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Rape, Sexual harassment, and War

zombiezami's review against another edition

emotional hopeful informative fast-paced

4.0

This book was short, sweet, and gave me a lot to think about. I liked how emotional it was overall. The book was strongest in the places where hooks described her own experiences. Because there aren't citations, other than mentions of book titles, it was sometimes hard to know where the boundaries were between her opinions and data. Also, some points haven't aged well, specifically with how the author discusses gender in binary terms. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Misogyny and Sexism

Moderate: Ableism, Incest, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, and Sexual violence

Minor: Addiction, Homophobia, Infidelity, Physical abuse, Suicide, Violence, Medical content, Murder, and War